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I, (26 F) just accepted a new job in an entirely new field of work. I previously worked 8 years in retail and have recently transitioned to a full-time position to a veterinary clinic. It was a very refreshing change and I’ve enjoyed everything about it. My new coworkers have been welcoming, and I’m learning so much about not only the new field I’m working in, but also about myself. I feel like I’m finally getting a fresh start after a nearly 2 year slump of living in fear and a consistent ongoing legal battle with my ex that limited my working ability. He used to show up at my workplace so often that I had to transfer locations for some sense of peace.

However my STBX husband (25 M) and I are coming to a close in our divorce, and things have been amicable these past couple of months. He is in another relationship (with his affair partner (27 F), so the focus hasn’t been directed towards litigation and we solely communicate only about our children. But recently our eldest child (8) told his dad that I have a new job.

This sent my ex into a spiral, and now at every custody exchange or doctor’s appointment since finding out he asks me what I do for work now, where I work and even states that I’m being paranoid, because “it’s not like he’s going to stalk me”. I told him I’m not comfortable sharing that information and nowhere in our legal agreements do I have to inform him of this.

Part of me wants to reach out to my attorney to see what I can do about this, but another part of me is scared he will actually end up stalking me over this as he has done so in the past.

So AITAH or should I tell him?

I, (26 F) just accepted a new job in an entirely new field of work. I previously worked 8 years in retail and have recently transitioned to a full-time position to a veterinary clinic. It was a very refreshing change and I’ve enjoyed everything about it. My new coworkers have been welcoming, and I’m learning so much about not only the new field I’m working in, but also about myself. I feel like I’m finally getting a fresh start after a nearly 2 year slump of living in fear and a consistent ongoing legal battle with my ex that limited my working ability. He used to show up at my workplace so often that I had to transfer locations for some sense of peace. However my STBX husband (25 M) and I are coming to a close in our divorce, and things have been amicable these past couple of months. He is in another relationship (with his affair partner (27 F), so the focus hasn’t been directed towards litigation and we solely communicate only about our children. But recently our eldest child (8) told his dad that I have a new job. This sent my ex into a spiral, and now at every custody exchange or doctor’s appointment since finding out he asks me what I do for work now, where I work and even states that I’m being paranoid, because “it’s not like he’s going to stalk me”. I told him I’m not comfortable sharing that information and nowhere in our legal agreements do I have to inform him of this. Part of me wants to reach out to my attorney to see what I can do about this, but another part of me is scared he will actually end up stalking me over this as he has done so in the past.

So AITAH or should I tell him?