u/Academic_Roll6490

Hello, throwaway account, sometimes in public I just put my headphones on and start full-on arguing with myself whole conversations and whatnot. English is sort of my second language and not commonly spoken in my country so 90% of the time nobody understands me anyway. It started with me doing it in my head when I was alone, but as it carried on, not actually talking out loud didn't cut it anymore. I have friends I can talk to, I regularly talk to people it's not like I'm alone or anything but I want to know if I should seek professional help.

Hi, throwaway account. I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years (25F) almost a year ago it wasn't mutual, it felt almost like I was abandoning her, but things weren't working out and the idea of marrying her was starting to feel like a prison.

Ever since then, I can say with confidence that I haven't even been able to talk to women. I get way too shy. I think I'm decent-looking, so I don't think it's about my appearance but I'm always waiting for a green light before making a move, and I just haven't been seeing one.

On top of that, I'm currently working 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. It's a temporary job that pays really well, so I'm sticking with it.

How do I get back into dating? I want someone in my life I can share myself with, share this life with but waiting isn't going to cut it. I have to make a move. What advice would you give? Thanks in advance.

TL;DR: Broke up with my GF of 4 years ~a year ago, been unable to approach women since. Working 60+ hour weeks at a temp job. Ready to start dating again but stuck waiting for signals that never come — how do I get moving?