Maybe the reason Kataang never worked for some of us is because emotionally, it never felt real to us.

It’s my own very case.

And yeah, yeah, before the obvious response: ATLA is literally a fantasy children’s show. I know. That’s exactly part of the point.

Fantasy doesn’t mean every emotional dynamic resonates the same way. Some people love grand, destiny-coded, the larger-than-life devotion, the kind of love that feels mythic, pure, transcendent. The boy carries the weight of the world, makes impossible sacrifices, saves humanity, and the emotional payoff is this all consuming first love. That makes it till the end. The “you were always going to get the girl”. The “your first and only love til the end of times”. It’s appealing to some or a lot.

That never emotionally worked for me.

Not because it’s bad. Not because Kataang fans are wrong. But because that kind of love has never been what emotionally resonates with me. Kataang always felt too fantastical for my relationship defaults. Very much save the world, get the girl.

Let me repeat: my defaults.

And before people twist that: Aang had his own very real pain. Impossible burdens, grief, fear, responsibilities no child should have had. I understand why he loved the way he did. But Aang being a child matters here. A lot of that emotional absolutism and idealized devotion make perfect sense for his age.

I just couldn’t relate to it.

Young me absolutely self-inserted. Let me make that clear. I was a massive Zuko self insert. No shame.

Because what emotionally spoke to me was never mythic devotion. It was humanity. Messy humanity. Regression. Shame. Anger. Growth that isn’t linear.

Which is why he resonated so deeply with me.

And no, not in the lazy “you just like the tortured bad boy” shit way people reduce it to.

We all have eyes. They’re both hot as fck.

But the emotional honesty was always the point.

What got me was his humanity.

Zuko showed growth, then betrayed Iroh. Went back to Azula. Betrayed the Gaang. Struggled. Regressed. Then chose differently.

That’s human.

And if you grew up in dysfunction? That hits even harder.

I didn’t excuse Zuko’s actions. I understood where they came from.

As a child with a fucked up family, I felt seen. The mother wound? I felt that. The impossible family dynamics? I felt that. The grief, rage, shame, desperation for approval from people actively hurting you? I felt that. The non-linear growth? I deeply felt that.

Zuko wasn’t suddenly appealing out of nowhere. We spent seasons understanding him, which is why emotional beats like taking Katara’s lightning, waiting outside while she confronted her grief, learning restraint, standing beside her instead of demanding emotional validation? those moments landed to ME.

They felt earned.

That’s also what I think people misunderstand about Zutara shippers.

For some of us, it was never about toxicity. It was emotional recognizability. Walking beside your partner and not behind them. Not carrying them. Mutual footing. Love that feels chosen, not simply destined.

And yes, even putting my personal bias aside, I think Kataang was fumbled. The pacing felt uneven. The emotional payoff didn’t land the way the narrative clearly wanted it to.

And then Korra somehow made that worse.

Because if ATLA wanted me to buy into this grand, transcendent, fantasy-coded first love? Fine.

Let me buy it, but they fumbled BAD.

Because, then at least protect the fantasy you sold me in the first place.

Instead, Korra makes it feel like the veil fell.
The fantasy fell.

The mythic emotional payoff suddenly looks painfully ordinary. Messy. Strained. Disconnected.

And realism in relationships is valid but that creates weird dissonance when the original emotional sell was this grand idealized romance.

Like… so that’s what all that buildup was for?

That could’ve been a whole email. I’m sorry. That’s what it felt to me after I finished Korra.

At that point, even the fantasy loses some of its magic.

Which is ironic, because one reason Kataang already never worked for me was because it felt too fantastical to emotionally connect to in the first place.

So seeing the fantasy later fumbled without even preserving the illusion?

Embarrassing. Lol.

If I strip all the ship discourse away entirely, I think the truth is simple:

Young me saw myself in Zuko’s humanity far more than I ever saw myself in Aang’s idealized devotion.

Exhausted man.
I can’t catch a break.

I wanted to make this post for a while. And honestly, I’m not even sure it will stay up because I’ve noticed a pattern with the permanence and allowance of these kinds of discussions in fandom spaces. Every time someone tries to talk about racialized misogyny or the way Bridgerton frames its BIPOC characters, the conversation gets derailed, mass downvoted, locked, deleted, or not even approved to be posted in the first place. Which is ironic considering Reddit is literally a platform built around discussion. People are fine discussing “problematic” characters until the topic becomes race, white femininity, desirability politics, and unequal grace.

