u/AccomplishedOwl2155

Met this guy on our first date. There is so much trauma dumping from him out of nowhere. He started telling me that I make him feel very safe and that he would feel bad if he lied to me etc etc. Shared that he is insecure and very scared of abandonment. He is in therapy and seems to be diagnosed with bipolar? He is a super touchy and physical person and insisted on holding hands very early on. The scariest part for me though, was that his eyes start zoning out and he got really drowsy after trauma dumping. He did drink and I ended up having to make sure he knows his way home...

Question is, how to say no to a second date? I dont know enough about BPD and bipolar and I do not want to trigger him

Went on a first date with a guy, we had great conversations. He opened up to me a lot about his past and told me he was a fuckboy and was really insecure about himself and still is now. Said he really wants to have deeper emotional connection with someone. He cried while he was opening up and I have so much compassion for him. He also said he is a more physical and touchy person but is happy to go slow. I dont really fully trust him cos he is pretty flirty. Conflicted about whether I want to meet him again cos on one hand our convos flowed very well but I feel like he might just be craving female validation?