r/R4R30Plus

Im in the phase if I dont make an effort, things wouldnt happen - that is basically the gist of the last 4-5 years for me with dating and men.

Although Ive been told both a pretty face and a funny personality, I identify as hilarious first. I consider myself run-of-the-mill active person: run, gym, sports. I am a big city girl so if youre someone who lives like a recluse/hermit or aspire to live on a farm somewhere, that cant be me.

I am a little odd for reddit as I have no interests in gaming or board games whatsoever. I do love reading though, usually do about 10-15 books per year.

Tried dating apps, was made to feel like I am in a meat market. Honestly, if youre a man with nonchalant attitude and spotty comms, we wont work - this girl wont carry one sided conversations.

While I dont mind single parent and am one myself, my kid is 19yo and he is his own person. If youre a parent to young kid(s), I understand the commitment to raising them but I do not wish to play parent to young ones.

Im at the age where I actually do care how a man look after himself physically, mentally and emotionally as I put effort into looking, feeling, behaving good. Cliche but I do prefer taller men - it is what it is. A man recently was jilted by me and asked if I would be more keen if I know he made more than a million a year to which I replied while financial stability is important to me, arrogance and bragging is not.

Well I hope thats enough to start conversation without intimidating anyone. I dont mind distance, one of the perks working in aviation is the flexibility to travel. But I do mind halfhearted conversation, so please be decent in your introduction and messaging. Be within the age range of 34 to early 40s.

Age preference: 29 to 30

Strictly decent

Anyone interested.

I had a great sleep and would love a lady to shoot the breeze with. Someone interesting, deep, funny, flirty, and has a bit of a struggle in life. I find the most interesting people are the ones who overcame a struggle and are in a good place to open up and share

Hi hi

I’m looking for a crafty friend that’s into the same things I am.

I’d like to get into snail mail

Not letters but crafty things.

I also have a wreck this journal id like to send around to strangers to fill out.

I manage an art studio full time.

I clean on the side.

I’m a horror enthusiast.

I go to weekly trivia.

I gym when I can.

I like to craft/color.

I’m a 5’2” sleepy girl that meows quite a bit.

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Capricorn☀️ Sagittarius 🌙 Taurus ⬆️

🇵🇷 ¡Se habla español! 🇵🇷

Let’s chat and see where it goes.

I’m from the Philippines. If that’s an issue, you can skip. No hard feelings.

I’m just looking for someone to talk to, smthn real and consistent, not the kind of connection that disappears when it gets slightly inconvenient.

It’s my birthday week and I’m heartbroken, so I guess this is me choosing connection instead of overthinking everything alone.

I’m soft but sarcastic, I show up when I can and I don’t do games.

I’m not here to be impressed or to impress anyone, just here for a genuine conversation with someone who knows how to stay.

If you’re still here, say hi. Or don’t overthink it.

If you’re tired of low budget dating and looking for a connection with actual production value, we’re off to a good start. I’m 35, Sydney based, and ready to swap the endless scrolling for a genuine, long term story.

About me

• I’m a corporate white collar professional and a chill, down to earth ambivert. I value social awareness and clear, direct communication without the guessing games
• I’m strictly monogamous. I want a long term partner, not a rotation- don't have the Excel skills or the patience to manage a roster
• I’ve been told my Australian accent is cute, but it’s actually charming enough to convince you that another packet of Tim Tams is a logical life choice
• I’m into everything from gigs and art galleries to hiking, burlesque, photography, vinyl and a serious matcha/tea obsession. It’s a lifestyle so packed that if I’m ever reported missing, the police will have a very frustrating afternoon. I’ve left a few hobbies off the list just to see if you’re actually good at asking questions
• Dry, self deprecating, and heavily influenced by British/Australian humour. Expect a lot of puns and dad jokes - I don’t apologise for them, I just lean into them
• Petite (5 ft 1), active (gym 4–5x a week), I'm fit, I’m a non smoker, drug free, and an occasional drinker. I prefer my dopamine naturally sourced, though I will occasionally outsource it to a good wine
• University educated, speak 3 languages and still on my first life chapter (no marriage, don't have kids yet)-multilingual still occasionally lost in translation. I’m ready for the family life, provided the kids are prepared for a childhood soundtracked exclusively by 90s Disney
• I'm agnostic/atheist, progressive and left wing
• No ink and no piercings here -I’m like a classic, unreleased vinyl, no scratches, no skips, and strictly original packaging.
• I’m a bit like a good book- the more you read, the more you’ll want to find out what happens in the next chapter.

