u/Acrobatic_Look_4943

How fast is too fast to go in a relationship? Should you say “I love you“ before you’ve even started dating? Should you ask them out on a date first? I feel like I’m overthinking this, but, I’m not sure. I just need some advice. We’ve been talking for a few weeks now, and even talked about going on a date, but, we call all of the time, and we always text each other. He asked if I’d want to be boyfriend and girlfriend, and I said I wanted to go on a date first, to see if we’d like it, spending time with each other, actually kissing, and cuddling, etc…

The thing is. I’m really nervous about relationships. Especially, ones that feel like they move too quick or are too serious right away in the first few months of the relationship. I just need some advice on how to navigate this. Please, and thank you. I am overthinking everything about it, and relationships, and even our friendship, and our relationship to each other. I’d really appreciate it.

For context, I (20f) am talking to this guy, (21m), and, I’ve been talking to him for maybe about a few weeks to a month-ish now, and we’ve gotten along great. so great. I really enjoy spending time with him, and he thinks the same as I do, and we want the same stuff, (i.e., dual income just us, no marriage until years later/if we even want to, both want to move to Japan, both want to travel, both want to just cuddle all of the time, (no sex, either), because I’m asexual,), and, it’s been so nice, and last night we were gaming, and he drank a little bit, and mumbled out an “i love you“ as we were gaming/i was ranting about a game, because he was just watching me game on stream, because he was really tired, and i wanted to keep playing. But, here’s the thing, though, too. I think I feel the same way? I do love him, as a friend, because, we are friends, but as a relationship, I think I do too? He’s so nice and sweet, and we’ve been talking about meeting up for ages now, and we’re finally going to do it either this Saturday or Sunday, (or possibly even Monday or Tuesday, depending on our schedules,) and I just don know what to do? Help? I really like him, but, is this moving too fast, too soon? Are we being too quick in relationship stuff? We’re not even together yet, though, we’ve talked about being boyfriend and girlfriend before, too. Lol. I think I’m just overthinking it, but, is it bad that I kind of maybe do really feel the exact same way about him, haha? Am I jumping into a toxic relationship?