r/teengirlswholikegirls

I believe many know that black girls aren’t as ‘loved‘ within the queer community, however barely anyone speaks in-depth about how harsh it really is. Imagine liking someone but having to wonder “Do they like black people?”- whether or not they’re a person of color, that’s always a question. Imagine being told too many times that “I only see you as a friend”, and it gets to a point where it’s not about you’re personality but the color of your skin, it hurts, having to question if my attraction is true or a standard I’ve been groomed into. I apologize if this sounds like I’m venting, I kind of am— I’m so tired of living in these circumstances because of something I can’t control.

This happened a few weeks ago at lunch. She was talking to her friends and I wasn’t really paying attention to their conversation because I was talking o someone else and she comes up behind my and gives me a hug from behind and says “guys this is my bf.” Her friends giggled then kinda looked away and moved on with the conversation but like she still kept holding me. Idk if she likes me or if she’s just touchy like that with people but i always catch her staring at me and seemingly finding reasons to talk to me. And when she compliments me it feels so genuine cus it’s things that no one else really notices or mentions. I can be awkward around her so I’m scared I’m not showing her i like her enough. Also i should mention a few months ago she kissed my cheek. I cant really describe the situation but it wasn’t like in a joking it was very casual and sweet. Im not really that close to her so that it caught me off guard and i just smiled at her. Please help me what I do I don’t even know if shes gay or not. Sorry for the grammar

So, me and my best-friend (who will be referred to as A) stopped talking earlier this year. To summarize, she is conflict-avoidant and wouldn’t speak up about the group bullying me. This hurt me deeply, especially since I have stuck out my neck for her and lost friends over it (at least in the moment). Anyway, we had a talk, and A and I decided to stop hanging out. This was one of the hardest things I have ever done and not a day goes by that I don’t miss her. I mean, I still look through our texts every day. While we were friends, A used to make comments about us being together, and we used to say we “loved each other purely platonically” a lot. I thought this was a joke, and I was straight, but the more I reflect, the more I question. I always thought (and still do) that she is the prettiest girl on the planet and I loved to imagine us in stories and art. Lately, I have been making picrews with us and thinking about my sexuality. I don’t know if I like boys. So, (in your guys' viewpoints) am I gay and in love with A? Thanks!:)

I'm a girl but me and my bestie (other girl) are started to think that we are in love but we are not sure. HELP im feeling a lot of things amd I dont know what I should do

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Okay, backstory, me (17) and this girl (17) dated and broke up about 2 years ago, and since then we both got into relationships with men. Me and my boyfriend just broke up after a year and a half due to realizing we would be better off as friends. Romantic compatibility just wasn’t there due to reasons on his end, and the fact that I realized I loved him more platonically and am 100% gay. She’s still with her boyfriend and they’ve been together for a little over a year. Her boyfriend sucks though, like, treats her like garbage and cheats on her constantly.

Now that there’s some backstory, she’s been flirting with me like the entire time we were with other people, and she’d make comments like “we should break up with our boyfriends and get back together” and many many other comments like that for over a year now. She also gets extremely touchy with me and like will lay her head on my shoulder and things of that nature, and after talking to a mutual friend it was revealed she only does that with me and no one else. Now that me and my ex boyfriend are no longer together, she’s been making more bold advancements, but I don’t really know what to do because she still has a boyfriend, and on top of that I can’t tell to she genuinely has feelings still or not?? I never got over her and even 2 years later I still really really like her. I feel really crappy for still having feelings for her because she’s taken, and I just don’t know if she’s flirting as a joke, flirting because she still likes me, or flirting because she misses being treated well.

Of course I would never engage in anything romantic with her while she’s taken, but I just really feel lost and hopeless and don’t know what to do. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do in this situation?