What I'm after

• Ages 30–39 (I’m sticking to the 30s bracket. Not someone who’s already past this or someone who thinks the year 2000 is vintage)
• Genuinely single, monogamous, and looking for an LTR
• No kids from previous relationships - I'm looking to start that chapter from page one not into an existing parenting role
• Fit, active, slim and healthy and leads an active lifestyle
• university educated (or at least on the same wavelength as me)
• I’m looking for my groan mate - someone who appreciates a pun or humour so dry it requires a glass of water and a dad joke so bad it’s borderline criminal. I’m not intimidating, I just appear that way on paper.
• I’ve officially retired from the tasting menu of dating. I’m looking for a full course, monogamous meal - no shared appetisers and definitely no side dishes
• Please be agnostic/atheist, progressive and leftie
• Fairly classic in style - natural, no tattoos or piercings
• Looking for someone who keeps it clean - no drugs, no smoking, and only occasional drinking
• Socially switched on - you can read the room, communicate clearly and don't turn basic conversations into a guessing game
• I’m looking for someone taller who can reach the top shelf without a step ladder.
• In the market for someone kind, honest, and communicative. I’m looking for a full disclosure agreement, not a mystery novel where I have to guess the plot twists in chapter twelve
• We’re on a similar wavelength (shared interests help, but it's more about energy and intention)
• I’m definitely looking to have kids in the future, but I want to build that from the beginning with the right person
• Ideally, you’re already in Sydney but I’ll entertain a global recruitment if you’re genuinely planning to relocate. I’m a fan of grand gestures, but eventually sharing a time zone helps

Chemistry matters just as much as compatibility - the right fit should be feel easy, not forced. If you’ve scrolled through my profile and think our wavelengths actually match up, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s skip the 'hey'- it usually doesn't get us far.

Instead, send over a SFW photo so we can exchange visual resumes (I’ll match your energy with mine) and kick things off with a terrible pun, a useless fun fact, or a question about something delightfully random, a great song, share a playlist or even a bad pick up line. Whether you’re already in Sydney or serious about making a move here to close the gap, I’m looking for someone who wants the same things and isn't afraid to lead with a bit of personality.

Let’s see if we click.

Mexican-American, 5’1, curvy from Chicago. I’m somewhere between sarcastic and sweetheart depending on the day.

Into good movies, a great book, and conversations that actually go somewhere. Back in school, so late night chats are kind of my thing. Open to voice chats if the vibe is right.

Looking for my favorite person..you know, the one worth texting back at midnight.

30+, anywhere in the world. Bonus points if you’ve got a UK accent. DM me with something better than hey. Xx

Thai woman living in Malaysia looking for a serious relationship. Message me 🌸

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Hi everyone. I’m a 36 year old guy, fairly introverted by nature, and I’m hoping to connect with people who enjoy genuine, thoughtful conversation.

I’m drawn to reading, philosophy, economics, music, films, and travel. In philosophy, I tend to gravitate more toward Camus, and I also find myself returning often to Socrates, Descartes, Sartre, and Simone Weil. I’m interested in conversations that go beyond small talk, about ideas, life, meaning, human nature, and the strange business of being alive.

Music means a lot to me too. My taste ranges from classical to rock, but melody is always important to me. I love bands like Dire Straits, Pink Floyd, and Queen.

Travel has shaped me a great deal as well. I’ve been fortunate enough to visit many countries, and I think experiencing different places and cultures changes you in quiet but lasting ways. It gives perspective and enriches you as a person.

