u/Accurate_Feedback687

I can’t get over the fact that she completely destroyed our family and as far as I can tell has 0 remorse for what she has done. I really loved this woman and looked through our old messages and I just don’t see at what point she just decided “you know what… I don’t give a fuck”

It’s been hard for me to rationalize because she made me believe she was totally against cheating. She talked about others doing it with such open disdain. We gossiped together about these things and she always made be believe that she was on the right side of things. Only for her to do it herself and then show 0 fucking remorse. I don’t understand at all. I really don’t. It plays in my mind over and over all the things she has said to me over the years and then I run those by her actions over the last year and I just can’t fathom it.

I think that’s what she really relied on. Me just being totally bamboozled that when obvious signs started smacking me in the face I completely ignored them.

It is what it says. I’m a history teacher by profession with a military background. I love to travel. Done some pretty interesting things and been to some pretty interesting places. I like to experience other cultures. I am open minded. I’m a huge nerd. Deep appreciation for many fandoms and even if it’s not my fandom I still love hearing about others! I like to go on adventures. I go back and forth between being an introvert and craving frequent social interaction.

I live in the Appalachian mountain range. Mothman and I went to school together. Pretty cool guy if you can get over the impending doom he brings.

Don’t message me if you are a scammer or some weirdo wanting to immediately launch into some degen lewd conversation. I need to be wined and dined first.

I’m a 31-year-old guy going through a pretty big life transition right now separation/divorce, adjusting to co-parenting, and trying to rebuild a sense of normal.

I work full-time (teacher + military background), and I’ve been fortunate to travel quite a bit over the years. I’ve always loved experiencing new places and learning about different cultures. I’m also a bit of a history fanatic.

Outside of that, I’m definitely a bit of a geek too. I’m into things like Lord of the Rings and Star Wars, and I genuinely enjoy hearing what other people are passionate about, even if it’s something I don’t know much about.

Lately things have been a bit quieter and more isolating than I’m used to, so I’m just looking for some good conversation and connection.

If you’re in a similar spot or just want someone solid to talk to, feel free to reach out.

I’ve never been in more pain in my life.

Relationship for 10 years. Married for almost 6. Two children. My wife slept with another man while she was on a solo vacation I was paying for.

She left a substantial amount of evidence around from physical evidence to behavioral evidence over the course of a year and I chose the path of high trust because I believed in her and loved her.

Over the last 6 months since I returned from my deployment she became increasingly abusive to me and whenever I came close to the truth she would gaslight and yell at me saying that my lack of trust was the issue… and that I was the problem for thinking anything was off.

She told me he was her cousin.

I’ve never been so devastated in my life. I thought she was perfect. I always thought she was a better person than me.

We are now in a contentious divorce. I’m staying strong for the kids and fighting for them since she threatened to take them from me.

I just don’t know how to feel better. How I’ll ever trust another relationship again. Sorry for the rant. I just can’t believe the person I loved and trusted with my life betrayed be so deeply… and then instead of seeking reconciliation decided that she would rather throw me away and destroy our family than seek counseling.