u/AbbreviationsLow6906

I’m 17 about to be 18, I haven’t been genuinely full blown horny since I was 14, the situation that made me horny was also a situation that made me extremely uncomfortable

It was a 19yo guy, who never showed me his face, and somehow knew the right words aka “you know you like it” or something..

anyway. I haven’t been anywhere near that level of turned on before or after that. I’m in a current relationship (2yr +) with no outstanding problems, i find him very attractive and our relationship is healthy and steady.

I don’t know if not being able to get horny is because he doesn’t know how to turn me on or if it’s because I just can’t be turned on. Honestly this is something that I’ve had an insecurity for, for years. I do want to do sexual things, but every time me and my boyfriend try i don’t hardly get turned on no matter what.

I do have some odd kinks, I did have a thing for older men and “going against the norm” sometimes I had fantasies about doing it with the window open so maybe a stranger would see (ahhh) but I haven’t thought about kinks in a while because me and my bf don’t really try much. And before you say try new things, I have told him, but the time never comes up, and honestly i can’t take it seriously when we do.

I’m also a bit of a germaphobe and I can’t stand bad breathe, or breathe at all, or anything remotely gross. Kissing him with wet lips is even repulsive imo.

This is really all a bother and I feel fucking hopeless

I don’t really know what to do. My life isn’t that stressful, I eat well… uh i just don’t knkw

I’m 17 about to be 18, I haven’t been genuinely full blown horny since I was 14, the situation that made me horny was also a situation that made me extremely uncomfortable

It was a 19yo guy, who never showed me his face, and somehow knew the right words aka “you know you like it” or something..

anyway. I haven’t been anywhere near that level of turned on before or after that. I’m in a current relationship (2yr +) with no outstanding problems, i find him very attractive and our relationship is healthy and steady.

I don’t know if not being able to get horny is because he doesn’t know how to turn me on or if it’s because I just can’t be turned on. Honestly this is something that I’ve had an insecurity for, for years. I do want to do sexual things, but every time me and my boyfriend try i don’t hardly get turned on no matter what.

I do have some odd kinks, I did have a thing for older men and “going against the norm” sometimes I had fantasies about doing it with the window open so maybe a stranger would see (ahhh) but I haven’t thought about kinks in a while because me and my bf don’t really try much. And before you say try new things, I have told him, but the time never comes up, and honestly i can’t take it seriously when we do.

I’m also a bit of a germaphobe and I can’t stand bad breathe, or breathe at all, or anything remotely gross. Kissing him with wet lips is even repulsive imo.

This is really all a bother and I feel fucking hopeless

I don’t really know what to do. My life isn’t that stressful, I eat well… uh i just don’t know.

Me and my boyfriend have been on a health journey for 4 months now. We only make stuff homemade, always buy “organic”, more vegetables/fruit, less carbs.. etc.

well this has become a problem because my boyfriend is very picky and its also very time consuming to always make homemade meals when we both work and are both tired.

My boyfriend works for 10 hours loading trucks, and he doesn’t eat nearly as much as he should and we’ve noticed he is losing weight but he’s already been skinny before. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know what to feed him, he doesn’t like vegetables, he doesn’t care for yogurt, he hardly wants to eat fruit (he’s better with fruit than vegetables) and if I’m too tired to cook, cereal is all he eats. He never makes food for himself so all he eats is what I cook.

I really don’t know what to do.

Sorry if I made this longer than it should be.

short: My bf is very picky and losing weight because he doesn’t like to eat healthy so usually just doesn’t eat at all unless it’s cereal.