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I see this thread in Random Videos on reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/RandomVideos/comments/1t14e2o/reason_why_most_people_run/ where a biker is an absolute dick and a cup being very strait. My first reaction was: "I guess we know driver is not black"(I thought no black man would dare to act this way). I read through many comments and I see no mention of race or white privilege. I'm puzzled is there something obvious I'm missing or is white privilege so little on peoples mind?

I'm a Danish white man, so I could very well completely misread the situation. Hope you can help me understand it better. Thanks

I think he's sexist and racist, and generally not a good apologist. He doesn't appear to have a ton of respect for the people he's debating, and doesn't seem to have much to say that has much substance, imo. A family member of mine disagreed with me and thinks I'm virtue signaling my white guilt.

I think that there can be debates about how DEI is implemented, but I don't think that CK is doing a good job of facilitating productive debates. I don't like the weird nationalistic brand of conservatism of people who want to revert to the 1950s, which is the kind of person I consider him to be. I live in a part of the US where there aren't a lot of black people I can ask personally, so I got to ask the internet.

I was informed about Tourette’s before the BAFTA situation happened. However, I was really displeased with the general response. It was really inappropriate that people were doing the mental gymnastics to redefine what an apology is, when it is warranted, and say that MBJ and Delroy London would be ableist for expecting an apology from Davidson. And with the “apologies” themselves. The opinions of different black people with Tourette’s fell to the wayside, but I was not surprised.

Well it happened to me. Today on my way home from work, a man, left an office building that is directly next to my home, with his colleague. They walked behind me, and one of the men, who I believe may have Tourette’s (based on how he was speaking), called me the nword, repeatedly. Loudly. His friend carried on as normal in between.

They did not attempt to move from behind me, they did not slow down their walking, they just continued until I heard them get into a vehicle (and there was an alternative path to get to the vehicle that would not have involved walking behind me). There was no, “I apologize”, no explanation, nothing.

The city I live in is not big, and I was in shock. It’s so easy to think of what you would do in that situation until it happens to you. I live in an area that has barely any black people, so of course, people just stopped and stared. I went home and have been crying all night while looking up Tourette’s again, and making sense of how I feel. It certainly was not the first time I’ve been called that. And while it is not all white people, it’s always a white person. It was extremely traumatic and brought back flashbacks of all the times that word has been thrown at me.

I refuse to live in fear where I live. I refuse to endure that slur and humiliation. And while I understand it is involuntary, the lack of trying to mitigate it in any way really shocked me. And I don’t accept that I will just have to live with hearing that. I dont like that they are relying on my silence. It is unacceptable.

Tomorrow, I plan to go into the building and speak with the building manager, and ask that this be addressed with him. I looked it up online and there are treatments and therapies available for trying to adjust how you say a certain tic. I plan to ask that he be asked to pursue these or he work from home. There has to be some kind of way to address this. I do not understand how in a situation where someone with Tourette’s can walk down a sidewalk with other people of color that are not black while having a conversation, then see a black person, calls them a slur, and the solution be I just take that. I am afraid to leave my home now, and the fact that I feel like that, is what is prompting me to go the building tomorrow to speak with someone about this.

Any suggestions for how I should frame the conversation?

Should I not do this and instead escalate this further? Should I instead get the management of my building involved and have them reach out to this building to inform them of how their employee is treating their residents? I wonder what the black people who work in his building, if any, have to endure. And if they are even able to speak up given this climate, this particular city, and this job market.

I have spent hours doing additional research into this and I am trying to approach it from the most empathetic and understanding way possible while trying to ensure it is not at the expense of myself.

TLDR : A man, who may have Tourette’s, works in the building next to my home and calls me the nword when I walk home. How should I address it with his building/company? Should I escalate it instead?

The woman I managed made a scene with my boss and essentially painted me out to be a workplace bully because she was paranoid I had made complaints about her poor attitude.

I’ve encountered this type of person before and I honestly feel beyond defeated. WW tears are weaponized on the daily and it feels like unless I proactively kiss her ass I’m going to be the bad guy.

