u/52Charles

Many years ago, a casual friend mentioned in conversation that I was a person 'who had suffered a lot from loneliness.' He was right, but I was astounded that he would know that. How could he tell? There have been a few other, similar occurrences in my life. I asked my shrink about it and she said that yes, everybody can do that - tell what others are thinking and feeling without plain words. I am painfully aware of what the textbooks call 'inability to interpret social clues.' I feel like I have been missing out, essentially *excluded* from what NTs take for granted. It makes me very sad to think that there is a whole world of knowledge and experience right next door, so to speak, that I'm not allowed to participate in or even know about or what it means or how it works. I'm feeling very sad and bitter right now. Has anybody else had similar experiences? Does anybody have any ideas on how to process/deal with this kind of situation?

Is there a way to quickly and easily delete duplicate books? I just now imported almost 2000 books from Dropbox, not realizing that they were already in Calibre. Now that I know that, I want to delete the duplicates but I don't want to have to slog through the whole database one book at a time. I've looked all around the menus but I can't find anything. Any ideas?

ELI5 - I think it's likely that everyone at some time has felt sad or lonely or grief, etc. Seemingly, if this goes on too long or appears to have too severe an impact on a person's life, they are said to be 'feeling sorry for themselves' and this is considered a bad thing. Why is it bad? Where is the line between a natural (ie 'legitimate') feeling and an excessive one (if that's the right term)? Is there a rule book for this?

I (M, 75) have for a long time had my sister (73) as my executor. Now, she has developed dementia. She has not been institutionalized yet but it's coming. Second choice as my executor is an old friend from uni but he's only a few months younger than I am. I'm single, retired, no children or even nieces or nephews, no real close friends (especially ones I would trust with this). I could get my lawyer to do it but he himself told me it would cost a lot of money. Any ideas on where/how to find somebody? I'm in Ontario, Canada.

I have always been a big Jack Vance fan. I must read the Alastor Cluster stories a dozen times. Rehialto (sp?) The Marvelous was a fantastic character, as was Miro Hertzl and Magnus Riddolf. Can anybody recommend a writer who creates a similar mood/world view?