Sometimes people deserved the pain they received.
I recall someone explaining to me why she was unable to leave her partner who was abusing her financially, emotionally, and physically on a regular basis. That in spite of all the reasons she could have left him, she stayed and continued to show him all the love she could give. In her defense, at least she knew she had done everything she could and had no regrets. She was waiting till she had nothing else to offer. And when that day finally comes, she may finally be able to let him go.
I just looked at her when she told me all she had been keeping inside. After a moment, I spoke and told her this.
"Do you not regret the years you wasted on a person who couldn't love you the same way? Do you not regret leaving, pushing away the people who truly loved you and wanted nothing but your happiness? Do you not regret that by the time you walked away from him, you'll found out soon enough that there's nothing left for you? No friends, no family, because you pushed them all away just to be with him. That maybe because there's nothing left for you to give, you might not be able to give love anymore to another person; the one who truly deserves it."
It was pure silence after that then I left her. We never saw each other again after that.
We were good friends, but I also reached my breaking point like the others. I realized there's no point in helping someone when they don't want your help at all. And there's no reason for me to continue being friends with someone who valued her abuser more than herself.
She didn't deseved the pain in the beginning but she deserved it when she stayed.
Would you have done the same thing?