r/surrodads

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ILGA Europe have not included surrogacy in its annual reports but have included artificial insemination. Again!!!

ILGA Europe have not included surrogacy in its annual reports but have included artificial insemination.

That is, biological parenthood doesn't matter for gays, but it does for lesbians.

Surrogacy must be addressed as an LGBTQ issue. And opposition to surrogacy is a form of homophobia. Lack of this is one of the main reasons why things are so bad with surrogacy in Europe. It is highly unlikely that they are unaware that today surrogacy is perhaps the only way to build families. As gay couples across Europe report that adoptions have become extremely difficult, if not impossible.

Why such disregard for us? Why on Earth is Spain dark green? For torturing gay families?

Gay men have completely lost their identity. And bi men are never taken seriously at all in the mainstream LGBTQ organizations. It is we who must determine our rights and not allow others to impose them on us.

Plus, servility to anyone who calls themselves a feminist, even if they cause a colossal damage. That's why ILGA Europe is afraid to include surrogacy as it could cost them politically, but isn't afraid of losing G and B(m) at all. Or simply don't want to do it in spite of the obvious demand for it. and instead of protesting, gays write on forums "They made surrogacy more difficult. I cried all night." And also upvote biased reports like that. Or repost it. Of course, it's about LGBTQ people.

Why is there such disregard for our most important issues in these LGBTQ organizations? Gay couples can't create families. What could be more important? Could this be changed? Or is everyone content with this grim situation?!

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u/blackmamba4554 — 10 hours ago
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im a single (intended) dad, using celagem clinic services (Colombia)

after a rather fast procedure - my embryos did not survive implementation, so i am yet again at the beginning of the quest - picking a donor and so on.

the situation with celagem is far (far far) from being good (or decent) they availability of donors is 0. the catalog they provide is no more than a book of young and potentially fertile women - non of them are available in any reasonable time frame for donation. waiting time is 7 months at least, if one is lucky and the doner is still up for the procedure so far in the future.

it seems the clinic does little to no effort to solve this situation, and they rely on you being a captive customer at that point.

i know from a few friends that are now dads and moms that 3-4 years ago things were far better - excellent availability, great donor selection and fast procedure. They also used a different, more attractive catalog – both in numbers of donors and their(subjective) attractiveness.

i would not recommend anyone to use their services, if i would have known how fast and deeply it deteriorate

 i would stay away.

Open for questions!

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u/Conscious_Heat_8339 — 10 days ago
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Escribo de nuevo porque tras hablar con la abogada Miramontes del despacho Ancora, no me queda muy claro algunas cosas.

Es curioso que después de conocer casos de exito de Albania , me digan que es ilegal y que son "mafias" quienes trabajan ahí , al mismo tiempo que aconsejan Mexico omitiendo ciertos dealles.

Lo de que podemos quedarnos en Mexico hasta 1 año (de media 5-7 meses) esto qué?

Sinceramente, ella como otros abogados me parecen COMISIONISTAS de Clínicas mexicanas o colombianas, está clarisimo . 0 objetivos.

Más valdría que se dedicaran únicamente a hacer tramites legales en España, porque en esto se nota mucho.

Solo comparto este feedback para conocer si habéis tenido alguno esa misma percepción.

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u/KeySpirit9274 — 10 days ago
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Cameron Diaz, madre por 3a vez a los 54 años.

Acabo de leer que Cameron Diaz ha sido madre por tercera vez a los 53 años junto a Benji Madden, y la verdad… más allá de la típica noticia de famosos, esto da bastante que pensar.

Han anunciado el nacimiento de su hijo (Nautas) de forma bastante discreta, sin fotos y manteniendo la misma privacidad que con sus otros hijos. Todo muy en su línea. Pero claro, inevitablemente surgen preguntas.

No es ningún secreto que, a ciertas edades, ser madre de forma natural es muy poco habitual. En casos así, mucha gente asume que hay reproducción asistida de por medio, y en el caso de algunas celebrities, incluso gestación subrogada (aunque aquí no lo han confirmado públicamente).

Y aquí es donde me parece interesante el debate: este tipo de noticias, por un lado, normalizan que se pueda ser madre/padre más tarde, lo cual está bien. Pero por otro… ¿hasta qué punto generan expectativas poco realistas?

Porque la realidad es que detrás de estos procesos en EEUU suele haber:
– tratamientos médicos complejos
– acceso a clínicas privadas de alto nivel
– costes muy elevados
– y en algunos casos, procesos legales internacionales bastante delicados

Nada de eso suele aparecer en los titulares.

¿Qué pensáis vosotros?
¿Creéis que deberían ser más transparentes con estos temas?
¿O es parte de su vida privada y ya está?

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u/Conscious_Heat_8339 — 9 days ago