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AITA? I genuinely feel stuck. The other AITA doesn't allow violence which is how I found this subreddit. So I (23F) have a sister (25F) and I'm really worried about her. Her ex cheated on her five years ago with this woman and ever since she's been obsessed and stalking her. At first she said it was to see if she got karma for what she did, but now it's turned actually psychotic and maybe violent and I don't know what to do or if I should tell my parents.

My sister started dating this guy when she was in high school. He came to our house a million times and we all saw him as a part of our family especially when they stayed together after graduation. Five years ago he cheated on my sister she found out a few days after their fifth year anniversary when they were like 20. The girl he cheated with knew he had a girlfriend but that didn't stop her from hooking up with him. My sister was of course devastated but she gave him another chance and a few weeks later he ended up breaking up with her and she found out that he never stopped talking to the other girl even though she forgave him. When she was exposing the side chick in the beginning on her snap stories I of course understood and supported her as her sister and found the girl disgusting.

I thought my sister would get over it with time and was there for her for the beginning. After two years I was shocked she hadn't moved on. She forgave her ex and even slept with him after the break up but she always hated the girl. The girl blocked her everywhere but my sister still watched all her pages and knew everything she did. If the girl posted herself at a restaurant on her story, my sister would drive to it and eat there and purposely walk by the girls table to make her ashamed of what she did. She also knew where she lived and her work schedule and followed her around all the time and would constantly tell me how much she hates her and how she's never wanted someone to be dead so bad. I found it very concerning and when I told my sister she needs therapy and that our parents should know how badly and long this has been effecting her she shut down completely and told me she was just joking and hasn't told me anything since. That was THREE years ago.

My sister has dated casually briefly since so I assumed she moved on, it has been three years since she told me anything about her stalking and hating the girl and I had completely forgotten about the situation until this past weekend. My sister had a work trip last week and asked if I could feed, walk, and basically babysit her new puppy who needs a lot of attention. I said sure since Im doing all my classes online this semester and stayed the week at her apartment. It's a few cities away so I've only gone to see her a few times since she's moved here. And duh as a sister I made myself welcome in her apartment and slept on her bed. I always slept on the left side but on Saturday I was cold and wanted to sleep on the right side which is closer to the heater and when I laid my head down I felt something uncomfortable and realized there was something inside of of her many pillows. Inside of it was a composite notebook labeled "Anna" (not her actual name, but the girl her ex cheated on her with). When I saw that I was shocked. I hadn't thought of the name in years.

The journal was so scary. Basically she never got over the situation and has been waiting on karma to get the girl back for being the other woman but it hasn't. I didn't keep up with the girls life but she moved away years ago, got married, and makes lifestyle content for what looks like fun since she doesn't have many followers on any of her pages. Her life seems perfect. My sister goes on and on about how much she hates this woman but what scared me is that my sister FLEW OUT to this girls city to stalk her in person and figure out what house she lives in... she tried to figure it out from what she posts of her house and area, during a time she told us she was visiting her friend who was sick. I was so shocked she would go that far. And it wasn't just one time, she's done it twice from what I read. Also the notebook I found is dated and only goes back to May of 2024 so I assume she has multiple other ones none I could find. She's stated in it the only way she will get over it is if the other woman suffers and since karma hasn't gotten her back my sister will. There was also a lot of other weird threatening things in there like how she describes wanting to watch her pass away...

I was so weirded out and when my sister got back Monday I tried to act normal. I know I'm crazy but a part of me thought she left the state to k*** the girl. I went to view the girls Insta page on a burner I made and she's posted since so she's alive. That's when I realized that fact that I could think my sister would seriously do that is insane. And that if five years later she still can't get over the situation she needs a lot of help. I'm worried for her and also the other girl. I never thought I could feel bad for her but if only I could describe better what my sister wrote, I truly feel like she may be in danger. The issue is I'm scared if I tell my parents who don't know anything and that my sister got over it way before I did, there's not much they can do just based on my word alone. My sister has a job, apartment, her own life. I didn't take the notebook I obviously don't want her to know I know so I have no proof. I wish I took screenshots but I was so in shock all I could do was read and when I finished I put it back and felt dirty. I don't know what to do. WIBTA if I DONT speak up? Should I try to go back to get more proof and then tell my parents so they can maybe stage an intervention? Im so stressed.

My wife is the queen of passive aggressive. If I ask her to do something and give detailed instructions she will find a way to do it differently. “Hey babe when you finish washing the crock pot can you put it on the top shelf?”