And every single time this gets brought up, the conversation immediately gets deflected. The second someone criticizes Penelope or Lady Whistledown, the response becomes: “But what about the men?” “What did you want, for her to be hanged?” “But what about Daphne/Eloise/etc?” And that’s exactly the issue. Yes, the men deserve criticism too. But why does accountability suddenly become impossible the moment it involves a white female fan favorite?

My issues with Penelope / Lady Whistledown:
What makes it stranger is how both the show and certain fans frame Penelope as a feminist girlboss while infantilizing her at the same time. She’s supposedly clever for using the very system oppressing women, but the second people point out the damage LW caused, suddenly she “didn’t know better.” And personally, I believe her S3 accountability/redemption arc was utterly disproportionate to the harm she caused. Please, let’s keep the whataboutisms that seem to plague every critique of her for another time. Specially because it tends to turn into a disgusting hierarchy of victimhood and some sort of scoreboard. Contextualized empathy right now. I beg.

Marina Thompson:
The hypersexualization and adultification of Marina, a pregnant young Black woman trying to survive in a society that would completely ruin her, was honestly disgusting to watch unfold in fandom spaces. She was treated like a manipulative mastermind fully responsible for everything, while Colin was constantly infantilized and protected. Some fans genuinely acted like Marina was going to permanently “steal” Colin from Penelope, and the amount of nasty discourse, misogyny, and moral outrage directed toward her was deeply uncomfortable to witness.

Anthony:
Anthony is another interesting example of how differently sexuality and desirability get framed depending on the character. Anthony spends 2 seasons openly sexual, emotionally messy, impulsive, and reckless, yet fandom and the narrative still overwhelmingly frame him as desirable, romantic, and redeemable. His sexuality becomes part of his tortured male lead appeal rather than something that fundamentally damages the way viewers perceive his morality.

Which makes the reactions toward Kate even more uncomfortable. Anthony can be sexually experienced, emotionally chaotic, and still retain softness and sympathy, while Kate (despite sacrificing nearly everything for her family) gets labeled selfish or “slutty” the second she openly desires something for herself.

And let’s also not forget the weird discourse around my man Jonathan Bailey himself. Some people genuinely acted like an openly gay man could not convincingly play a heterosexual romantic lead, which says a lot about the lingering biases people still carry around queerness, masculinity, and desirability. It’s especially ironic considering Anthony became one of the most desired male leads in the entire franchise. And JB SEXIEST MAN A L I V E !

Which honestly connects back to the broader issue here: fandom and media still constantly police who gets to be seen as desirable, believable, romantic, sexually appealing, or “worthy” depending on race, gender, and sexuality.

Kate & Edwina:
Kate is framed as more emotionally mature and sexually aware, then immediately gets labeled “slutty” or selfish the moment she acts on her feelings after years of carrying her family emotionally and financially. Edwina, meanwhile, is framed as soft, innocent, insecure, immature, and “done dirty,” while Kate (the eldest daughter who practically raised her) becomes the villain for wanting something for herself.

And honestly, I think that framing is harmful to BOTH sisters. Kate gets punished for carrying responsibility and desiring something for herself, while Edwina gets flattened into naïveté and immaturity instead of being allowed fuller emotional complexity too. Heaven forbid the eldest daughter carrying everyone on her back acts “selfish” once. Both were called every racial slur imaginable, by the way.

Colin & Benedict:
Meanwhile Colin sleeping around gets endlessly softened with “he was insecure,” “he’s young,” or “it’s part of his arc.” Benedict, on the other hand, often gets hit with gross STD jokes, “he likes it from behind” comments, and weird biphobic undertones tied to his sexuality. The optics of that are harmful too, especially toward bisexual people and the way bisexuality is still treated as something unserious, promiscuous, or inherently tied to sexual punchlines. And honestly, can we stop constantly showcasing bisexuality through threesomes?

Sophie:
Sophie’s reception has honestly been one of the clearest examples of racialized misogyny in this fandom. Before and after the season aired, she was getting called a slut, accused of being a “Mary Sue,” and held to impossible standards of perfection.

