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So, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half, and right before we started dating I was talking to/ had been on one date with another guy.

I cut things off as I knew I really liked my bf and wanted to explore that respectfully and we’ve been together since. However today a year and 4 months later, the ex talking stage has messaged me. I have no intentions to respond or do anything as I’m not interested whatsoever, but is this something I need to tell my boyfriend about? It feels kind of silly and unnecessary since it was only one date, but I don’t know if I’d want to know or not if he was in the same situation.

What should I do?

Tl:dr ex talking stage reached out, do I communicate this to my partner?

So, me (21f) and my boyfriend (22m) have been together for a year and a half. Recently this girl has popped up in his life, and they’ve been working together on events for his business. I’ve never been the jealous type but something in my gut just isn’t right about her.

I missed his first event but ended up meeting her at the second and she closed a curtain on me accidentally (?). When she came to apologise I was standing with a friend who she ended up turning her attention to entirely, ignoring my presence and eventually following said friend on IG before walking away. I thought okay weird and uncomfortable but whatever, I mentioned it to my bf at dinner the next day, he agreed it was weird, and later the same night he received a text from her around 11pm. I have never done this before but I had such bad anxiety about the text that i was shaking, so I asked if she was messaging about work or something else, I told him I didn’t want to know what she texted him as that’s his privacy but he told me anyway and it ended up being about something she forgot to give back to him.

Fast forward to today, some pictures from the event came out and there’s one of him and her together with their arms around each other. Normal, but it’s made me feel absolutely sick to my stomach. He never takes pictures with me, only of me, it’s like pulling teeth, I asked for him to go to a photobooth with me for my birthday, that’s it and he said no. I’m so confused and hurt and just so unbelievably jealous and I don’t know what to do with myself.
I have never felt this way about any of his female friends before, not once have any of them being mentioned or otherwise made me feel any kind of way.

Mind you he hasn’t said I love you to me yet either, and he knows I feel that way about him, I’ve made that very clear. Am I absolutely insane for feeling this way? How do I even start this conversation with him, I’m scared bringing this up with just make him think I’m crazy and jealous but the anxiety is genuinely making it hard for me to even breathe.

TL;DR
I’m jealous of my boyfriend’s new work friend.

So for the last maybe 3-4 years I’ve noticed increasing hair on my neck. They’re dark, thick, black hairs that just never seem to go away. I started plucking and shaving them immediately but it’s gotten worse and the longer I try to hide them the worse my hyperpigmentation gets which just emphasises the hair I’m trying so desperately to hide. I’m only 22 and my self confidence has depleted almost completely, I have never been so insecure and I’m so young so it all just feels so unfair. Aside from the slight vent, I did ask my wonderful GP about it and all my tests came back with no answers, my testosterone is fine, from memory I had no issues with my blood tests aside from low iron.

My question starts here, I saw someone mention that insulin resistance and metabolism can lead to idiopathic hirsutism (correct me if I’m wrong, I’m going off memory here and absolutely not a medical professional). I’m thinking this might be the cause of my issue as I have struggled with a restrictive eating disorder since I was 17 and most likely destroyed my metabolism therefore affecting my insulin (??). Could this be a possibility?

And if so what the hell can I do about it, if this is an indicator for the rest of my life, it’s looking really really bleak, I just want to feel good.

So I’m curious what the current opinion is on wrist/forearm tattoos in professional work environments. Obviously it’s down to the personal preference of a company’s management and hiring teams, but I’m especially curious since I’ve just booked in for what I guess could be considered a “job stopper”.

I’m graduating university this year (journalism and film) so not exactly climbing the corporate ladder but still likely to be office based work. How badly do you think an editorial assistant/ editor (career I’m pursuing) would be judged based off of forearm tattoos…?

Especially as a young woman - not sure if this would result in harsher or lighter judgement/standards.

The tattoo in question is a pretty light ornamental design from the top of my wrist to the middle of my forearm so not a huge shaded piece.