u/69ingyourgrandma

I’ve never had one of these…they’ve been on my plant wishlist for ages, solely because of how my dad grew this beautiful tree.

Luckily for me, he’s moving and I was graciously gifted the plant so they didn’t have to drive across the state with a 5’8 tree.

He didn’t give me care instructions as it’s “a tree that grows. cut it, water it. just take care of it.” He’s the most casual and unconcerned naturalist/outdoorsman i know. everything he grows thrives, i don’t get it!!

This was just brought to my home ~45 mins ago and the placement of the plant is privy to how it was set up at his house. (Same orientation to window was well, has it possibly been reaching for more light at his estate?)

I do know I definitely need to give it a lot more support- there’s one 4ft. iron rod in the middle that’s definitely been grown over. Should I possibly trim it? I don’t know how to give a tree a haircut, or even if i should!! (if i choose to, is propagation possible?)

If this was yours, what would you do?! or leave it be?! I want to just leave it be… I’m feeling so many emotions about a plant right now, and I’ve done so much online/blog research, that has just led me to being nervous about fucking it up and scared i’m gonna kill my “heirloom.” Ugh! 😵‍💫

So, I’m here to ask the plant side of reddit, and curious if anybody has first hand experience/knowledge on these plants or even just plants of this size and stature…I’d kiss you on the lips for any tidbits of knowledge! (respectfully, of course.)

TLDR; how the HELL should I ensure this big boy keeps thriving? I have a semi-green thumb, and quite a few other plants. Never a “tree” or ficus. This is the oldest & most sentimental plant i’ve acquired, and I really want to give it the best life possible. Advice?

I live in southern Minnesota- Started these indoors from seed and my dumbass brought them outside WAY too soon, and i decided to just let them chill outdoors (no frost, they have gotten some nasty temp drops which they seemed weirdly unfazed by) i know they’re hardy and can be forgiving, so i decided to be lazy and have now turned my garden this year into an experiment. this is my first time growing veggies at my own house, without help of my green-thumb father.
i’ve only really grown houseplants and herbs. The tomatoes are in the white bin (yellow pear) and the right 2 rows on the tote lid (roma) the rest are 🌶️

Before i put the seedlings into these cups, THAT HAVE DRAINAGE! I’m not that stupid…
they were leggy and sad. after the repotting they began to flourish shortly after. I know i should not have left them outside, they’re like struggling but i have a feeling they’ll pull through? maybe?

coming here to the tomato community to ask… should i just leave them be and keep my experiment going? or is there any actual TLC i should give them? I don’t really care too much, i’m just having fun, but Ideally finding a way to encourage them to thrive after my abuse and bout of careless depression would be kinda neat. I don’t have indoor grow lights, so, there’s that. #lazytomatoer

EDIT: These cups all have drainage holes drilled into them, i’m not that new! haha

This is basically a vent.

I’ve applied to 3-10 jobs a day, mostly on company sites because Indeed is a mess, but sometimes Indeed when piqued.

Since march 26 with the exception of 1-2 days a week. (Mental health) I’ve been curating my CV and cover letters to match each position applied, I’ve landed ONLY these responses back, as well as 2 sales rep positions which i was immediately rejected from. (Shoutout to the no experience insurance rep position for the reject after a 2 hour phone interview!)

Kwik Trip, interviewed for 1.5 hours last friday- they have ghosted me at this point after telling me they’d reach out Monday to let me know whether i was rejected or hired. I had reached out tuesday after no contact…

A liquor store that pays 11$/hr won’t even respond back… after reaching out TO ME!

I’ve been unemployed since march had left previous job due to large pay cut and horrible ownership, i was having panic attacks daily & my nervous system was wrecked, nearly to a point of hospitalization. (Smoke shops can be abusive and exploitative, i just want a stable job I can go home and not have to work off the clock, unpaid holidays, NO OT pay etc… it’s hell.)

At this point, i’m losing my mind. What’s even professionalism anymore? Why do we expect commitment, communication and perfection from applicants when the hiring managers/storeowners can’t even give the same respect back?! This is so humiliating. I’ve done interviews before and some of the ones i’ve been rejected from were abysmal, or wanted to pay 11/hr for 50+ hours & holding three jobs under one title…(exploitation)

I’m about to be 25, I’ve been a general manager for multiple smoke shops for the past 3/4 years, a barista, as well as being an artist/seamstress.

I dunno. i can’t get in ANY entry level or management positions… I’m really to sell my feet. I’m heartbroken, discouraged and to be homeless with debt piling up. I can barely afford to take care of myself anymore. What’s the point? Do i fake my resume? Die?! I’m OVER IT!

I just want to know where i went wrong, im so depressed. Has anybody else been dealing with this? Does anybody have advice? Anything helps, I feel so alone and useless.