And there’s something deeply uncomfortable about how East Asian women are often expected to embody purity, softness, restraint, and perfection in media. The second Sophie finally gives into her feelings after all the emotional back and forth with Benedict, suddenly she becomes another woman who “should’ve known better.” The takes I keep seeing about her are very disgusting and disturbing.

The Beauty Standards:
Another uncomfortable pattern? BIPOC actresses are expected to be PERFECT from the second they appear onscreen. The amount of “there are prettier Korean/Indian actresses” comments is genuinely disturbing. White characters are allowed flaws and room to grow into audience affection. BIPOC actresses are expected to meet impossible beauty standards just to be considered worthy of romantic lead status.

John Stirling:
And the racialized weirdness does not stop with the women either. John Stirling, the ONE dark-skinned Black male semi-lead who isn’t written as a hypersexual rake, somehow also has to be framed as sexually lacking? I’m not an orgasm denier or hijacker. I do not need my Fran having explosive sex with John for the story to work. Sexuality ain’t working like that. I had her exact same issues myself. She can orgasm as soon as Michaela touches her hand.

BUT there was no reason to make John feel sexually inadequate either. Especially when fandom was already making comments about Hannah Dodd being “too beautiful” for Victor Alli or acting like he was not attractive enough to be paired with her in the first place. And let me be clear: Hannah Dodd IS absolutely a vision. That is not the issue. The issue is the implication that a dark-skinned Black man somehow looks “beneath” her.

And honestly, the optics of all of this together are uncomfortable. The BIPOC women are repeatedly framed as more sexually aware, more morally responsible, more scrutinized, less innocent, and less protected by fandom grace. The soft dark-skinned Black male lead is framed as sexually lacking. Meanwhile white fan favorites are consistently buffered with innocence, softness, romance, and endless nuance.

As a queer brown mixed woman, I cannot help but notice those patterns. And once you notice them, they become difficult to ignore.

I don’t need to read about: “so you wanted to hang Penelope.” The “you can’t handle complex women.” The “you act like the men are innocent.” The “you’re reading too much into this show”. The “it wasn’t that bad/ isn’t that deep.”

It IS this D E E P!

And because the show itself refuses to meaningfully engage with many of these racialized dynamics, the conversations end up happening through fandom reactions, subtext, optics, and recurring patterns instead. Which is why, with every passing season, it’s becoming more uncomfortable to me.

Id really like for this conversation to stay productive and focused on the broader patterns being discussed rather than turning into another fandom or ship war. This is not about “hating” certain characters, ships, or actresses. It’s about discussing how sexuality, innocence, desirability, morality, and grace are distributed unevenly across characters, particularly BIPOC characters and us queers, both by the show and parts of the fandom**.

And I won’t even get into Michaela here because honestly, she deserves an entire separate post of her own.

Not sure how many of us “Glad we weren’t canon believers” are here, but I actually love that Zutara never became canon. Because that disappointment got CHANNELED!

As someone who thrives on fanfic and the crazy ass talented writers out there. This means so much more to me than what could’ve happened on the show.

Let me elaborate. Stay with me.

And I mean that with all the GENUINE energy in the universe. I’ve never been bitter. I’m thriving. lol, controversial maybe but I’ve always loved what came of it.

First of all, we secured the baddest baddies writers in fanfiction.

Second, it gave them full freedom to go completely feral. No restrictions. No “stick to canon.” No fear of bad execution. Because it didn’t happen.

So instead of being stuck with whatever version we might’ve gotten, we got everything: politics, arranged marriages, diplomacy, slow burns, rewrites, enemies-to-allies in ten different flavors, cultural blending, darker takes. ALL of it.

I genuinely believe some of the best Zutara content exists because it isn’t canon.

And honestly? It also spared my girl from being locked into the underwhelming continuation that her character had in Korra.

Let’s be real: she was done dirty. For a character that was so ideologically driven and central to the war, her long-term legacy barely gets explored. She ends up as background presence, healer, “Avatar’s wife,” with little visible impact on the world she helped shape.

Now imagine that and tying her to Zuko in canon? Yeah… no. I’ll pass.

Because in fanfics, Katara actually gets what she deserves: agency, influence, and a visible legacy. She’s a diplomat, a political force, a bridge between nations and most importantly, still HERSELF.

They give her the silly statue she deserved, the policies, the impact. All of it.

So yeah… I’ll take thriving fandom Zutara over a canon version that might’ve fumbled her any given day. And boy did they fumbled.

