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oh my god. i still cannot believe this happened to me.

so for context im 17 and a HARD butch, like i bind my chest and all that shit just for aesthetics and such. i also have a pretty deep voice and an androgynous face so i get mistaken for a guy often. this doesnt bother me because usually people realize after talking to me for a few that im just a really masculine chick. or at least i THOUGHT so until yesterday.

i was about to leave a rehearsal for a musical im in right now where i play the male lead (im a contralto so i have tenor/bass notes in my range) and the dude playing the supporting male lead (who i thought was just a good friend) catches me on my way out and is like "hey wanna get dinner some time?" and i just raise an eyebrow cuz i thought it was just a weird way he was asking to hang out. but then his face gets all red and he's like "im asking you on a date." and i was like. "dude. im...gay?" and he was like "me too!" and at this point i was like wtf and said "so why would you want to go on a date?" and the actual pure fear i saw on this mans face as it dawned on him that i was a lesbian and not another gay man will live on in my mind forever. we laughed it off and its fine now but like. ?????

im 5 foot 6 and have a very feminine name that ive NEVER heard a man have in my entire life and EVERYONE else in the show calls me by she/her....so how this guy made this mistake i will never know. oh my god. he's known me for almost 2 full months. i feel like i need to write lesbian on my forehead now. jesus christ. what the hell.

(if ur seeing this for the second time its cuz i accidentally posted it double and deleted it double so it had to be reposted 😭😭)

so I told my family that I am lesbian and they didn’t care!! They supported me and my stepdad is helping me order some accessories related to it!!

This subreddit, not lesbianism. I am turning 19 meaning I am sadly no longer a teenager. I've been here since I was 13 and posted maybe only twice but it's been nice. Goodbye my fellow queers, good luck in your journey. (Ik nobody will see this)

I‘ve liked this person for a while, well, at least what I know about them so far…they’re similar to Faye Webster in a white boy in a garage-band aesthetic. For a little while now I’ve been waving and saying hi them with a smile, she‘s responded with a wave and smile back- in her own awkward caught off guard kinda way, I noticed she may? be getting used to that so I gave her a note with a dad joke on it as she was walking with her friend in the hallway. I saw her, walked towards her, asked her, “Do you like dad jokes?”, she said “huh?”, I said, “Do you like dad jokes?”, she said, “sure..”, I said, “here” and put it in her hand, and then walked away….I realized afterwards I forgot to tell her to return it to me… this, was really dumb…I probably shouldn’t have done that, she seemed confused, probably because it was out of nowhere…I don’t know, it’s Friday, I’ll know by Monday? hopefully? did she even think about it afterwards? she’ll probably forget all about it and simply assume I’m weird. YEAH, but whaddya think about this? Am I cooked???

Edit: She also seems like the introverted or at least type of person to not approach someone first, not shy- more awkward? If yah know what I’m tryna say.

I (18NB) has never had luck in the love department and it really suck beck I’ve been touch starved ever since my ex dumped me and I been wanting a relationship for so long now but I can’t get any it also maybe the fact I’m still in the closet at home but the lack of being wanting in a romantic way is driving me crazy I feel like I’m just ugly and people will never think I’m pretty enough to date 😢 (sorry for no punctuation I’m dyslexic and sad 😅)

so i’m a 13 year old transfemme sapphic and i’m wondering how much of lesbians are trans allies or how much of lesbians are transphobic and how do you know if they are transphobic or not and also if they’re a lesbian thank you in advance

hi!! i seek some advice regarding this girl i like. we’re not really close friends, just acquaintances if anything, but i think she’s so freaking beautiful and sweet and im thinking about telling her how i feel. now, im like 90% sure she is straight and has no interest in me, but nonetheless, ive had a crush on her for almost a year now and need to move on, and i think this is the best way to do so. but first, here’s some things that may indicate she likes me?:

• compliments me a lot

• holds strong eye contact when talking to me, and tends to look at me more when we’re talking in a group

• warm and friendly around me (she is with mostly everyone though)

• said my laugh was cute once

honestly that’s all i can really remember. again, she probably doesn’t like me, but eitherway, i want to just tell her how i feel. i dont know if i should drop hints first before telling her though? need some advice!

I’m trying really hard to get over my crush on my friend, but I genuinely can’t and I’m not sure what to do.
Okay so basically I (18f) became friends with this girl around October 2024, and at first I didn’t feel anything for her. But over time I’ve gotten more and more attracted to her.
This is really just a mini vent.

I think part of why this is hitting me so hard is because, after digging more into my sexuality, I’ve realised I probably fall somewhere under the asexual/demisexual umbrella. Looking back, I don’t think I’ve ever truly felt like this about anyone before, and taking so long to realise I had feelings makes it harder to deal with.

In the year and a bit that I’ve liked her, I’ve tried so many times to move on, but it just keeps coming back stronger. I honestly think we’d be really good together, we have so many shared interests, similar humour, and we can talk about anything. She’s basically exactly my type, which I didn’t even realise I had until I met her 🥲

Because we’ve been friends for so long (and I didn’t like her at the start), our dynamic is very “bro” like. I’m not even mad about that, it just makes things harder sometimes because I can’t help thinking about what could have happened if I realised my feelings sooner.
The main issue is that she doesn’t have any interest in me and is actively pursuing someone else. I don’t feel any resentment about that, and I even enjoy hearing her talk about her feelings for someone else, but I do struggle knowing she’ll never feel that way about me. I keep thinking about her and then feeling sad because I know it’s never going to happen.

We also went to a Gorillaz concert together last September, and even then I didn’t realise how into her I was.

I thought about distancing myself but i really value our friendship and i want to be in her life and vice versa.

Long story short: I’m really into my friend and part of me doesn’t want to be whilst another part of me wants to have hope though its unlikely anything would happen.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you actually get over it? And how do you realise you like someone sooner so this doesn’t happen again?
Also this is my first ever Reddit post after years on here 😭