r/microwedding

We are having a 15 minute ceremony and then a private dinner experience. There will be a photographer for before, during and right after the ceremony.

Do you all think I need a bouquet? My instinct is to not get one, because we will be walking down the aisle together and I don’t really want to hold one. BUT is that weird!?

Are there any other options? I don’t really want a flower crown, but I feel like no flowers at all might look strange. Do I just get one for photos only?

Please let me know what you all think!

FH and I have been engaged 2 weeks. At first, I got excited about the idea of a wedding in a year, but just wanted it very simple. Head down the street from the church to his family’s venue we could use for a deal. Under 80 guests, caterers and a DJ I’ve known for years, and done.

Then he wants a minimum 5 people in his party, I really only wanted my best friend to be my bride’s man/man of honor, not a huge issue though and I figured it out.

Then his brother can get a deal on a big wedding DJ in the area he used to work with, and “we can dance on a cloud.” I do not want this, but wasn’t going to put up a fight about the DJ, not a big deal.

Then I realized there are supposed to be speeches from best man, maid of honor, this sounds like absolute torture to me. He says deal with it.

Then he mentioned his groomsmen want to pick a 3 day weekend for his bachelor party. I trust him, I don’t care if he goes to a strip club or whatever, but I think 24 hours is more than enough. I don’t really even care if he goes on a 3 day trip with the guys, I just don’t want to use our wedding as an excuse for it. Or put that expectation on the groomsmen to fund it when they already have to get suits etc, even though he says it’s their idea. I know his best man cannot financially contribute to it, and while we’re fine financially, we’re not go on 3 day Airbnb vacations on a whim fine, so we don’t do those kinds of things for ourselves.

He said what his friends plan for his bachelor party is none of my business, and his brother offered to help plan my bachelorette, too. Hard no. I don’t really want a bachelorette party. I will likely just go to dinner and a show with my bestie and call it a bachelorette party.

Now he says we should do it at this great all inclusive waterfront venue, because he doesn’t want to copy his sister’s wedding venue (the inexpensive family owned option). It is a lovely spot, so I relented and we can set up an appointment. He e-mailed them, and told them we would like to walk through with our “wedding planner.” He meant his brother. I said absolutely not.

I could be happy with a ten person micro wedding. I just want to be married. I don’t want to do any of this stuff. It sounds like a humiliation ritual. And I don’t want to spend $30,000 on it when we could probably do it for half that.

Looking at our list, it seems there is no way to cut this under 50 people. If we invite more than immediate family, we have to invite at least 75.

Any ideas appreciated. How do we find a middle ground on this?

ISO all-inclusive mountain micro wedding/elopement package for ~15 guests where we basically just show up

Hi everyone! My fiancé and I are looking for recommendations for an all-inclusive micro wedding/elopement package and I’m getting overwhelmed trying to figure out what’s actually included vs what becomes a million add-ons later 😅

What we’re hoping for:
Beautiful mountain or nature scenery
Around 15 guests (could potentially be up to 20–30 max)
All-inclusive or close to it
Includes things like:
officiant/celebrant
hair + makeup
photography
bouquet/basic florals
planning/coordinator
ceremony setup/chairs
dinner/reception options
Ideally somewhere where we don’t have to coordinate a bunch of vendors ourselves

Our dream scenario is basically:
We book flights + our stay, show up, and the wedding is handled 😂

Open to:
Portugal
Italy
Switzerland
Colorado
Utah
PNW
Canada
honestly anywhere scenic and relatively stress-free

Budget is flexible depending on what’s included, but we’d rather pay more upfront for simplicity than spend months planning.

Would love:
actual companies/planners you used
approximate pricing
what was included
whether you felt nickel-and-dimed with upgrades
any regrets or things you wish you asked beforehand

Thank you!

hey everyone i’m 31 recently engaged and from south texas. i’m looking into any help or tips for a nice intimate wedding with nice background that would include a sunset. 30 people or less and or just me and my partner intimate ceremony and then big party at a later time. videographer & photography. dress / tux from where ? i don’t want it to seem cheap but not overly top in debt expensive. budget maybe less than 10k. hope yall can assist