r/twentyagers

This goes for everyone. As a 25m who actually approaches girls, a big obstacle is when she’s glued to her phone. So many of us want to be in relationships and nobody likes dating apps. That leaves meeting people in the wild. Waiting in line for coffee, walking down the street, just making conversation anywhere.

Every good date I’ve been on including my last relationship (2yrs) has come from a cold approach in public. My ex was literally in line behind me and when I turned around I blurted the first compliment that came to mind *because she looked at me*.

Obviously some people want to be left alone and that’s fine. But a lot of us would love to be dating and I think this is a bigger issue than people realize.

Even just for making friends. I just moved to a new city and I say hi to everyone, unless they’re buried in their phone. Put it away if you want to show you’re open to people!

Wishing you all a wonderful day :)

long story short I asked for her number and got rejected, but I saw her standing by herself at this social function I go to every week and I decided to take a chance. She seemed like the shy and quiet type. We talked for about 5 minutes and she seemed a little nervous. I asked if I could have her number, but I didn't want her to feel pressured so I made sure that she knew it was okay if she wasn't interested. She said "I'm okay" and I just smiled and told her it was nice talking to her and to have a great night. I walked to the sink to wash my hands and a minute later that same girl approached me and told me how it was really nice talking to me and that maybe we will see each other again sometime. I just smiled and said yeah I hope that we do and to have a great night. So that went pretty well even though I didn't get her number, maybe I should have talked to her more before asking for her number and maybe she would have said yes but I feel good about the interaction.

I want to say this isn’t targeted at everyone, but if you’re reading this and you know it’s about you… then you know who you are.

First of all, performing maturity isn’t cool at least not as cool as you think. Who are you performing for? Strangers? You’re embarrassing adults who actually want to go out and have fun instead of being in bed by 9 p.m. just because they’re “grown.”

Why can’t a 50-year-old enjoy a kids’ movie? Why can’t a married couple in their 30s go to Disneyland? What’s wrong with that? Miserable fucks label people as “Disney adults” like it’s an insult, when there’s literally nothing wrong with enjoying Disney. If it’s not harming anyone, let people enjoy it.

What’s wrong with being in your 20s/30s/40s/50s and going out from 10 p.m. to 6 a.m.? what's wrong with wanting to go to Coachella or concerts at the age? As long as you’re still handling your responsibilities whether that’s university, work, or anything else, enjoy yourself we only get one life.

Adulting doesn’t mean becoming boring. It doesn’t mean being miserable, staying at home all night, or giving up the things you enjoy just because you’re older. Fun has no age limit.

So stop embarrassing other people or acting like you’re better than them for choosing a “more mature” lifestyle. People used to want to grow up so they could have money and freedom to do whatever they wanted. And now we’re in an era where people shame others for actually doing that?

I never want to leave my 20s, like my 20s are just so me. Obviously, it sucks sometimes, but for the most part I kind of don’t want to be any other age group. Then again, I said the same about being a teenager... I’m sure my 30s will be fun too, I always hear that your 30s are like your 20s with money, but I just can’t imagine being in my 30s+ because I’m (get this) not 30+. I know this fear can be attributed to the consequences of a deeply ageist society but at the same time, I really do just love being in my 20s, as shitty as it can be. How do y’all feel?

Please prioritise your dental health ppl…but I’ll go first. I’m 20 and I haven’t been to the dentist in 2 years 🫣

It's just sad and embarrasing that I'm disqualified. Things just never happened no matter how much I changed myself.

I am 28 and fear wasted my youth

Whenever I was 22 24 and 25/26- I felt old and now realize those ages are young af and felt silly for feeling old and fear I wasted my youth feeling old

I also hate that 28 is lumped in/seen as the same as late 30s/middle aged people

and I read this too:

