Hi Folks,
I don't know the etiquette here, if there is any, which is why I'm asking for your input.
A few years ago, my daughter and I had a falling out. A lot of it was misunderstanding, and most of it was my fault. I own that. I apologized and she said that she accepted it but chose to go NC for her own peace of mind, and I respect that.
My younger son received an invitation to her wedding which is going to be later this year.
So, my question is, knowing how she feels about me, would it be right to send her a gift and sign it, or should I have my son give it to her and say it's from him?
Thanks all
EDIT: VERY LONG: Hi again, I'd like to thank everyone for your insights and advice, but there seems to be some confusion, and some people are getting angry or upset. That wasn't my intention and I apologize.
- I haven't tried to contact her since she chose to cut ties with me. I just want to send her a gift and didn't know if I should sign it because I don't want to upset her.
- I don't want to get my son in the middle which is why I didn't pursue the question about a registry. I'm not hounding him for any information or asking him to be a go between. I wouldn't do that to him.
- Someone used the word 'stalkerish'. I just want to send her a gift for her wedding after years of NC, so I'm not sure if that would be considered stalker behavior.
- I didn't expect an invitation to her wedding and I'm not trying to horn my way in. I haven't tried to contact her, nor have I asked anyone else to do it for me. I'm not thrilled, but I do respect her wishes, which is why I asked about giving a gift.
- Some folks were concerned about my son's unwillingness to share registry inf, and that concerned me as well so I asked him. He said that he couldn't answer because he didn't know. I misunderstood what he meant when i first asked him, and that was face to face.
- I'm not blaming her for anything and own my mistakes. She hasn't done anything that has to be forgiven.
- All of you who said that NC means NC are right. The fact that I was VLC with my parents and NC with my family didn't really click until I read some of the comments. All of you who said that I should just leave her alone have a point. You're right.
Thank you all again for your help