After a “sure” she will put it on the bottom shelf. But not just put it there, she will rearrange the shelf to make space for it when there was a space on the top shelf for it. (No she is not short she can reach the top shelf just fine)

When I am not home for dinner and she cooks one of my recipes for the kids she will do it differently. The kids (17f, 15m) will notice and say “that’s not how dad does it.” She will tell them “I know what I am doing.” They will sit down to dinner and she will say out loud, “this doesn’t taste right.” The kids will roll their eyes as loud as they can. Obviously I don’t see it but the 17yo tells me all about it. It has pretty much become a joke and I will intentionally tell her to do things differently than I actually want, so there is a chance…

Now on to the giggity. So, I often complain about how my wife never initiates contact. It seems like she has lost her sex drive. However the other day my sister was visiting, matter of fact it was the end of her visit and about an hour and a half before I was to take her to the airport my wife pulled down her shirt and exposed a sexy teddy under her shirt. My bedroom is near the bathroom and guest room where my sister was getting ready to go, just a closet between the bathroom and our bedroom. I told her we couldn’t. Of course she used this as a, “well I tried” moment. When I returned from dropping my sister off at the airport apparently the mood was gone and I was now the one initiating once more.

So first, I’m not a prude but having my sister in the next room doesn’t really get my motor going. Also my wife is the type if I grab her butt when we are with company she gives me the evil eye gritted teeth “stop!” So the into public displays doesn’t track.

I began to remember the last few times my wife tried to initiate sex with me. I have to go back years to come up with the last 3 or 4 times. One that really sticks out is when we had another couple visiting and I walked in when we had plans with them to go out. I came into my bedroom to see my wife in a sexy outfit on the bed. Another time a friend was coming over to help me work on some household stuff, fixing something in my house. She met me at the door in a robe naked underneath. She ran to our bedroom when she saw my friend and told me “oh, I forgot he was coming over today.”

I know I know it sounds like she wants other people in the room with us but I assure you that is not the case.

So I bring it up and ask, “hey can we talk”

Her- “Sure”

Me-“have you completely lost your sex drive?”

Within 15 seconds she brings up the incident with my sister.

I was like come on

Then I brought up the drop off in activity even during sex. Not only do I initiate but then have to direct. If she goes down on me she is not into it, I have heard guys say “there is no such thing as a bad BJ” but I assure you there is.

It becomes one of those arguments that start to span the entirety of our sex life. No enthusiasm on her part, me doing things she asked me not to during. Her not doing things I have asked her to do. So on and so on. It has gotten to the point where she is angry and feels I ask too much and I am frustrated and feel that she gives too little.

In the end she said her invitation was real I was like, “so you wanted a quickie?”

Her- “no you didn’t have to leave for another hour and a half”

Right but now there is a shower before I go (also my wife isn’t the type to let me go right after especially if she Os. She will get emotional, so me running out the door after makes her “feel cheap.” I said I don’t believe that was a real invitation, it was just another passive aggressive way of making it look like you are doing what I ask so the next time I say something you can throw it in my face.

So there it is AITA?

I can’t remember all of the specifics, but I’ll try my best. It’s about the OP being at an event (a bachelorette maybe?). The OP says something really savage to a guy friend and then Shayne says “put a little sauce on it” through laughter. It’s been bothering me so much but I can’t find it. I’m not even sure what the theme of the episode is.

If anyone has any idea I would appreciate the help! I’ve been trying to figure it out for days.

And sorry for any spelling mistake I’m rushing

**This is a long one so please try follow but I’ll cut it right down lol**

Me 32f and my partner 35m (R) ave been together for 13 years, enraged not married, not much of a concern

I had a car accident and we had to move back in with family while I recovered as I did technically die a few times and got so many infections
Anyway
We were living at my mums and we were hanging out with an old ex friends sister .. we will call her B
We thought B was fun and long story short things took off and we ended up in a situationship.

The thing is, B said she liked girls more than guys and she was making that clear to start with

As you read , it was a situationship and it was full of problems and arguments and shit like that.
B was good in this tho because she tried so hard to set boundaries and shit but we were so wasted and shit we weren’t interested in listening.

Shit did blow up and it was done and we went no contact.

B then sent me some reels on insta and we started up a conversation,
This is where shit gets its first look at being cooked…
She tells me she has to tell me something and she doesn’t want me to hate her… I said I wouldn’t, etc etc.
she sends me a positive pregnancy test and says R is the only one she had been with and she doesn’t know what to do.

I cried and was annoyed but I accepted it, she started up contact with my partner too and we started to make a plan.

Minor details happened in between but we spent the weekend together and had “boundaries” and we all moved in together..

Now it gets more fucked, B is pregnant, we all live together, but R starts to notice things and I’m backing B up because I’ve been in the situations she was in, that’s causing arguments between me and R.. but the biggest thing was R said he swears she was high and been smoking cause she’s been all how she was back then and I was defending her saying she wouldn’t do that blah blah blah.

