u/AcanthaceaeOk4935

Got a match on a dating app. I thought she was super pretty. We hit it off over text; a lot of the same niche interests and similar vibe overall. We met up for a walk, and she was even prettier in person, like the way she talks and walks and everything. Just classy but also down to earth, has lived a very cool life.. we were only together a few hours but I’m pretty sold.

At the end of the walk, I think she was about to ask me to do something the next day and I (like a fool) said I was busy before she could ask. So I asked her out for a second date and she said yes, but we haven’t yet set a date. She’s supposed to tell me when works for her soon. Should I be like texting her casually in the meantime? I don’t think she’s a big texter. Neither am I. But I want to stay in touch and make sure she knows I’m interested! I’ve been out of the dating pool for like 10 years so idk. I think I’m overthinking this entirely. Any advice?

28M, she’s 26F

28M
Income: $142k base, ~60-70k / year RSU (stock awards vesting), TC: ~$200-215k
Nest egg: $154k in $QQQ, $30k 401k, $175 in my new HSA lol, $10k in HYSA (emergency fund), $5k checking.
NW: (including car etc.) ~$210k

Cost of living: $5k/month (single, I rent ($2300/mo), no debt, but I spend a lot..)

I have about $5k a month on average left over after tax each month, varies bc of stock vest schedule. But I can put that money away.

I want to start a family at 32. By then, my income should be closer to $320k (promo in-prog rn), and my mental model is that the extra ~$105k/$68k after tax will support the family part and I’ll still have $5k a month for investments.

I want to retire by 45. By retire, I mean just downsize my career and become a landscaper or something.

I’m bullish on my investments and expect 10% avg over these next 17 years. This would pan out to a $3.7m nest egg at 45. If I can earn enough mowing lawns to not touch it, it’ll grow and by 60, I should have adult kids and low expenses and be able to buy a beach house.

Feels like an airtight plan. But I want to check my bias. Rip it up Redditors.

I’m a 28 year old guy, single no kids. In good shape, people say I’m smart, clean history, motivated.

I work for one of the biggest trucking companies in the US right now, heading up safety and compliance programs. The pay is great (~$200k), and the work life balance is good. Lots of flexibility.

But I’m bored with the routine and I’m over the corporate grind, where enough is never enough in the career. I have plenty of money, and very little expenses. I don’t care about pay anymore, just enough to keep my nest egg growing and I’m good.

I want to go after something meaningful (what I do now is meaningful and saves lives, but I want to talk to people and have a more direct and tangible impact daily). I thought about becoming a cop. But I want more of a challenge, where I can be pushed. I looked into FBI training and I think that’s what I’m craving. Bonus points if I get to do some field work at the end.

FBI people: any words of wisdom?