As someone quite exhausted about the S5 should be x discourse and understanding that fans are *eager* to see Eloise shinning Ive to ask something: Do we even respect Eloise as a person? Or we just want to reduce her to her endgame plant man Sir Phillip Crane?

*Keep in mind this: she’s one of my favorite characters alongside Francesca, Kate and Sophie.*

Now. I love Eloise. And I’ve been sitting with her character. I know she a champagne feminist and I get it. I get her. I understand her biased for the ladies agenda. I see you E. I really do. But I’m quite uncomfortable by the whole Eloise should’ve been S5 just from the “well she can’t keep doing the same for another season” or “ we want to see her marrying”. These things can coexist by the ways.

I know in 2026 and the online chronicity moral policing makes us feel that perhaps everything is black or white, or red and green. And context exists the chat. But for a character like Eloise, I appreciate when these 2 I mentioned earlier coexist with also respecting Eloise as a human and as her own person. And I’m not feeling it. Not just yet.

There’s a difference between respecting Eloise as a person and reducing her to her endgame. And a lot of what I see repeatedly about her, every day, here, seems to forget she exists outside Phillip too. And I personally hope I get to see that. In S5, S6 or whenever.

What I find genuinely disconcerting is how relentlessly she keeps getting pushed towards marriage. As if the only way she’ll make sense is she ultimately marrying.

And this is a romance HEA against all odds show. Come on, she’s going to marry. But let’s please allow Eloise to exist first and explore her options.

You know what, let’s ask Eloise: baby what do you want?

Because, do we actually know what Eloise wants yet? The show hasn’t fully explored that. We’ve had multiple seasons of her questioning marriage, pushing against societal expectations, and trying to imagine a life outside of that structure.

So why are we so eager to override that? Why are we pushing her into that as “her fans” without slowing her to exist first and actually explore and have some sort of developed as a character that lands out swiftly on her marrying Phillip.

Whenever that’s marriage of convenience or not. You know what: let her hang with us gays, get her drunk, bring back the Eden of gambling at Lady Danbury’s, make her meet women from other classes. Let Eloise live. I think she deserves that.

Heck I want that for my girl.

Why she’s constantly being framed in relation to Phillip before her own direction is even clear? The pacing makes it even more uncomfortable. Season 4 hasn’t really dug into her arc in depth, yet the expectation is that she becomes the lead in S5 and ends up married within eight episodes.

How is that not a rushed resolution?

How do you go from “I don’t want this life”
to marriage in a single season without skipping over major development?

What about everything in between: her growth, her choices, her alternatives?

What options does Eloise actually have, within and outside her society? Has the show even given her the space to explore them?

Because right now, it feels like those questions are being ignored in favor of landing on a predetermined outcome.

Wanting her to end up with someone isn’t the issue.

The issue is skipping over her autonomy to get there. And I feel like some of these posts keep disrespecting her autonomy. Which makes me feel quite uncomfortable.

Whenever Eloise falls in love, make it feel like it’s an extension of who is and not just something that “corrects her” or overrides her.

Because, if not: are we really respecting Eloise as a human and her own person? OR we just want to box her and make her fitting to the ending that is married to Phillip so that she as a chat her feels more comfortable when she did marry?

💋 ♥️

I know this is a contentious take, so let me be clear upfront: I’m not trying to convert anyone into Zutara. I’ve been on this fictional of a fictional since the show aired and I’ll be forever til the end of my own timeline. These are simply my personal views on narrative direction and character payoff in ATLA.

Katara is written as one of the most ideologically driven characters in the series. She is a survivor of Fire Nation violence, consistently positioned as the group’s moral compass, and repeatedly shown advocating for justice, accountability, and social change. Her arc is not passive. It was NEVER passive. And this bothers me to no end given the continuation of her story in Korra.

It was always active, confrontational, and rooted in a desire to build something better for her people.
So the question is: where does that trajectory actually lead? What is Katara’s VISIBLE LEGACY? Where can I find it? Someone send me the coordinates for my Google map.

Yes, she helped end the war. Yes, she became a master waterbender and healer. But those are individual achievements. On a structural level, what systems did she influence? What societal changes can be directly tied to her? Where is the long-term impact that reflects the ideological weight she carried throughout the narrative?

