r/interviewwoman

I feel like I'm going crazy over this work situation and need to know if I'm overreacting.

I work in operations at a specialized global logistics company. I'm one of the few people who really understands the job, and I carry a lot of extra work because we're always running on a skeleton crew. Management loves to say things like 'we're a well-oiled machine,' but honestly, I feel like they mean we're just barely getting by.

My manager is also taking a vacation this summer, and we were talking about our plans when we discovered our vacations overlap. Her first reaction was to tell me I had to change my travel dates. I explained that I couldn't; everything was booked and non-refundable. I'm just a cog in the machine, so I never thought to check my manager's personal calendar. That's not part of my job. She then threatened to deny my leave and told me if I went anyway, she'd fire me.

Just great.

So I went to *her* manager to be proactive and try to find a solution. I presented him with a full coverage plan, which included him sitting at my desk for two hours each day to handle customer inquiries and urgent requests. I even offered to log in online for an hour or two each day (and get paid for it) to help. He seemed agreeable and said he would present it to upper management.

A few days later, he got back to me. The decision? The senior managers told him he was 'too valuable and his salary too high' to waste his time covering for someone in operations. Instead, their brilliant idea was to offer me $500 to cover the costs of rescheduling my entire vacation. I did the math, and the cancellation and rebooking fees for flights, hotels, a rental car, and pre-booked excursions for five people would easily exceed several thousand dollars. This trip is coordinated with my husband's work schedule, his three kids, their entire summer schedule of camps, shared custody agreements, and their mom's travel plans.

They asked me to cancel and find another time. I gave them a firm 'no.' The kids are at a perfect age for international travel, we're all incredibly excited, and there's no way I'm going to be the one to tell them it's all canceled because my job can't get its act together. Seriously?

What's driving me crazy is this: I'm just an employee. Why does my being away for 8 workdays cause a complete meltdown? I gave notice in January for a trip in August. There are a million ways to solve this. They could bring someone over from another department for a few days, or use a temp. I even offered to help remotely.

Shouldn't this be a huge red flag to management about how dangerously understaffed we are, to the point that two people being absent at the same time brings everything to a halt?

This has never happened to me in all my years of working. I always give notice for my vacations very early, and the response is always 'Thanks for letting us know!'

Did I do something wrong? Is there something I'm not seeing? Any advice would be very helpful.

I'm trying to figure out my next career move while I finish my studies, so I've been browsing a lot of finance and career-related subreddits for ideas.

In almost every thread, I see people very casually talking about salaries of $120k+. Sometimes it's $250k or even $350k, from people working jobs that sound made up, and often not things that need long years of study like medicine or engineering.

How are all these people making these numbers? I'm from Canada and I've never seen money come this 'easily'. Is this just an American thing where people suddenly find themselves wealthy? I mean, if they were all surgeons, I'd get it, but I see these numbers all the time in fields like tech, consulting, and even marketing. Seriously?

Look, I know I'm a reasonably intelligent person, and I had the opportunity to study something I'm passionate about, so I chose ecology and conservation. I'd be over the moon if my salary hit $50k when I graduate, and I'd feel successful if I reached $80k within 6 years.

I know that money isn't everything, but seeing these numbers all the time makes me start to doubt the path I've chosen for myself and feel like I'm so far behind.

Anyway, I was in a big Zoom meeting a little while ago with some important people from work. To be honest, for the first half hour, I didn't say a word and was completely zoned out. Suddenly, the department head called on me to comment on the last point they discussed, and I was drawing a complete blank. I panicked and did the first stupid thing that came to my mind: I started moving my lips as if I were talking, but with no sound.
After a few seconds of this silent movie act, one of them said, 'We can't hear you.' I kept up the act and typed in the chat that my mic was broken. At that exact moment, my dog started barking like crazy outside my room door. It was then I realized they could definitely hear him, and out of sheer panic, I immediately hit the 'Leave Meeting' button. There were less than 10 minutes left anyway, so I didn't rejoin. Now I'm dreading my meeting with my manager tomorrow. Do you think I'm screwed?

Guys, I'm seriously going crazy. I just got a message from my manager telling me that my approved vacation has been canceled, and I have to come in for my shift tomorrow morning.
I have a flight and hotel booked, and everything is non-refundable. I'm supposed to go on this trip that I've been planning for a very long time.
I've been working at this daycare since May. When I was hired, I was clear and upfront with them from the beginning that I needed a vacation from November 6th to 10th. They promised me it would be no problem at all and approved it back then.
I'm literally confused and don't know what to do, because this is my dream job. I've always wanted to work with children and I really love working here, but I feel what's happening is very unfair. I requested this vacation five months ago. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do.

Back in the office days, I swear at least half my day was wasted pretending to work. I'd stare intently at the screen, type furiously on a doc I had already finished, or carry a folder to the printer and back just so people would see me. All of this just to look 'busy'.
Now that I'm fully remote, I finish all my actual work in about 3-4 hours. After that, I can go for a walk, run an errand, or just relax for a bit. But if you tell your manager that, you're suddenly seen as lazy or not committed, unlike the person who's just warming their chair for 8 straight hours.
It's crazy how corporate culture values the appearance of productivity more than actual productivity itself. Honestly, if I'm finishing the same work in less than half the time, then I'm not the one who was wasting time. The whole system was designed to waste my time.

