r/weddings

I'm (FTM18) and my partner (NB19) were just kinda talking about wedding planning. We do honestly have a long way to go and I'm fully aware of that however, I have a TERRIBLE Phobia of Jewelery. I can't stand it and I hate when it touches my skin. So Wedding rings, Bracelets, Necklaces, Earrings, and all things of the like, are a bust.

They're saying that if they were to propose or we get married, they wouldn't know what to give me. And honestly I don't know either.

Are their any substitutes to wedding rings that I can wear at all times to show I'm married at that point? I was thinking ribbons but im unsure.

I'm going to say something that apparently makes me a monster at brunch. The wedding industry is a scam. A beautiful, emotional, deeply personal scam, but a scam nonetheless. Wedding confetti. Let's start there. Tiny pieces of paper or biodegradable flower petals or metallic foil that exist for approximately forty five seconds of photographs. There is an entire supply chain, an entire product category, an entire markup structure built around those forty five seconds. And that's just the confetti. Every single element of a wedding has been transformed into a premium product category the moment the word wedding gets attached to it. The same flowers, double the price. The same cake, triple the price. The same venue, unrecognizable price. Why does everyone just accept this? Why do we watch young couples start their lives together already in debt and call it romantic? I have friends who spent more on their wedding than they had in savings. I have friends who are still paying off a single day three years later. I have friends whose marriages didn't survive the financial stress that started with wedding planning. And the confetti still went everywhere and looked great in the photos. I'm not against celebration. I'm not against joy. I'm against an industry that monetizes one of the most emotionally vulnerable moments in a person's life with zero shame. My sister planned her whole wedding herself, sourced everything independently, found suppliers through all kinds of channels including Alibaba, and had a beautiful day for a fraction of the price. You are allowed to celebrate without being financially destroyed. Someone just doesn't want you to know that.

So my best friend is getting married soon. I’m a bridesmaid, so I went on the bachelorette trip, which required me to buy a plane ticket, pay for the airbnb, and take off work. I also gave her a gift for her bridal shower. Her wedding is out of state (I can drive), so a hotel would have been required (luckily i’m staying with family friends to save money). I also have to take PTO for the wedding since it’s on a Friday.

I’m single and live on my own. They both do really well. I was planning on giving $50 to the honeymoon fund. Is that too cheap?

Hello Reddit please help us!!

We're hosting our wedding for about 110 guests at a hotel. The weekend includes three events: a welcome BBQ on Friday, the reception on Saturday, and a goodbye breakfast on Sunday. The hotel is providing everything for these events—food, drinks, linens, chairs, and service staff. The welcome BBQ will have beer and wine, and the reception will have an open bar.

The hotel has “recommended” a 20% gratuity, but it’s optional. In our case, that would come out to about $6,000 (for the whole weekend).

We’re struggling to understand whether that amount makes sense. When we go out to restaurants with table service, we typically tip 20%. However, two of our events are buffet-style, where tipping that much doesn’t feel normal to us. Also, around 40% of the total cost is alcohol, which makes the 20% gratuity feel especially high relative to the level of service.

More broadly, we find tipping confusing—especially when the tip is tied to the total cost rather than the level of service.

We absolutely want to fairly compensate the people working our events—servers, bartenders, and setup staff—but we’re unsure what’s appropriate in this context.

What would be a respectful and reasonable way to handle tipping for the venue staff? pls help!!

Edit: there is a 2% service fee that is NOT gratuity in our bill. we are located in california.

Hey everyone! Did you guys do the cake cutting, bouquet toss, and garter toss? Our wedding is 68 days away

I'm attending a wedding in 2 months. We know the couple as my spouse is close with the groom, but I have become friends with his fiancé (the bride) as we've spent more time together and bonded over common experiences. We were invited to their wedding over a year in advance, and we have RSVP'd yes and made our meal choices. Recently, I was invited to my close friend's bridal shower and it is on same day as the other wedding.

The events are too far from eachother for me to attend both. I believe a wedding is a more important event to attend, plus I already RSVP'd, so I'll have to miss the shower. I feel awful because it's such a close friend of many years.

Do you think that I'm making the right call? Maybe I should first check with how large the bridal shower is, because it may be more important if only a handful of close people are invited? If I miss the shower, is there something I could do to help make up for it? (I am attending the bachelorette in a few months.)

Thanks!!

When it comes to photo booths, what do you actually look for? What services or features stand out, what makes a booth feel unique or worth it, and what ultimately helps you decide who to book (or skip altogether)? I’d really appreciate any honest feedback or experiences!

I’m designing wedding invites, bridesmaid/groomsman cards, wedding planners etc for all my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.

I see that we’re pretty underserved with variety as a Christian community in picking out wedding items that don’t lead to the beautiful but very common verses and themes that are often seen.

I’m aiming for deep, authentic, and genuine thought out planners with scripture guidance leading to the day. Invites that are intentional in prayer towards your covenant being sealed, powerful to the team you have around you that’s spiritually keeping you strong, etc.

If you have any ideas you have thought of and want to see them come to life - kindly drop them below!

Any and all opinions are so appreciated to help me build my shop with the opinions of you guys!

I’m a hypochondriac and been working on controlling my anxiety. However, my friend told me a few days ago that they became a bit sick. It’s improved but they still have some congestion issues.

I have family members flying in from all over the world and I’m quite nervous that they will become sick, especially that we have plans after the party and everything. :( I feel so stupid to write this, but I am now panicking that I will get sick or some of my relatives and it’ll just ruin the whole thing.

Am I being unreasonable?

Cousin's husband is a reclusive man who got into a fight with her parents, and then cut contact with them and said he wants nothing to do with them, nor the family, just leave him alone. Cousin still is in contact and gets along with everyone fine, and her husband isn't against anyone perse, he just requested to be left alone.

What outfits are appropriate to wear to a bridal shower as a 17 year old? There’s no obvious theme and it’s supposed to be -10 degrees outside.

Literally any advice is so very much appreciated.

Hey guys!

Just wondering if anybody has had an experience having their younger sibling who is the opposite gender be in your bridesmaids/groomsmen lineup. My little brother has been my best friend in my entire life, and I don’t have a lot of friends so I feel like it wouldn’t be abnormal for him to be in that lineup. Has anyone else done this? :)

I'm looking for input regarding a recent wedding invitation I received. Some friends of mine who I've known for about six years are Jehovah's witnesses (I'm not) and the daughter who is about 23 is getting married in a few weeks. I had lunch with her and she's a lovely person. I gave her a card with money at the lunch and then she's also invited me to her wedding shower this weekend. I sent a gift already and I will attend with a card.

Here's my question, I got the wedding invitation a couple days ago and the actual wedding is on Zoom. I was a little gob smacked. The wedding invitation has a meeting password/ID. I was surprised as I had presumed mistakenly that I would attend her actual wedding. I am guessing it's possible that only JW members of their church can attend in person. She never mentioned it or brought it up so I'm not sure.

They are having an in-person afternoon reception for 4 hours following the wedding with hors d'oeuvres and drinks.

This is a new one for me! I would like to be there to support her, but my husband can't come. And suddenly I'm wondering what kind of event this will be. It doesn't sound like any wedding I've ever been to. I may send a gift with my regrets because I will get to see her tomorrow at the shower.

I hope this post doesn't sound critical. I'm more accustomed to weddings where you fill the church or ceremony venue, and then throw a rager with open bar until one am.

Is this the new normal?