Instead, her endgame repositions her primarily in relation to Aang. She becomes “the Avatar’s wife,” and that framing overtakes her independent identity. For a character who consistently resisted being sidelined, that is a noticeable contraction of her narrative scope.

And this is where the issue lies: what did that relationship materially offer her in terms of agency, influence, or legacy? Because from what is actually shown, the answer is very little.

She does not gain a broader platform. She does not visibly shape post-war policy. She does not become a central political or cultural leader on a global scale. The story does not follow through on the implications of her perspective. Instead, her role becomes adjacent to the Avatar’s, rather than an extension of her own arc.

Now compare that to a hypothetical where she ends up with Zuko. Not just as a romantic preference, but as a narrative framework. And I’m sorry, it is aesthetically pleasing. And we’ve to live with that.

As Fire Lady, Katara would occupy a position that directly intersects with her lived experience as a victim of Fire Nation imperialism. That placement alone creates narrative potential for systemic change: reform from within, cultural integration, and the symbolic disruption of historical power structures. It would force the story to engage with reconciliation not just as a theme, but as policy and lived reality.

Would it be complicated? Yes. Specially for a “children’s show”. But, that’s precisely the point of what I personally perceived from her character. It aligns with the complexity already embedded in her character.

And if not that, then the more coherent alternative would have been no endgame relationship at al. Allowing Katara to exist as an autonomous leader, defining her legacy independently rather than through proximity to power.

Because as it stands, she is ultimately defined by a man: Aang.

For a character built on resistance, conviction, and forward-thinking change, that outcome doesn’t feel like a culmination. It feels like a reduction.

She’ll always be Aang’s trophy for saving the word (which she made it possible) at the end of day. And I’ll die on this hill: Kataang is the happy “trouble-less/ painless/ less traumatic” ending for her.

My question is more about energy and dealing with my 3 main placements: scorp sun, pisc rising and leo moon while I’ve the 9H scorp stellium, 8H libra stellium, Capricorn 11th, Aquarius 12th. I think I’ve Pluto, Mercury and Mercury. Then Venus, Mars, Jupiter in Libra 😅. I feel kinda over the place. I’m exhausted with these I mentioned because I feel a constant pull and push, within my ownself. Wanting do more, larger bigger things, extreme fear of failure and un-accomplishment. Not doing enough in life. Trying to find my own purpose and not feel aimlessly. While sporting a quite wandering and idealistic mind. I day dream ALOT (this is part of dissociating I do due to childhood trauma).

I’m a 32 homoromantic bi leaning woman. I’m extremely introverted, inside my head to dangerous levels, day dreaming, escapist. Yeah, I also dissociate a lot. Thanks mental health and a lot of self isolation. I’m usually let down my people so I don’t bother outside my extremely small circle of friends. I’ve a good time with people I love and enjoy although they maybe know 3 things about me but once done I need about 7 months to recover so I rarely engage in socializing. Anyways, somehow I crave intimacy. Just with women. Btw.

I tend to be let down easy by people on the general. Specially because here where I live, my “circle” (job, friends of friends, etc) feels very performative and I find that particularly hard. Specially dumb and materialistic people, and the loud extroverts. Don’t mean to sound rude.

I get told that I’ve quiet but “you’re probably judging the hell out of what I say”, and that I’ve a “resting bitch face”, strong personality. None of these lies. I quite have a look when someone sounds like a particularly annoying person. Kinda like a very honest face, I guess.

I love love being around my patients (mostly children and neurodiv children) and I love being around my college students.

In case it matters:

MC (Midheaven): Sagittarius 10th

North Node: Sagittarius 10th

South Node: Gemini 4th

Career wise: I’m medical doctor plus 3 masters: clinical research, biology and speech language pathologies. I want to do something in childhood mental health (trauma specially) and my PhD in biology or neuroscience.

(Posted both charts because no idea which ones I was supposed to)

My question is more about energy and dealing with my 3 main placements: scorp sun, pisc rising and leo moon while I’ve the 9H scorp stellium, 8H libra stellium, Capricorn 11th, Aquarius 12th. I think I’ve Pluto, Mercury and Mercury. Then Venus, Mars, Jupiter in Libra 😅. I feel kinda over the place. I’m exhausted with these I mentioned because I feel a constant pull and push, within my ownself. Wanting do more, larger bigger things, extreme fear of failure and un-accomplishment. Not doing enough in life. Trying to find my own purpose and not feel aimlessly. While sporting a quite wandering and idealistic mind. I day dream ALOT (this is part of dissociating I do due to childhood trauma).