Look, I've been working at my current company for about 3 years. We were short-staffed, by about 30%, which is why they gave me a big 65% raise. Of course, this was amazing, and I'm very grateful for it.

But now I've received another job offer. The base salary is about 12% higher, and there's an annual bonus of about 15%, so the total would come to around $125,000 a year. The new job is salary exempt, but my current job is hourly, and I get good OT.

The thing that's making me hesitate is the risk. My current manager is super chill, doesn't micromanage at all, and trusts us to get our work done. He doesn't mind if we come in a bit late or leave early for an appointment. I have a lot of freedom here, and I feel like this flexibility is hard to put a price on.

I understand that money isn't the most important thing, but with the current cost of living, I'd be crazy not to consider this offer. My biggest fear is moving for a roughly 25% increase in pay, only to find myself with 50% more stress and no work/life balance.
What are your thoughts on this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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My company just pulled a sneaky move and changed their policy - they no longer pay out your remaining vacation balance when you leave the job. I've been here for several years and have saved up 42 days.

What's stopping me from requesting all 42 days at once, and then submitting my resignation on the last day?

This means I'd still be getting paid for almost two full months. I was saving them as a safety net for when I find a new job. My new plan is to find another job, and then for 8 or 9 weeks, I'd be getting paid by both companies at the same time. Or, I could take that time to disconnect and travel a bit, but I'm worried about the new job's reaction. The idea of telling them 'Yes, I can start in 9 weeks' seems like the best way to get the offer rescinded, and I'd prefer not to leave this job without having another one secured.

Honestly, I don't want to burn all my bridges, and I think my manager has to approve the leave and could simply refuse. But at the same time, I feel like they legally can't do that because it's vacation time I've already earned, right?

I'm really annoyed that they changed the rules at the last minute like this. If I had known this was going to happen, I would have taken many more vacations here and there over the past two years. Has anyone been in this situation before or have any advice?

At this point, I’m already preparing for interviews and trying to get ready for my next move properly. I’ve been working on how to present my situation in a smart way so I don’t come across as risky to new employers. I came across this post and it was helpful for me in case I went to an interview, and they ask me about the old job, will update you

About 8 months ago, I was hired as a business intelligence analyst at a large fintech company right after finishing graduate school. The interview was not easy at all; there was an SQL challenge, they asked me to create a dashboard from a sample dataset, and several rounds of interviews to assess culture fit. The process was so serious that I expected the job to be difficult and need a lot of effort.
Now, I'm earning a six-figure salary and my job is hybrid, 3 days in the office and two from home, and honestly, I don't have much work to do. The first big task I got was to gather some sales data and create new performance trackers. I finished it way ahead of schedule, and my manager was genuinely impressed with the work I did.
But since I finished that project four months ago, work has been trickling in. Every now and then, I get a request to do a data pull or a quick chart, which takes an hour at most. I use very standard tools and methods that I consider to be common sense.
I created a few templates on the dashboarding software that I can modify for most new requests. The head of marketing called me a 'data wizard' in a team meeting just because I used a different chart type than the usual bar graphs they seem to have been using since 1999.
The finance team thinks I'm swamped with work because I schedule their monthly report emails to be sent at 7 AM. In reality, I'm done with them by 3 PM the day before and spend the rest of the day learning guitar from YouTube videos.
I use ChatGPT for a large part of my SQL queries. My 60-year-old manager looked over my screen a few days ago, saw some nested queries and told me, 'It's amazing how you young people understand this stuff so easily.' Sir, an AI wrote that for me in ten seconds.
I wrote a simple script to help the finance team automate part of their monthly reports (honestly, I just described the process to an AI and tweaked its code). They treated it as if I had reinvented the wheel. The director wanted to know my 'secret,' and I didn't have the heart to tell him the secret is just not using VLOOKUPs for everything as if we're still in the 1990s.
In any large, department-wide meeting, I use an AI meeting assistant to zone out and not focus. Last week, someone asked for a specific number from a call two weeks ago, and I simply pulled it from the AI transcript while everyone else was still trying to remember. I feel like I have a superpower that no one else knows about.
I genuinely work about 12-15 hours a week. The rest of the time, I'm just sitting around looking for something to do. I read old threads on Reddit. I watch videos on how to fix my car. I've even tried ridiculously complex recipes. Last week, I alphabetized the spices in my kitchen cabinet out of sheer boredom.
Is this really the corporate world? In university, they always warned us about 'fast-paced environments' and 'killer deadlines.' My biggest source of stress right now is making sure I look focused in Zoom meetings.
My manager pulled me into a surprise meeting a few days ago, and I was sure the gig was up. I thought they had found me out. Instead, he asked if I could help 'skill-up' or 'upskill' some of the other analysts on the team. I don't even know what I'm supposed to teach them - how to google better? How to formulate prompts for an AI?
So, is this normal? Did I accidentally find the cheat code to corporate life? I feel like I'm in a strange world where appearing productive is far more important than doing anything.

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