r/perfectionism

Perfectionism and procrastination.
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Perfectionism and procrastination.

Does anyone else procrastinate by trying to “prepare perfectly” before studying?

I have a major exam in 8 days and I’ve known about it for a month, but instead of actually studying properly, I keep doing everything around studying.

I’ll make schedules, research study methods, create backup plans, reorganize routines, remake timetables, plan how to avoid distractions, plan what to do if the first plan fails, etc.

My brain somehow convinces me that because I’m “preparing to study,” I’m still being productive. But at the end of the day I’ve barely done the actual work.

The worst part is that I genuinely WANT to study and do well. I care too much about doing things perfectly, so I keep waiting for the “perfect system” or the “perfect start,” and it never comes.

Then the guilt hits, and the next day the cycle repeats again.

I’m honestly exhausted by this pattern and I wanted to ask:

Have any of you dealt with something similar?

And if yes, how did you actually break out of it?

I’d really appreciate real advice from students who’ve experienced this themselves.

TLDR; I am a perfectionist who does everything but study,which then leads to major procrastination, HELP!!!

u/Hot-Okra-2002 — 3 days ago
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Does anyone else suffer from 'Settings OCD'? I spend more time calibrating than playing games and it's ruining my experience. How to get rid of perfectionism in games?

Hi everyone. I’ve realized I have a problem that’s killing my love for gaming. Instead of immersing myself in the story or gameplay, I’m constantly obsessing over the picture quality. I can’t stop opening the menu to tweak brightness, HDR, or contrast. I feel like the image is never "perfect" enough, and it feels more like a chore than a hobby. If after completing the game I realize that the settings were incorrect, then my brain doesn’t count the game completion and considers it ruined. Has anyone else dealt with this "Settings OCD"? What mental tricks or rules do you use to just "set it and forget it"? I want to focus on the game, not the pixels.

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u/CommercialOk4819 — 1 day ago

how perfectionism and narcissism are related?

We often unnecessarily at times put so much of pressure on ourselves to achieve everything at such a young age

Fueled by early childhood experiences, where we were rewarded for academic excellence, led us to believe that we are capable of continuing the same

That if we were to continue to succeed academically, we would be rewarded for the same that lead us to strive for perfectionism

When you see yourself outperforming your peers, narcissism naturally occurs. You start thinking of yourself as superior and others inferior to you

When actually narcissism serves as a tool to hide one's insecurities they contain about themselves

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u/Rough_Contribution81 — 3 days ago

I recently was assessed for perfectionism with a therapist and psychiatrist and I scored pretty high. A lot of my perfectionism likely stems from childhood trauma having emotionally immature and somewhat abusive parents.
Im curious for people with a somewhat similar background, what did you find most helpful to start addressing your perfectionism?

I am starting to talk about it in therapy, which is making me more mindful of my destructive behaviors. It is making me sad to see how much a lot of my emotional struggles have been tied to perfectionism. It’s nice to find a community online.

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u/Eunice_sheep — 8 days ago

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I am an infj 17F and want to know about how people deal with the problem of perfectionism

This problem of perfectionism leads to inconsistency and ending up not doing or starting the work

I want to really know your pov on this point please drop your opinion

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u/vishuuuuuuuu_ — 11 days ago