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Hi. My son is five. I don’t even know where to begin honestly. Whoever takes time to read this, thank you so much. He was a tough toddler who grew into a tough preschooler. He is extremely smart, charming, friendly and well spoken. But man is he something else……. He just wants to do what he wants to do. He never listens the first time. For example at the grocery store he kept putting his toy boat on the scale and I told him twice to stop and he didn’t listen so I raised my voice. Once you raise your voice at him, he spirals. He’ll double down by becoming extra silly or extra hyperactive which will get him into even more trouble. When we got home from the store I told him he’s not allowed to watch tv because of how he acted at the store. He called me “nasty” so I sent him to his room where he proceddd to roll around on his bed kicking his wall and whining. The good news is he’s able to kind of move on from it on about 10ish minutes but then he’ll just end up doing something again and the cycle repeats. No form of discipline fixes this behavior.

At school he comes home with all his work done but I’m told he has a “strong personality” and he plays rough and doesn’t respect others boundaries when they tell him to stop doing something which worries me a lot. He’ll turn it on the other kid and say, “he’s being mean he doesn’t want to play I’m not your friend anymore!” When in reality the kid doesn’t want to play anymore bc my son is too rough. Again he came upstairs with one of my favorite books wanting to read it (it’s an adult horror book 🙄) I said why do you have that book? He said I wanted it. I said did you ask me? He says no. I say go put it away that’s mommy’s book and he says UGH FINE YOURE SO BORING IM LEAVING YOU UP HERE ALONE. And he storms downstairs to put the book away.

I really never know what I’m going to get when it comes to him day to day. I don’t know if I’m going to get a sweet boy or a moody teenager. He knows he’s not allowed to touch the microwave, does it anyway and will push our hands away when we tell him to stop. I tell him to stop playing with dirty dishes in the sink and he continues. He just doesn’t listen. Can someone help?

Hi. My son is five. I don’t even know where to begin honestly. Whoever takes time to read this, thank you so much. He was a tough toddler who grew into a tough preschooler. He is extremely smart, charming, friendly and well spoken. But man is he something else……. He just wants to do what he wants to do. He never listens the first time. For example at the grocery store he kept putting his toy boat on the scale and I told him twice to stop and he didn’t listen so I raised my voice. Once you raise your voice at him, he spirals. He’ll double down by becoming extra silly or extra hyperactive which will get him into even more trouble. When we got home from the store I told him he’s not allowed to watch tv because of how he acted at the store. He called me “nasty” so I sent him to his room where he proceddd to roll around on his bed kicking his wall and whining. The good news is he’s able to kind of move on from it on about 10ish minutes but then he’ll just end up doing something again and the cycle repeats. No form of discipline fixes this behavior.

At school he comes home with all his work done but I’m told he has a “strong personality” and he plays rough and doesn’t respect others boundaries when they tell him to stop doing something which worries me a lot. He’ll turn it on the other kid and say, “he’s being mean he doesn’t want to play I’m not your friend anymore!” When in reality the kid doesn’t want to play anymore bc my son is too rough. Again he came upstairs with one of my favorite books wanting to read it (it’s an adult horror book 🙄) I said why do you have that book? He said I wanted it. I said did you ask me? He says no. I say go put it away that’s mommy’s book and he says UGH FINE YOURE SO BORING IM LEAVING YOU UP HERE ALONE. And he storms downstairs to put the book away.

I really never know what I’m going to get when it comes to him day to day. I don’t know if I’m going to get a sweet boy or a moody teenager. He knows he’s not allowed to touch the microwave, does it anyway and will push our hands away when we tell him to stop. I tell him to stop playing with dirty dishes in the sink and he continues. He just doesn’t listen. Can someone help?

Hi my son is five. He’s still in prek 4 due to a late bday. He’s def a lot and hyper and he plays rough he needs reminders to chill out sometimes and that not everyone likes to play rough. His teacher just told me he was playing with a friend outside everything was fine they were laughing and running playing some game. Then my son put his hands around his friends neck. Oh my God wtf. The teacher said it was not out of anger they were both playing she asked my son why he did that he said he didn’t know and she made him sit out for five minutes and apologize. She explained that even if we’re playing we don’t do that. She said he seemed to understand.

My son has never exhibited behavior like that. He has definitely hit or kicked but he has never choked anyone I don’t even think he knows what it even is or how bad it is. What do I do? I’m so freaked out

Hi guys I just made this account and I’m liking all the advice I’m getting across the board. I’m still trying to figure out what works for my kid. He’s feisty and energetic and tough cookie. What do your weekends look like? Like what’s a typical day look like or behaviors throughout the day? Thank you!

Edit: maybe this was too vague. I’m just curious to see what your day looks like when your five year old is home all day with you and what their behavior looks like if it’s similar to my kid because I’m really struggling right now with what is typical behavior and what might be something more

My lil dude is five. He has absolutely been giving us a run for our money and for once I think I truly feel out of control and at my wits end. Just a little run down of our day:

Woke up. