r/ectopicpregnancy

After 6 months of ttc, I had an ectopic pregnancy at 7 weeks which sadly ended in a rupture, meaning I had to have emergency surgery at the start of february and lose my tube. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions since then, but I can’t say I feel like time has “healed”. I have good days, but I also have overwhelming bad days where I could still sit and cry for hours about it all. I wanted that baby so much, and i feel so upset and guilty they never got the chance to be here.

I’m at the point where people seem genuinely surprised I’m still struggling so much, since so much time has passed, but I really do grieve my baby every waking second. I’m on the fence between, I’ll never apologise for having so much emotion towards my loss, and also criticising myself for being so sensitive and weak for not being able to move on. I’ve tried to access (free) counselling, but I’ve been rejected multiple times which makes me feel as if even the support systems don’t think I should be this upset.

Has anyone else felt so deeply affected by their ectopic? Does it actually ever get better, or is this something that everyone who’s been through it carries?

We’re still ttc, 3 months and no luck, and I think a rainbow would be the only thing that would pull me out of this storm but that feels so far away :(

Hi everyone,

I recently had 2 doses of MTX shot, today was day 7 since 2nd shot and looks like my HCG is going down at an expected rate. I’m trying to figure out what to expect over the next few weeks/months.
My doctor told me to repeat blood work weekly until hCG is negative, and mentioned that it can take about 4–6 weeks. I was also told to follow a low folate diet until it’s negative. I’m a little confused about how strict that needs to be, especially since a lot of the healthy foods I usually eat are high in folate, like beans, lentils, quinoa etc.
I also asked about exercise, and I was told I could continue weights and HIIT if I was already doing them before. I used to work out intermittently until I ovulated, but I’m still unsure when people usually feel comfortable starting again more consistently.
I’m also worried about gaining a lot of weight during this waiting period. Since we have a 3-month wait before trying again, I’d really like to use this time to focus on being healthy again and reducing weight in a safe way.
For those who’ve been through this:

• How long were you told to stay on a low folate diet?and how long did it take for HCG to be negative?
• When did you resume working out?
• Did you modify your diet or exercise at all while waiting for hCG to go down?

I would really appreciate any advice you might have.

I asked this question before but I didn’t get many responses so I’m trying again.

I see a lot of women here have had to get surgery and remove or repair a tube. My ectopic was resolved with MTX and I didn’t need any surgery. Has anyone proceeded to get pregnant after with no intervention on their tubes? Did you get an hsg test first? Or did you just go for it?

Any opinions or similar stories would be nice to know I’m not alone in this please. I’ve been dealing with a PUL that resulted in a salpingectomy on February 18th where they found no fetal or placental tissue in the tube upon pathology. Hcg started going down but then about 2 weeks after surgery it started going up again (day of surgery hcg was 1006 then went up to 1650). Had to get 2 methotrexate injections bc my hcg only went down by 13% with the first one. Those injections were in the first week of March, it is now the first week of May and my hcg still isn’t at 0, I’ve had on and off bleeding/ spotting since my surgery (I shed my decidual cast about 4 days after surgery). My doctor had me come in for an ultrasound last Friday bc she didn’t realize I was bleeding still. Ultrasound showed my surgery site was fine (even tho I’ve been cramping there for weeks) but she now sees a tiny sac in my uterus that has blood flow that she’s unsure of what it is🙄😅. I have had unprotected sex a few times through this whole process (my bf cannot cum with condoms😅) so she said there’s a small chance it’s a new pregnancy. She had me go that same day to get my hcg tested and it was at 56, over the weekend it went from 56 to 53 but from Monday to Wednesday it jumped up by 10 and is now 66. She did discuss that if this is not a new pregnancy I’ll probably need a D&C and at this point I just want to schedule it to get this over with bc I feel like it should not take 3 months or more to resolve this😅😭😭

Hi everyone,

I had an ectopic pregnancy in February and was treated with methotrexate on Feb 25. My HCG reached zero by the end of March and I’ve been cleared to start trying again in June.

Since the ectopic was on my left side, I’ve become really anxious about the idea of ovulating from the left ovary again. I know there’s no guaranteed way to know which side you ovulate from (or even which tube picks up the egg), but I still find myself wanting to only try on “right side” months.

Did anyone else feel like this after an ectopic? Did you eventually let go of tracking sides and just try naturally? Any success stories — especially from people who may have conceived from the same side — would really reassure me right now.

Hi all,

So im moving onto IVF after a failed iui back in january which resulted in ectopic.

Im so scared of having another bc i read it can also happen with ivf. Can i ask if you were successful after? Or did you have another ectopic with ivf?

TIA 🩷🙏🏼

I am 5 weeks 3 days pregnant. My HCG as of yesterday was 2706. I had severe cramping on my right side 2 days ago that lasted about 30 minutes. I fell asleep and napped about an hour, and woke up feeling fine and Thought nothing of it. Pain came back that evening on the right side. Went to bed for the night, and woke up with brown blood yesterday. The cramps turned more into manageable period cramps all day but I still went to my OB. They did an ultrasound and couldn’t see a sac in my uterus, although the lining was thick. The tech and doctor both said it’s possibly too early to see a sac. On my right side, they did see a small adnexal mass with some free fluid. I’m pretty much in a waiting game right now and it’s stressing me out! I go back in tomorrow to see if my HCG is doubling, then I’ll go back in for an ultrasound next week. My Dr wants to do another ultrasound before she confirms an ectopic (since I’m not bleeding heavy and my pain level is low now). Anyone have a similar experience?

Hi everyone,
I’m 5 weeks pregnant and incredibly anxious due to my history. I had a previous ectopic pregnancy that resulted in the removal of my right fallopian tube last Marxh, so I only have my left one remaining.

