Title basically.
I'm 30, wfh and still live at my parents home. I contribute financially and help with cleaning etc., but my mother resented me since I can remember. Long story short, I never had the chance to move out due to finances. Never managed to get a job that would pay enough, and am on top of that, of course mentally ill. Yey.
Just to clarify, I live in a village. Roommates aren't a common thing here in Eastern Europe, unless you're attending college.
Anyway, things have escalated lately now that my mother is retired. She doesn't have hobbies and sometimes seems to get restless because she isn't sure what to do with her free time. I avoid being around her, because every single conversation turns passive aggressive from her side. Over the years I tried to communicate with her, no matter if it was gentle or harsh, it never sticks. She just doesn't know how to communicate. Doesn't try, or acts like everythings normal minutes afted yelling at me. She's been like this my whole life, so I don't see her changing anytime soon.
I try to avoid her and give her space (my own bedroom is upstairs) but it's still a problem. She gets angry if any of my stuff is in a visible space (like my toothbrush in the bathroom). She also doesn't seem to understand that I can't read her mind or hear her through walls and closed doors. Which often ends up with her yelling at me for not doing xy, which I never heard her say, because she was 'talking to me' while I was eg. showering, doing dishes or was upstairs in my room. She just doesn't understand.
Today was another incident like that. I was upstairs in my room, only for her to barge inside, insult me how useless etc I am, then storm outside. I had no idea what was going on. Later I saw that she was doing yard work. Somehow she just expected me to come help her, except I didn't even know she was working outside.
Apparently now I'm 'banned' from downstairs. Meaning the living room and kitchen. Bathroom seems okay to be used. Any tips on how to turn my room into a place to live? I already spend around 12+ hours in there anyway. Maybe get a small fridge and hotplate? Though I'm not sure how to fit all that in a 15m2 room?
And yes, I'm aware how pathetic it is to have to live like this at 30. Any advice welcome.