r/ldssexuality

My wife's got an incredible body as she was an athlete and competitive dancer all her life. Since she's danced in tall heels , she walks and moves like a gazelle in heels, no odd clunkiness. She still teaches fitness and get legs are amazing.

Anyways, she loves putting on little outfits and heels and putting on a strip tease to music for me and sometimes will give me a lap dance. I LOVE it. Drives me crazy.

But she's been feeling guilty about it and feels convinced she's the only LDS wife "dirty" enough to do it. I can't believe she thinks that. I tell her that I'm sure other LDS women do that too?

Amiright?!

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My wife recently told me something that’s been driving me crazy………She loves fantasizing about us getting naughty in the church parking lot right after service ends……She gets really turned on thinking about me bending her over the car, pulling her dress up, and effing her while other people from church are still around. The thrill of possibly getting caught or seen by someone we know makes her so wet.
She even confessed that she’s very attracted to several people who go to our church and likes imagining them noticing us or catching us in the act.
I had no idea she had this dirty side…….but hearing her talk about it has me so turned on. The contrast between sitting nicely in church and then secretly being filthy in the parking lot right after feels so wrong……..but so hot.

I don’t know if we should feel guilty about it, but the guilt just makes it even more exciting.

Has anyone else ever had these kinds of thoughts or similar experiences?

Hello! My wife and I have been talking about using porn here and there to spice things up, get ideas, turn each other on etc. Neither of us struggled with porn addiction so that isn’t really in our minds. We’re more curious if other couples have used it successfully purely out of sexual fulfillment. Thanks in advance!

I feel like my husband and I are really not on the same page sexually, and it’s becoming a serious issue for me. I’m 23 and he’s in his 30s, so he waited a long time for marriage. We’ve been married 4 years and have 2 little kids together.

At the beginning of marriage he struggled with erections, though that improved over time. We’ve had some passionate moments, but overall he seems happiest with a very quick, vanilla, low-effort sex life. Meanwhile I really crave more connection, passion, flirting, initiation, and excitement between us.

I’ve tried bringing this up many times, but I usually feel dismissed. He often acts like I’m unreasonable for wanting more from our intimacy. Today after church, while the kids were napping, I tried to talk about our preferences and then initiate. He basically wanted to “get it over with” quickly and didn’t seem interested in foreplay or really engaging with me emotionally or physically. Didn’t want to touch me anywhere or even kiss me.

I honestly don’t understand it. I feel undesirable and rejected a lot of the time. His main explanation is usually that he’s tired, but it happens even on weekends or during good opportunities when we actually have time alone.

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of mismatch in marriage? How did you approach it without building resentment?

I was raised not to show your shoulders or cleavage at all, and shorts had to go down to middle of my knees. Everyone used to get lesson after lesson on “modest is hottest” and probably had chapstick that said that from Deseret Book or maybe a bookmark.

My mom would take swimsuits and sew the cleavage part straight up the middle 🤣and when she didn’t do that, I had to wear thicker athletic t-shirt over my swimsuit.

I started wearing shorter shorts gradually. I had to quit wearing garments for health stomach reasons. (They were causing issues hitting on my scar) I had permission to stop. I still was wearing things that covered where they would have been.

But around home I would wear tank tops when it was just my husband and I.

When we are on vacation/swimming I usually wear tank top or dress over the top until we get in the water.

Last vacation I wore a couple dresses that were different from what I normally wear. I lost some weight and felt they looked really flattering.

I also wore a bikini for the first time, and had mixed feelings. I liked that my husband liked it! He was actually able to go in the Target dressing room and helped me try on a bunch. It was really convenient. I think it was flattering.

I posted social media pictures of me in a dress and bikini and tank tops. TBH I’m worried about what people might say or think. Especially my grandparents.

Because of my body shape/height, when my shoulders show it is more flattering. I’m shorter, so a lot of clothes can look boxier.

Anyways I have worn tank tops a couple times since then. It still feels weird, but not as bad. I know they changed garments to have a tank top option too. I saw women start wearing tank top dresses to church.

I feel like showing cleavage should be worse than showing your shoulders tbh.

