Technically we are ex co-workers now but we still partially go to church together. But since he first came into my job my friend has been convinced he's into me. When he came in, I was on break and my friend was on shift, he asked her for an application and that's all. Maybe 15 minutes later i get off of break and my friend goes on hers. Pretty much as soon as i get behind the counter he comes up, introduces himself and shakes my hand. We start conversing and he's asking me questions like how long have i worked there, do I enjoy it, and am I a christian(it was a christian company) as well as questions about the company like are we non-profit, where we get supplies, how do our machines work. He was telling me about himself as well, his past jobs, how he recently moved back home, his school/ career etc. etc. After he left my friend was beyond convinced he was flirting but i doubted it because first off, i never believe anyone is flirting with me. Ever. Unless you blatantly compliment my looks or ask me out, i don't think they’re flirting. And second, he's a rich white guy who just does not necessarily give the vibes of liking non white girls(which i clearly am) Anyways, after that obviously he got hired and he was not talking like at all his first shifts, unless I spoke first but, he would initiate conversation with other (female) co workers first which made me double down that he was not interested. On maybe his second or third shift my friend slyly asked about his relationship status in which he stated he was talking to a girl back in the town he went to school. Another reason why i doubled down that he's not interested.
Now fast forward a little, we become more chill, more work friends than just co workers. We would often talk deep relationship, theology, philosophy, and i would also inadvertently trauma dump on him a good bit lol. A lot of the time it was him being wrapped into mine and my friends conversations but also when it was just us he would ask deep questions or our convos just naturally progress that way. Fast forward some more and i quit that job but it ends up he goes to a church group at my church that I just started attending so he's not out of my hair yet lol. But in between my quitting and going to the church group is where i start getting the feeling he might be having some feelings.
So the first instance was me and my friend, who also quit that job, went back and visited. Me and my friend made a bet because, he's such a chill dude and we are very much not chill girls. We have kinda a crass sense of humor, we enjoy sarcasm, negging and getting specifically our male friends irritated/ weirded out. So we decided she should tell him that she bought him from his parents and he is now betrothed to me. We expected him to be pretty appalled or something, but no, all he did was smile, blush, laugh, and say "I don't think people can do that anymore"?????
The next situation was we went and visited again and i decided to make a sticker of an inside joke of ours with all three of our faces on it. Once again i'm expecting a some what weirded out reaction because we were like chill but like not friends, not quite close enough to give him something like THAT. His reaction was so the opposite that it weirded me out instead 💀 He bursted out laughing, blushed and was like "WOW This is amazing! How did you do it? This is great!" I swear, this guy is the most calm, composed, docile, gentle, slow to speak or act man i have ever met. I had never seen him get so hype about anything in the past 5 months i'd known him.
The third situation was i visited the job again( I swear i'm not one of those people who like can't get past a job 😭 they’re a local shop that needs the business and i really had to pee this time lmao) I walked in and when he turned and saw me he got the biggest smile on his face. Once again he's such a docile person he doesn't react intensely to pretty much anything that i've seen. Then he was immediately jumping into conversation which it usually takes a minute for him to warm up but this time he was right to the point. We kept talking for a hot minute even after our transaction was done.
I know this is a lot but the details are necessary and i really need to know peoples unbiased opinions cause like i said i don't think anyone is into me ever.
So this is the last interactions that make me think his feelings have shifted. I went to the church function but i arrived late and everyone was off campus doing a scavenger hunt. I was just kinda awkwardly lingering outside waiting for people to come back. When he came back he kinda just stood off to the side glancing over once and while for like 5 minutes. Then he came over and he was kinda back to his more quiet awkward self. But he was just starting back up conversation topics we talked about when i had visited him the last time. Then we said our goodbyes and he said he was glad i came to the event. Maybe 10 minutes later the event ended so i went to head out and i wasn’t planning on saying bye cause i don’t want to like over push and make it weird or anything but as i was leaving we crossed paths and once again, a big fat smile was on his face. I just said bye and ill see him next week but as i looked in his eyes they were hecka dilated. He has blue eyes but you'd barely know cause his pupils were so big. He said again, that he was glad i came out. When i made it to the parking lot I'd seen a friend so we chatted a bit which i was scared he'd come out cause we were right by his car and i didn't want a third goodbye but luckily he didn't come out until i made it back to my car lol. When i was pulling away i had no choice but to pass him and hoped he wouldn’t notice me 💀 But of course he did and one more time, big fat smile on his face as he waved to me. As i made it home he ended up messaging me privately through group me (earlier in the night he asked if i was in the group chat and i told him i had just joined for the scavenger hunt) It was just an encouraging message about how it takes time to find your people and I shouldn’t get discouraged and for the third time says he was glad i came.
Now. I really can not tell if this is just sweet friendly christian boy? or he's starting to crush or just see me as a closer friend now and not co-worker? I don't think he treats me all that different from other girls from what i can see but he does in some ways. Anyways, please let me know if i'm playing stuff up in my head or if he's being blatant and i'm just a dunce 😂