What does anyone do in this situation? Very concerned about losing my livelihood all because of one very petty WW

heyyyy I’ve noticed this perfume that a lot of older (gma age) black ladies wear. It’s really powerful and smells like honeysuckle. I loooove it but no honeysuckle fragrance I’ve found matches it. Please help identify!

Why are there two flairs for this? Does that mean this type of question is extremely common?

Anyway. I live in a mostly black area, and I’m white. A friend of mine that’s black said “blessings” to me the other day when I was leaving, and I knew he wasn’t religious so I asked him why he said that, not in a critical way but just because I was confused and thought it was kind of funny. His response was “it’s a black thing.”

I just sort of accepted it and went about my day, and we’re close so I plan to ask what I’m about to ask him, as well, but I do want to ask more people, which is why I’m posting here:

I thought about it and I realized that I had heard people say “blessings” to me before, and I also realized that the vast majority of times I heard it was from a black person and not a white person. The main character in my story is white, but if the story is about my area then he’s going to interact with black people, and I want to make sure that how I write them doesn’t seem like generalizations but also doesn’t seem like whitewashing.

If I make up a greeting or goodbye that most black people would say in my story that’s similar to “blessings”, would that be stereotyping or would that be a valid way to show that black people do legitimately greet people differently here and that this is an acknowledgment of that? I feel like if I did the opposite and either gave every single person a different type of greeting, or had every single person give the exact same greeting regardless of race, then this would not be accurate. The way I see it is that we all have our own culture but we also all hang out, meaning that in my mind if I acknowledge it I’m not stereotyping since it’s based on a real thing, and it doesn’t lead to any sort of racial tension between people who aren’t racist.

Curious to hear the perspectives on this. Thank you.

I'm not talking about Black people from other countries. If you are seeking within your country to date another Black person, do you care what ethnicity they are? Are there divisions between dating different black groups of the diaspora (African, Caribbean, American)?

Please feel free to share anything positive that has happened in your life this week. Purchased a new vehicle? Graduated school? It's your birthday? Let's celebrate you and all of your achievements.

I've become more interested in Michael Jackson after watching the movie. I've read people's experiences of his legacy online, and some have said he was popular with women and teen girls (especially during Thriller and Bad). Do you think we will have another Black male pop star who is loved among all races of women and teenage girls? Especially since the expectations of masculinity for Black men have changed since the 70s, what style do you think the pop star would popularize?

Especially in light of his vote on Louisiana vs. Callais? I’m just some white dude, but he absolutely confounds me, so what do you think?

I watched the Michael Jackson movie recently. Why does Michael Jackson's father use this description as an insult?

Hi there, I am a white Brit so I have absolutely no business asking these kinds of questions but I’ve been noticing several trending topics where a black American says that someone from Africa or of African decent is “not black”.

I appreciate that:

a). Africa is a continent with many countries and within those countries many different cultures.

b). Being black American is unique in that the shared culture comes from a founded culture and shared experience from the lasting effects of the slave trade that was used to build the US (by my own country and other Schengen countries).

Therefore I do understand that there are clear cultural differences between someone who is eg native to Nigeria and someone who eg is black from Calafornia and the former is unlikely to understand the black experience of someone American.

However, this whole “you’re not black, you’re African” rhetoric seems very manufactured to me, it feels like a way to divide black communities and pit people against one another.

While every community is capable of prejudice and bigotry in one way or another I’m also very aware that this only really seems to be becoming more mainstream since the creation of AI and social media bots are becoming more prevalent. It’s made me suspicious that maybe it’s fake accounts where the purpose of promoting these kind of rhetorics is to undermine the voting and collective power of black and POC communities.

I appreciate that many black Americans and POC communities in general are very conservative so I am not saying it is being done to turn black communities conservative, just that by creating this divide creates division and pits people against each other.

I would be interested in hearing the thoughts from black people (by which I include all black people not just Americans).

Also, do you think it's offensive when people (especially non-Black people) complain about not wanting to get darker in front of Black people who are already darker skinned?