Have any of you guys felt really guilty about wearing tank tops? 🤣Because even through all that it still feels weird to me.

*Sidenote, please no specific rude things about my family. I know things have/are changing.

*Also, I know I have posted a couple things on Reddit, but that feels different than in person or online with anyone I know.

Good morning everyone! New anonymous account for a reason here. I’m a 32 years old single male from Missouri and over the past 6 years, really since the pandemic, I have been living in sexual sin with one of my friends and his wife. We all attend the same church but accountability and discipline in our ward is not really a thing I’d be first to admit that we’ve all lived as Christians only in name and on social media but behind it all we’ve lived together in this sin. I was initially hesitant when the topic and eventually the proposition was brought up, but I was single, virgin and fell into the temptation and for all these years I didn’t really care I was sinning. I lived in fact. Loved every opportunity to get intimate with them.

Over the last few months I have been gravely convicted and my heart has been starting to resent myself and this sin. What would be the best approach to tell them that I’d like to end the sexual relation but not the friendship? Is there a “best” approach other than the direct approach? I don’t want or I think I don’t want to completely cut them off but I also realize it may have to come to that.

Thank you in advance for any advice and responses.

I know when kids are around, sex can decrease. And sometimes people are so desperate for sex that they'll resort to risky places. What's the riskiest sex you have had? And was it enjoyable?

How does talking dirty or being kinky during sex help the overall experience?

To make a long story short, I’ve never seen my wife masturbate, or even touch herself. we’ve been Married for 7 years now and it’s hard to believe that she’s never been even a little curious.
I work all day and she takes long showers in the evenings, maybe there?
Is this common?
Anyone else in the same situation?

If you’re a wife, do you do it behind your husbands back? Where?

I appreciate the responses!

My wife and I tried different apps and dice games a while back, but they always felt clunky or killed the mood.
I'm currently in the middle of launching a PoC (Proof of Concept) called Touch Marathon to fix this, and I need an objective opinion—not just mine or my AI assistant's.
For those who use games to spice things up: What is your experience? Even if you found one you liked, what do you feel is still missing? Is it the pacing, the variety, or the "natural" flow?

Please delete if not allowed, but I am at my wits end. My wife and I have been married for 10 years, things are fine. Little stale, but what long marriage is perfect?

What absolutely kills me though is the fact that I am a pleaser. I love love love, giving oral to my wife. Maybe a little sacrilegious, but I jokingly say that God blessed me with the gift of “tongues”. My love language is definitely physical touch/pleasing. Yet my wife hardly lets me go down on her.

It just sucks not being utilized like I would enjoy. I legit could go down on her multiple times a day, every single day. Now I am realistic, I know if she’s had a tough day. The last thing she wants is for me to be doing that. But it just drives me crazy that it rarely happens.

Would anyone in this sub ever consider leaving a marriage due to not being on the same page sexually?

Every time there is a wedding, my aunt always makes a wisecrack to somebody about the bride and groom having sex between the marriage ceremony/sealing and the reception. I find it to be very annoying.

That said, it has led me to be curious about something. For those who waited to get married, at what point did you have your first sexual experience with your spouse after the ceremony, and what type was it. (For example: a handjob between the ceremony and reception, or waited until after the reception for penetrative intercourse, etc.)

Note: if this question is frowned upon, let me know and I'll remove it.

Recently, my spouse and I started exploring pegging. Originally, I expressed interest from the standpoint of wanting my prostate stimulated, but in reality, I wanted to feel what it was like to be the submissive receiving partner. I'm not gay, nor does pegging mean that.

We've tried multiple times, different positions and I have to say, it feels amazing to be the one receiving end. Giving up control is a unique aspect to sex. Don't get me wrong, I will enjoy regular sex, but once in a while it feels great to be on the other side.

How do you guys utilize masturbation within your marriage? What terms do you have with your spouse about it? How often? Why do you choose to do it?

As the questions states- in what ways do you think you're different than others?

We had sex. Any other wives and mom the same way? Sex is always an easy gift to give the guys. But do anyother wives and mom's also enjoy it as a gift?

For wives that don’t like messy or swallowing, what do you do when he is finishing?