Alright, so I have been planning to get my wife a new tattoo for mother's day for a while now and we started discussing it and looking at designs to try to put together to take to the artist. After a little while of discussing and looking over some different options and finding a few things she liked, it ended up being time for me to go pick up kids from school and she was getting ready to go to work for a few as she helps out a guy friend of hers who owns a company (whom I absolutely despise for various reasons including him putting his nose in our business and relationship on multiple occasions.) So, we decided to put it down for a few and we were going to pick it back up later tonight. Well... then she gets home a little bit ago and is all sorts of excited and starts to tell me that she was showing this guy the pictures we had kind of looked at and he just out of nowhere decided to take them all and put them into some AI platform that put all of them together. Low and behold... now my wife has this design that she loves, that our children and herself are symbolized and incorporated into, that this fucking guy pushed himself into being a part of as far as I'm concerned and now I have nothing to do with what was supposed to be a very close to home, sentimental thing other than being the wallet funding it.
Now, I didn't blow up on my wife or anything but I'd be a liar if I said I don't get visibly and audibly irritable every time this guy is brought up and in this specific instance I explained to her that I didn't care for the fact that now I am going to have to look at a tattoo every single day that represents my wife and children, that this fucking dude made himself a part of and pushed me out of. Now, I know... all he did was throw some pictures into some AI bullshit, that she absolutely loves it and I know the artist is going to alter the design himself and everything but there is still a part of me that utterly fucking hates this idea. Tattoos for me have always been a very spiritual and sentimental thing, from the designs to the meanings to the artist doing it... they have always been very close knit, tight circle, close to home kind of things for me. So I understand that this probably means a lot more to me than to a lot of people who just get inked up cause they like it. So please, as much as I don't normally ask the opinion of those on the internet? Am I being a douche about this? Do I just get the fuck over it? Cause she's acting like I'm being ridiculous and that it doesn't matter. But to me, having him be a part of something, even if it is miniscule, that is permanently being put in my wife's flesh and is something as personal as my fucking kids, utterly disgusts me and she knows it.