I’m not always at my best in group settings or very socially intense environments, so I feel more comfortable connecting one to one, online, where conversations can develop more naturally. I’d really enjoy getting to know people who value depth, curiosity, sincerity, and a bit of humour.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’d be happy to chat, and if we get along.

A bit about me:

My name is Stephanie, I’m 35 and live in Western Canada - specifically Alberta. I enjoy things such as music(blink 182 is my all time favorite band, and has been since I was 14. I like movies, and tv shows, with a preference for horror. I enjoy shopping, getting my nails done, and spending time with my people. I like to go for walks, and find it important to get some exercise in every day.

I am looking for new, interesting people to chat with, with the hopes of finding a consistent online friend.

I am looking to chat with people who are 30+, who are interested in holding and maintaining a conversation. If you show me effort, I will show effort back! I prefer to chat with people that take the time to type out full words/sentences - I’m not a grammar nazi by any means, but it drives me crazy reading entire words of sentences reduced to a couple letters.

If this interests you, send me a chat request / introduction, please include your name, age, location(as specific or as general as you’d like to be is fine!), and include a couple of interests or something you think is important to know about you / that can help start a conversation. Please include an answer to the icebreaker question below as well: what are your top 5 favorite movies? Can be all time top 5, top 5 currently, or just the first 5 that come to mind that you love!

In a dating context nerdiness seems to imply video games, sci-fi, engineering, and maybe even some Seneca. All perfectly good things!

But my version leans more old books and unresolvable questions. More medieval monastery / dark academia and less GitHub or modern fandom.

I collect rare books and manuscripts on mind, soul, morality. I like a lot of independent time to read, think, write. And when I am social, I love conversations that wander in the grey and hypothetical.

I’m not a hermit. I’ve lived in big cities all over the world and large parts of my professional life and intellectual curiosities are bound to technology. But lately I feel pulled toward a life that isn’t optimized to death. It would be nice to share that with someone.

If you dream of discussing the likes of Augustine or Heidegger by firelight, or debating theories on time and consciousness with no care for a clock, then you’re my flavor of nerd.

You don’t have to be an academic, just someone who follows ideas because they’re interesting not because they’re useful. And I’m a sucker for someone with a slightly offbeat inner world who can be intense and playful in the same breath. Think Alan Watts!

If any of this sparked something in you then I’d love to hear from you.

I’m not bound to a location so you can be from anywhere. Europe is calling a bit, but I’m just as open to letting the right person lead me somewhere unexpected.

I'm a 31-year-old entrepreneur who balances the high-stakes drive of building a business with a genuine love for great stories, sharp wit, and even better food.

Whether I'm navigating a complex strategy on the chessboard, experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen, or losing myself in a cinematic masterpiece, I'm someone who appreciates both the hustle and the downtime. When I'm not working or exploring a new travel destination, I'm usually scouting for the next live stand-up show to catch there's nothing quite like the energy of a comedy club and a perfectly timed punchline. I'm looking for a woman who is intellectually curious and shares that blend of ambition and playfulness.

If you're up for a chess match, a night of laughs, or just want to exchange travel stories, reach out and tell me who your favourite comedian is or the last show you absolutely binged!

I'm 33 m uk, looking for new friends, long term preferred but if you only want a quick chat it's cool. age or gender doesn't bother me, just leave your age, gender and location when you message, just so I know who I'm talking to please (I can't stress this enough)

Some of my interests are:

Gaming (ps5)

Wrestling

Sports (football, rugby, F1)

Cooking (I'm a chef)

Music (into most genres)

Tv and films

Reading

Nature

Animals

If you see anything we have in common, it you just want someone to rant to or chill with, send me a DM or leave a comment 🙂

Hi! I am 35 year old black bbw looking for someone interesting to talk to. I like talking over texting and open to discord.

What people say about me: I am fun, funny, and easy to talk to and I am hoping you are the same. Also, would like for you to be in the USA.