u/Acrobatic-Dig-3805

Most of the videos revolved a set of dolls, and it was structured in the sense that these dolls were living beings roleplayed by the creator (assumed to be an adult female). The dolls weren’t like barbies or any popular doll I’ve seen, they had big heads and big eyes that didn’t bulge/were painted on. There were multiple of these dolls and they also didn’t have human proportions but they had super cartoony, human features.

One of the videos was about bringing them to Disney land/world and one of the dolls (a male doll) was being fed a churro. Every video had the same dolls and it was sort of like a “day to day life of” sort of video. The creator treated her dolls like her children, and her herself was actively a part of the videos (e.g; she was feeding them, carrying their backpacks)

I tried asking AI for help but it didn’t work, but here are channels that IS NOT the channel that I’m talking about:
- Come Play With Me
- Cookie Swirl C
- Gracies world

The dolls WEREN’T:
- Barbie dolls
- LOL dolls
- Blythe dolls
- American Girl Dolls

I watched the channel during 2017-2019 (estimated timeline)

I’m still unsure whether I want to commit to a bioactive enclosure, and the amount of bug infestation posts I see on my feed are concerning. I’m deathly afraid of bugs, and I can barely handle a cleanup crew (I currently have springtails in my temporary enclosure, however).

Clicked because of the title? Good, now I have your attention.

First of all, apart from it being *incredibly* attention seeking behaviour as no truly ugly person will post themselves on the internet, which we know is brutal when it comes to judging appearances. You should not be coming online for validation, especially on Reddit, on a teenagers subreddit where pedophiles and bad people can use your pictures maliciously. If you think you’re ugly you can deduce it by seeing how people react to you daily. If you’re ugly they will look at you with disgust, and it affects the way they interact with you. If you’re average, these things aren’t likely as to happen. It’s common sense.

Secondly, it’s okay to be ugly. In fact, for a few of these posts I have the nagging urge to call them ugly. Apart from how people treat you, there is NOTHING wrong being ugly. Cliche, but self love comes from within. You CANNOT sustain self love from an external, subjective view. Aesthetics and trends change CONSTANTLY, what people deem as attractive will change in the next 10 years or so. Your self worth is NOT based on your looks. One day, you will grow old and you will look ugly. Does that mean that you have no self worth? If people say that you’re ugly, does this mean that you have no self worth?

Moreover, beauty standards are different EVERYWHERE. Big ears and pale skin is conventional in China, I bet it’s not conventional in the US. Here is how beauty standards have changed across time:

https://www.foreo.com/mysa/history-beauty-standards?srsltid=AfmBOoo-ByYQZT_xttz90Y23mgifiOqJthkX-uIa-0__pkhvVl3QpVh7

Additionally, your body should not be some sort of device where you need to “upgrade” or “improve” it. Your body is meant for survival, not to look like Megan Fox for christ’s sake. Do you want to look attractive? Or do you just want to look like the typical influencer, and lose what makes you unique?

If you continue focusing on your looks, eventually you will probably attract someone who also focuses on your looks, and will probably leave you the moment you don’t look appealing to them. Shallow people attract other shallow people. By you caring a lot about your looks, you’re PERPETUATING this shallow fucking trend of people caring way too much about their looks to the point where they’ll die on the operating stable in the plastic surgery block. Looks matter to an extent, yes, but it shouldn’t matter above looking average.

I get it, I’m also shallow and I care about my looks. So this might come off as hypocritical, but the reason why I’m saying this is because I know the hole you will dig yourself in if you continue hyperfocusing on your looks. I’ve had eating disorders since I was 12 and I was so insecure about my looks to the point I covered all the mirrors in my house because I couldn’t stand to look at myself. I do not want you to follow the same path as I do.

Rant over

Hello! I’m East Asian (24) while my boyfriend (25) is South Indian. Although things have been pretty recent between us (however, we’ve been close friends since 14/15 before we started dating), I wish to know what it’s like for being in an intercultural marriage with an Indian (Yes, we’ve already discussed marriage and kids; we’re pretty serious about each other). I have no problem with being in one and my parents are alright with it, so the only issue really would be my boyfriend’s family (my boyfriend has told his father that he will never be forced into an arranged marriage lol). I’ve heard about interstate marriages being frowned upon in some families too so marrying into an entirely different ethnic culture must be pretty drastic and intense for traditionalist Indians.

My boyfriend is a Hindu and I’m atheist/agnostic, but I’m interested in Hinduism (religion in general) and I’ve learnt a few things here and there regarding Hinduism. Moreover, I’m pretty receptive of Indian culture (broad, I know) and I enjoy learning about Indian culture, politics, and everything there is regarding this aspect. Ergo, I think we will be fine on a cultural level (i.e; not many cultural disagreements/clashes).

I guess what I’m asking for is the perspective of anyone in an intercultural marriage, if you get shunned or if you ever integrate into the community, thanks for taking the time to read!