u/Active-Goat-3001

I’m 6 months along with our second and am desperately seeking a prenatal aqua aerobics class. For the life of me I can’t find one. I’m even willing to join a gym just for that one class.

surely in a city Milwaukee’s size and all our surrounding communities there has to be someone teaching a prenatal aqua aerobics class.

I need this so badly

edit: why is somebody going through this entire thread downvoting all my responses? like seriously. just move on if you have nothing helpful to contribute

I didn’t know what flair to use but I guess since she’s 2 that’s what we’ll go with. Apologies in advance for length- my brain is spiraling and swirling.

Yesterday we had our 30 month check up. Brought up behavioral concerns with the pediatrician about struggling with sitting still or walking calmly. Pediatrician reassured us these are completely normal for her age and that from what was tested and observed in her office kiddo is actually doing really well. Pediatrician did comment that kid is developmentally about 6-9 months behind peers and this is attributed to recurrent ear infections/fluid in ears and resulting language development and balance difficulties. We had tubes put in about a month ago and kid has been in speech and physical therapy for about a year including birth to 3 and at the local children‘s hospital.

Birth to 3 was a joke. She got nothing out of it, except learning to grab things and yell “no, mine” because that’s what she saw the speech provider doing every time toddler tried to grab her clipboard or pen. physical therapy and occupational therapy through birth to 3 both said that she did not need treatment.

speech and physical therapy at the children’s hospital say that she’s doing great and will likely no longer need services by the end of summer.

But then we had parent-teacher conferences last night. They wasted absolutely no time telling us that our daughter is in urgent need of occupational therapy services and that she is “awkward” and overly emotional and severely behind her peers in speech, physical, and occupational development. they reiterated several times that our daughter has no sense of cause and effect and will hurt herself trying to do something without learning to stop doing it. she will get pushed and scratched by other children and continues to go up to trying to be friends with them and play with them, but unfortunately we are still learning how to give people enough personal space. It doesn’t matter how many times they hit her or scratch her (thankfully, no bites yet), she keeps going back and trying to be close to them. We are actively working on that at home every single day. Her teachers say that this is because she has no respect for boundaries and apparently cannot learn cause and effect.

At home when she gets upset about something, she cries for maybe two minutes and then gets over it and goes onto something else but apparently at school she is highly emotional and unable to control these emotions. They say they see her attempting strategies (like the deep breathing exercises I taught her or asking for a drink of water), but that she fails to be successful in implementing them. Apparently her peers all are effective in doing so, I guess, because she is getting an “urgent referral” to OT to try to work on it and all the other glaring issues her school sees.

The child who shows up at home and in her therapy appointments sounds like a completely different child from the one her teachers describe. It honestly feels and sounds like they’re dancing around telling me they think she’s autistic. Which is something we explicitly brought up with her therapists and pediatricians when she first had hearing and speech difficulties, but every professional we have seen so far tells us that she is not on the spectrum. Now here we are with her teachers telling us that she’s severely delayed and that they want her reevaluated and hinting that she’s autistic.

Obviously we’re going to get her reassessed by two different parties (the therapists who come to her school and the children’s hospital), but I felt completely blindsided and overwhelmed by this accusation. I cannot mentally or emotionally handle all of this and losing my mind going through this. I don’t know who to believe- the medical professionals who work with this all day every day or her preschool providers who see her all day most days.

Hoping there’s someone on here who has been in a similar situation and it turned out kiddo is neurotypical and just fell a bit behind because of needing ear tubes. please give me some hope to hold onto, because I desperately need it at this point.

TL;DR: Disagreement between pediatrictian/therapists and preschool teachers about need for services. not sure who to trust.