My HCG numbers seem to be rising perfectly this time:
• Betas: 71 -> 265 -> 797 (all 48 hours apart).

Despite the good numbers, I’ve been feeling a lot of tightness and "heavy" pain/pressure on my left side, specifically in my lower back/flank area. I’m also constantly burping and very bloated, with no bleeding at all.
I’m terrified that this could be another ectopic in my remaining tube.

Has anyone experienced this kind of one-sided back/flank tightness early on after a previous ectopic and had it turn out okay?

Hi all, update from my last post, the Methotrexate one dose journey is on its way and I’m feeling a sense of relief that it is working and saw a 22% decrease on day 7. Here is my trends so far:

Day 1: 1489.15

Day 3: 1607.47 (had an ER visit for nausea that wouldn’t stop could have been a side effect from the methotrexate)

Day 4: 1784.89 (this is when I started feeling concerned that it wasn’t working but my doctor reassured me that it is typical to see an increase on day 4, I know they’re tired of me I’ve been calling basically almost every single day out of anxiety 😔)

Day 7: 1397.05 (22% drop)

I’m glad it’s working as expected but still feeling so many different emotions, a sense of relief, grief, numbness, depression, anxiety all mixed together and was wondering does it ever get easier? I feel comfort posting here and knowing I’m not the only one going through this as it can feel isolating at times, sending love and prayers to everyone

Currently 10w 2days and dating scan booked in two weeks time. The last week I have had right sided pain around where the ovary is. The pain is very localised and comes and goes, in pain for a while one day and then two days nothing. No bleeding, no shoulder tip pain, no fainting albeit lightheaded but that could be due to aneamia.

Any similar experiences of possibly "silent" ectopic at 10 weeks?

I keep seeing posts of people complaining how shitty they feel after Mtx. Please keep posting cause it’s making me feel better. Every time I see a post about mtx making you feel like death it calms me down cause i literally feel like I’m dying.

15 days post mtx
Symptoms include but not limited to: extreme fatigue, flu-like body aches, starving but can’t get up to make food, house dirty but can’t get up to clean. I already have an immune disease and deal with chronic fatigue daily. But this is another level. I literally feel close to death.

PERMISSION TO COMPLAIN GRANTED 🫡

I just got home from the ER, diagnosed with a PUL but no real treatment plan except for watchful waiting at the moment. I got a positive pregnancy test on 4/27. I’m 40, and have 3 children and this was an unplanned/unwanted pregnancy. My cycle has gotten much shorter since beginning perimenopause and we only had sex in the day or two after my last period ended, so I believe I ovulated super early in my cycle.

In the days after my positive test I had some dark brown spotting with little grains, and one night I felt some nausea and back pain and was very cold, so I thought I might be miscarrying. I made an appt with Planned Parenthood for a medical abortion on 5/1 and told them I knew it was extremely early, probably less than 4 weeks, but also that I was having this brown spotting. They did an ultrasound and couldn’t find anything (expected) and took my HCG which was 197. I took mifepristone there and the next day took four misoprostol, which resulted in me expelling some white tissue and brown stuff, but it never really turned bright red or clotty as I expected. At my follow up at Planned Parenthood yesterday evening they took blood and said we’ll call you if your number doesn’t drop by 50%.

Of course this morning I get the call that my hcg actually went up, to 597, and they wanted me to come in to a different location for an aspiration. At this point though I’m freaking out that I actually have an ectopic pregnancy, so I said if I’m going to have a D&C I’d rather have it after ruling out an ectopic first, so I said I would just go to the ER (plus my ER is much closer to my house than the location they wanted me to go to, and I wanted my husband to accompany me). At the ER they did a thorough ultrasound and took more blood, showing an hcg of 675. But the ultrasound was clear, no evidence of an ectopic, just the corpus luteal cyst on my left side. I started to get a dull pain on my right side near my ovary, but it wasn’t too bad and on pelvic exam she said I’d have sharp pain on that side. I said I really didn’t want to leave without a plan, but they said the only thing they would do is the D&C to rule out any retained products of conception, but they thought my body might actually be resolving itself, since my numbers went up but not on trend to double. They didn’t want to treat with methotrexate without being able to confirm an ectopic. So they booked me for bloodwork tomorrow afternoon and to follow up with my OB.

I guess I feel like my worst fears came true, that I went through a MA for nothing, that I’m just waiting to pass out and go back to the ER. I felt safe there knowing that if something happened there at least I was close to the OR. Any advice appreciated. I will say I’ve lost most of my pregnancy symptoms I had before, but the dull pain worries me and I am just tired and finding it hard to eat. I also have 3 kids I’m not really able to care for and trying to shield this from (was very lucky to have my entire hospital visit today while they were at school). Thanks for reading.

I started my TTC journey June 2025, I got pregnant right away but it ended in a chemical. We took July off and tried again in August and again another Chemical.
September my cycle was wonky and October i had accupuncture and a UTI - the only time i had a double serge and didn’t get pregnant.
Nov I ended up conceiving and had a ruptured Ectopic - lost my right tube in December. I also lost 3L of blood.
Tried again at the end of January, February we did not, And now March and April- nothing.

I had an HSG done in Feb, showed open clear Left tube.

Not sure what i’m looking here besides to vent,
i felt like before I was able to atleast get pregnant and now this entire year I haven’t.

Any advice or suggestions- anything!

I was just wondering if people have experienced ectopic pregnancy rupture surgery key hole and how long they waited until having sexual intercourse? I miss my husband, it has been 6 weeks due to everything we’ve been through and I do feel ready but worried because online it says to wait 4-6 weeks, anyone not waited that long and was it okay?