AIW for wanting alone time ?
Hello Reddit I need advice:
I [26F] and him [21M] have been talking/dating since March 2026. Everything was going good, we were talking on the phone every day and seeing Each other most weeks (we are 8hrs apart so I drive] and we spent plenty of time together. Recently I had a passing of a family member and I’m really taking it hard, I asked for ONE day to be alone so I can drive back the 8hrs no problem straight bc if I was on the phone I knew it would be an argument and I just wanted peace. So all day he’s been scolding me about not talking to him but I was literally driving all day listening to my music in the car trying to coupe and I even texting him when I did I pit stop bc I just didn’t want to speak or anything I just wanted to rest my voice and be lost in my thoughts. He even accused me of talking to other ppl when I really was driving and I didn’t want to text and drive. He knew I was going to the wake today and he knew I just didn’t want to say anything bc we had an argument the night before and I just didn’t want to deal with it today bc I had a long drive and my cycle is almost on and I know how mean I can get and so does he.
So recently we were on the phone and I kind of got irritated because it took him a full 18 hrs to get it through his head that I’m grieving and in a bad mood and he then wanted to apologize but it’s the fact I had to repeat over and over again why I didn’t want to talk today. Also he gets upset that I don’t text him sometimes throughout my shift, my job requires me to talk to ppl literally all day so I can’t be on my phone and when I do text him he starts an argument. We’re on the phone almost 5-8 hrs a day sometimes ( yes he works but this is when we are either asleep or before he goes to work) and we are in each other’s company as well but I just want time to miss him. So now he’s upset I wanted to hang up and go to bed bc I wanted just silence, today just wanted to be within my own company. Am I selfish for wanting alone time for just one day?