u/Able-Birthday-3483

I feel like my hair looks better a couple days after I’ve straightened it vs on the first day or so.

is it just me?

I washed really good like there was practically no oil on my scalp and applied my serum and heat protectant but this past time my hair was SO FRIZZY for some reason. I feel like after a couple days my hair is more oily and it runs down the shaft, if this makes sense and looks so much better. I got olaplex no 7 to put on it for now but idk what’s going on it just feels so much more poofier and big?

I dont straighten my hair but every couple times a year and don’t typically have this issue, it has grown out a lot and is now past my butt so maybe I just have a lot of hair? I also gave it a quick trim too so I know it’s not my ends.

it’s been a BUSY week, we’re getting ready to go to our hometown for a celebration of life.

I didn’t expect anything huge or extravagant just a break.

I wanted to go to church and surprise my mom for Mother’s Day and her birthday that’s on Tuesday since everyone is tight on money and it’s the least me and my sisters could do. we wake up, he showers and I make breakfast. I decide I want to take a quick shower and now we can’t get coffee because I took too long..ok

the whole time we were there my husband was nagging me to leave because he needed to do the lawn that he waited weeks to do and chose to do today because it’s the one day he can I guess. he refused to watch our son so I could play a CARD game with my mom and sisters until finally he went to the park with my BIL and my nieces.

when we got home he did the lawn (which I’m not mad about at all, I wanted him to do the lawn) while I got to clean the house, cook dinner, and deal with a screaming toddler who didn’t nap and had too much sugar. yay. then i bathed our son while he went and picked up our grocery order.

I told him how I felt about today and maybe we had different expectations and he basically made it about him and said he didn’t deserve me and now he feels like shit…?

he did get me a gift a couple days before which was nice and maybe I’m just being ungrateful. like I’m blessed to be able to do all the things for my family but idk I just expected him to go above and beyond today and step in a little more and idk not have me crying while making dinner for myself while he weed whacked our yard???

next year im getting a hotel and will hopefully be closer to leaving him if things don’t get better. I know it’s not realistic to be treated like a queen everyday but it’s one fucking day out of 365 and this is the second year where Mother’s Day just hasn’t been up to my expectations. Like it wasn’t a complete shit day and I know circumstances are not on our side but like idk it Also could’ve been better.

this is mostly a rant and idk I guess a way to get my feelings out to others who could possibly relate.

how do yall manage your feelings when your financially strapped or try and contribute?

it doesn’t happen often or else I wouldn’t be a SAHM but every now and then the unexpected cost comes up ~ this time it’s a funeral so we have to make a trip back to our hometown.

it’s doable but we aren’t going to be as comfortable as we normally are (which is a blessing in itself) but my husband has been working himself to the bone and I feel so bad about it.

I’ve posted offering side jobs as cleaning, pet/baby sitting, and whatever I can do but it’s hard because I work around his schedule and for other numerous reasons. I don’t need to do this, but anyway I can help our family out right now I want too.

I also can’t donate because I have an inflammatory condition where I take biologics and that restricts me from donating plasma but I would in a heartbeat if I wouldnt put others at risk to receive immunocompromised donations.

My baby’s birthday is also coming up so I feel really bad that he’s not going to get any big gifts, he will be celebrated but I have so much mom guilt about the gifts we planned on getting him because I know he would love them. He is getting some small items for our trip though but still.

i know this isn’t forever and I’m still very grateful to have everything we do but financial stress is the worst no matter who you are. anyway hope everyone is having a great Monday