r/ODDSupport

Hi. My son is five. I don’t even know where to begin honestly. Whoever takes time to read this, thank you so much. He was a tough toddler who grew into a tough preschooler. He is extremely smart, charming, friendly and well spoken. But man is he something else……. He just wants to do what he wants to do. He never listens the first time. For example at the grocery store he kept putting his toy boat on the scale and I told him twice to stop and he didn’t listen so I raised my voice. Once you raise your voice at him, he spirals. He’ll double down by becoming extra silly or extra hyperactive which will get him into even more trouble. When we got home from the store I told him he’s not allowed to watch tv because of how he acted at the store. He called me “nasty” so I sent him to his room where he proceddd to roll around on his bed kicking his wall and whining. The good news is he’s able to kind of move on from it on about 10ish minutes but then he’ll just end up doing something again and the cycle repeats. No form of discipline fixes this behavior.

At school he comes home with all his work done but I’m told he has a “strong personality” and he plays rough and doesn’t respect others boundaries when they tell him to stop doing something which worries me a lot. He’ll turn it on the other kid and say, “he’s being mean he doesn’t want to play I’m not your friend anymore!” When in reality the kid doesn’t want to play anymore bc my son is too rough. Again he came upstairs with one of my favorite books wanting to read it (it’s an adult horror book 🙄) I said why do you have that book? He said I wanted it. I said did you ask me? He says no. I say go put it away that’s mommy’s book and he says UGH FINE YOURE SO BORING IM LEAVING YOU UP HERE ALONE. And he storms downstairs to put the book away.

I really never know what I’m going to get when it comes to him day to day. I don’t know if I’m going to get a sweet boy or a moody teenager. He knows he’s not allowed to touch the microwave, does it anyway and will push our hands away when we tell him to stop. I tell him to stop playing with dirty dishes in the sink and he continues. He just doesn’t listen. Can someone help?

My daughter (8) was diagnosed ADHD and ODD almost two years ago I thought for some dumbass reason having a diagnosis would help it hasn't trying to explain odd to my family is like trying to explain to a toddler how to make a cake from scratch. They make comments about how they think it's just a made up thing blah blah blah we've tried teaching then about giving options instead of making demand or other things we've learned help someday. We moved to a new school district this year and I kid you not at least once a week we get a ten paragraph message about her and issues. I'm fed up we all are. Husband and I are considering homeschooling this upcoming 3rd grade year as an alternative because of all the issues. He is a stay at home dad we chose this after having so many issues finding child care for her that didn't cost an arm and leg and also to add more structure to get life I am a workaholic plus a student I have ADHD and a lot of days I hate to admit but I can't stand her I have 4 other kids 2 with adhd as well but they are all amazing kids they are honest and very dependable. They also face a lot of issues when it comes to dealing with their little sister. My daughter loves to do school work she is advanced in that department she has always been advanced sometimes it's a bad thing (porn addiction I had no clue there was porn on YouTube) we've placed so many precautions at school last year but this new school just kinda shrugged their shoulders at her diagnosis and I hate that. Anyways ADHD remember (I can't stay on topic to save my life) so what is everyone's thought on homeschooling a child with these conditions