Fast forward 6 months and she’s got a lil belly but nothing is really getting bigger and R had noticed.
I also found out I was pregnant and went to have scans etc etc
Only I only had an empty sack, which was very upsetting so R and I got wasted with an old friend… R told B via text as she wasn’t talking to us at the time and she said she would be home soon to comfort me and I offered to pick her up on my way back from my bloods… she said it’s okay she’s got a ride ..
As I’m driving to my bloods I see B in the car with someone she said she wasn’t speaking to and was on the other side of town from where she said she was…

I brushed it off and went home and waited for her.

B returned 1 1/2 hours later and gave me a quick hug as we were going out again and I asked if she wanted to come. She said yes.

We went out riding dirt bikes.. I didn’t ride but she was adamant she was.
Long story short she ended up in hospital with a broken back and collar bone and finger.

When I got there to swap with R she told me that she’s seen the baby and it’s okay and she knows what it is .. it’s a girl! But we can’t tell R yet ..

So after talking to doctors and changing between me and R we get to a ward.
I needed to go home so R and I left, and things got weird from there.

B said she was hungry at 1am so I took her up food… but she had somehow got heaps of juices from the supermarket etc etc …

The next day R was pissed and didn’t want to go up. When we finally decided to go up they were putting her in a back brace.. and her stomach was a lot flatter…
Her mother told us we would find out what happened etc

R started going off on B asking wtf is going on and she said she lost the baby and it was being removed tomorrow..

While R went downstairs for a smoke I went and talked to the doctor, only to discover, she wasn’t and isn’t pregnant at all..

So went into the room and i told her she has something to tell me and she better fucking say it
She told me while crying then told R and he lost it.

Then the getting high thing came up so we took pre from her catheter without her knowing and we drug tested it.. but we read it wrong! It wasn’t till the next day I realised

So we did another one , and of course it was positive , the her mother came over with pee in a cup from herr catheter and we tested and was positive ,
This is when shit got so strict

We told her we know she’s high (while she’s denying it) showed her the tests and told her if she wants to come home with us and not her mom she needs to spill the beans

So she had been using drugs like R thought , the entire time. Reckons she didn’t know if she was pregnant or not her body was just changing, but continued using drugs lol k

B lost custody of her child to her husband so that was wild too.

Anyway we got back to a normal .. sorta and became a throuple…

Well it was fucking all bad
Many arguments
B moved out , we moved.
I was over it, R wasn’t. B knew I could see through her games, so we both pulled away. It became all about R and B and I was alone basically.

R and I almost broke up
B was doing her “we will talk in the morning, I love you xo”
Not once did we speak

Everyday my day was dependent on Rs mood about B..
Usually it was bad.

We had to hide that we were speaking to B from everyone because of the custody thing, apparently talking and seeing us was named as a breach and not allowed.. and she had to have hair follicle drug tests but was still passing them despite the fact she had heaps of drugs the month prior

Then 2 days after Rs bday she said to him “I can’t risk losing her son and blocked us both! And while messaging me asking what I was doing , suddenly my reply won’t send and her number, Facebook and instagram are not found.

Now is where the true her comes to light
I went to see her husband and talk to him because I Knew something was off

She told the court and her mum and everyone that WE were the ones giving her drugs, and we were violent and she applied for protection orders but they were denied and that she’s had no contact with us for 3+ months and her life is getting better since…

Well I said .. no , showed him all the evidence that we saw her 4 days ago and that she’s told us she was pregnant but lied and kept smoking drugs etc etc
Found out we weren’t allowed around her son because of her lies

Then the person she stopped talking to came to see me. We said we know B has probably said this and this and this and she said yeah, so we showed her EVERYTHING and told her everything and then she shared with us that R and I were controlling her, we won’t let her talk to this person and we control her phone and everything, we MADE her come home with us and WE kept telling everyone she was pregnant and she didn’t know why and told them all it’s cause they don’t want me to be around people blah blah blah

Then when i showed this person the messages with pregnancy test she informed us that B said “might tell them im pregnant as a laugh”
Then continued telling us that she moved out to get away from our toxic behaviour

She was “faking” her hair follicle drug tests by bleaching/dying her hair and using stripped shampoos. She was and probably still is an active user..

So basically she took no accountability for losing her son, lying about being pregnant, spreading lies about it us etc etc

I’m literally fucking fuming about this still, like why does she get to lie about us and make us look bad to everyone without taking ANY accountability!?!

It’s setting me off more because iv been told she’s moved because she is scared we will break in or some shit, she got a camera because she didn’t feel safe.. because of us! Told people more lies about us but doesn’t say ANYTHING that makes her look bad except “i should’ve left sooner”
COULDNT AGREE MORE.

The good memories make me miss her company but all this shit outweighs the good lol

And I’m sick of people having my name in their mouths thinking they know the truth…
So would I be the A-hole for posting all the screenshots and evidence of her lies so everyone can see?