I’m a 32 homoromantic bi leaning woman. I’m extremely introverted, inside my head to dangerous levels, day dreaming, escapist. Yeah, I also dissociate a lot. Thanks mental health and a lot of self isolation. I’m usually let down my people so I don’t bother outside my extremely small circle of friends. I’ve a good time with people I love and enjoy although they maybe know 3 things about me but once done I need about 7 months to recover so I rarely engage in socializing. Anyways, somehow I crave intimacy. Just with women. Btw.

I tend to be let down easy by people on the general. Specially because here where I live, my “circle” (job, friends of friends, etc) feels very performative and I find that particularly hard. Specially dumb and materialistic people, and the loud extroverts. Don’t mean to sound rude.

I get told that I’ve quiet but “you’re probably judging the hell out of what I say”, and that I’ve a “resting bitch face”, strong personality. None of these lies. I quite have a look when someone sounds like a particularly annoying person. Kinda like a very honest face, I guess.

I love love being around my patients (mostly children and neurodiv children) and I love being around my college students.

In case it matters:

MC (Midheaven): Sagittarius 10th

North Node: Sagittarius 10th

South Node: Gemini 4th

Career wise: I’m medical doctor plus 3 masters: clinical research, biology and speech language pathologies. I want to do something in childhood mental health (trauma specially) and my PhD in biology or neuroscience.

(Posted both charts because no idea which ones I was supposed to)

I feel like walking contraction.

I’m extremely introverted, inside my head to dangerous levels, day dreaming, escapist. Yeah, I also dissociate a lot. Thanks mental health and a lot of self isolation. I’m usually let down my people so I don’t bother outside my extremely small circle of friends. I’ve a good time with people I love and enjoy although they maybe know 3 things about me but once done I need about 7 months to recover so I rarely engage in socializing.

Anyways, somehow I crave intimacy. Just with women. Btw.

I’ve Aquarius on my 12th

A Scorpio stellium in my 9th

And a Libra stellium apparently too

3 asteroids in Scorpio

I’m exhausted

I feel like my chart is a bit all over. But I also been like being quite introspective all my life and emotionally attuned to my surrounds. I’m very good at reading the room but due to other circumstances and preference I’m extremely good at telling people exactly what the want to hear (a way I had to do apply my own family boundaries and serving as therapist to my own parents)

I love being in my own head versus consistent socializing. In extremely socially anxious and I’ve just so much hobbies. I’ve never been bothered by being by my own. But I also grew surrounded by very emotionally inestable relationships. So I guess it’s kinda a defense mechanism too.

I do enjoy some rare interactions amongst my people (hobby meetings and my extremely close group of friends). But I end so emotionally drained it takes me months to recover.

In case it also matters: I’m a mental doctor and I work on research (1st masters), biology college teacher (2nd Msc) and a speech language pathologist (3rd). I’m a very science based person. But I love astrology. And I mention this because k work a lot with mental health (SLP wise) but I’ve never hard trouble being amongst my patients or students. I guess because I’ve clear boundaries and separation ?

A while ago I decided to check my chart. And upon reading about my placements. It makes so much sense but I’m still a bit all over the place trying to ground what this all means.

I really like being “single”. Meaning: I enjoy causality (the cough consensual causality). Elaborating: I like sex preference wise with women but still enjoy me , I enjoy physical intimacy with women and almost never with men, and in very romantic leaning towards women to. Basically men mostly for sex, lol object I guess. BUT, I can’t play house or have the whole married, dating and consistent relationship. And that’s on me. I love living alone. I love having my house for myself. That’s a lot of my own upbringing.

I enjoy being the one having to keep up mentally with people. So, respectfully, I’ve a hard time relating with dumb people. And “loud extroverts” for what matters. It gives me a lot of satisfaction being the one who has to keep up with the convo and the relationship. Which doesn’t surprise why I tend to prefer a minimum age gap.

In case it matters: I’m a homoromantic bi leaning woman. And due to upbringing I’m very anti physical intimacy towards men versus women.

So I guess all that to say: does my chart makes sense, energy wise, placement wise, why some of these things make sense?