I'll be 40 in a 5 months. I'm pushing 40. I look back at 25, 26, 27... man I was just so young. But I felt old at times. I felt old because I started to feel out of place in the young bars and clubs I might have gone to in my early 20s. I'd still routinely interact with people in my early 20s, so I felt old because relative to them I was older. Your life changes more dramatically from 22 to 28 than it does from 29 to 35 or 35 to 41 (for most people). So if you're a 27 year old going back to College home coming, you're interacting with 21 year olds who are just waaaay relatively younger than you, you feel like you're older. Now a days and for the last ~10 years, my hang out spots have been old shitty bars filled with old fogies usually older than me, I'm way more likely to be invited to a retirement party than a college graduation party, so I'm "the young one" among my old crusty ass bar hops (except for one guy who is like 26 who asks like hes' 45, probably because he's hanging out with people who are all 40-45)

and I fear this makes me old compared to early 20s and I don't wanna hang out with old fogies

eeeyuck. I was so icky and insufferable. I wasnt a bully but I was a brat and had an awful cringy personality. When I think about it at night I'm so mortified. Atleast high-school was better and I was somewhat normal.

when covid happened i became a shut in and i havent changed since, im really shy and introverted and i get nervous when people speak to me irl :( i never really had friends or dated and i feel so far behind frim everyone else, my brother invited me to hang with him, his gf and her sister and shes one of those nice friendly girls and ahe would include me in their conversations which was really nice because im quiet and i couldnt help but feel jealous of her (not in a bad way) because shes the same age as me too and shes so pretty and outgoing and super friendly and i just feel like an ugly ogre next to other girls, i cant help but compare myself to other girls i feel embarrassed of my existence i rarely go out because of how ashamed i am of myself

I heard of people going to restaurants by themselves and they said good things about it.

I didn’t want to do it but I wanted to go so badly because I love steak but I have no one to go with so I decided that I would just finally allow myself to enjoy one of my favorite restaurants regardless.

I thought it would be a good experience but it made me feel like a loser and I felt like the staff was like “damn look at this guy alone, L guy”

This is why I just Uber Eats my food now and Instacart my groceries. I’m never leaving the house again unless it’s for work.

I want to share something that i’ve been experiencing the past couple months. As the title says, I am a 20 yr old woman and next month i will be 21. Throughout my teen hood i did not have any fun or experiences, i was hiding my face a lot with masks and i don’t want the same regrets in my 20s. As the countdown comes for my birthday i have this internal pressure that i need to be fit and confident like the people on social media/tiktok, Otherwise I feel so much FOMO, or i am “wasting my looks” or wasting my youth and i feel so miserable about that. It’s like im scared for the ticking bomb. I am even spending my birthday solo in las vegas for the “experience”, I hope that it’s fun but yeah.

A little bit about me:

24M, I live in the US. I work in insurance, started studying to become an actuary.

Some hobbies and interests of mine:

-Martial Arts and Combat Sports: I’ve been training Muay Thai and Boxing about a little over a year now, planning to pivot to judo or jiu jitsu (or both) sometime in the future

-Cooking and Baking (mostly baking, I like making desserts, like cookies or brownies)

-Reading: I’m a classic fiction kind of guy; currently reading Crime and Punishment

-Anime: Currently watching Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure, tryna finish part 6 so I can start Steel Ball Run lol, but I’m reading the manga to get ahead

-I also run and lift at the gym probably 2-3x a week lol

If any of the above piqued your interest or just wanna talk, feel free to comment or shoot a DM :)

quit cold turkey on sunday and lowkey just moved on w my life like i didnt feel any different

only thing is id go in my pocket looking for it

but damn the cravings are sooooo strong i cant even

Hello,

I am 26. I live with my mom and she pays for everything. My rent, a lot of my food, my phone bill, my car, you name it. Let me preface by saying I am very grateful for her. However a big reason why she does this is so she can keep me at home, she does not want me to move out. It’s taken a huge toll on my mental health.

I have a stable job in the suburbs, my coworkers are all older than me and have families, I’m the youngest one in the office and it’s not particularly close. I hate what I do, I feel like my future outlook here is very stagnant. However, in this job market I feel like I should just be grateful that I’m employed at a place that wants me.

Would I be committing life suicide if I quit my job and moved to a city that I actually would want to live in? I feel like I’ve already wasted my 20s living at home with my mom doing nothing, I have no friends pretty much. It was easy to save up money having no expenses, I could survive a couple years with no job but obviously I would look for one. Am I thinking too abruptly? I’d appreciate any thoughts comments and concerns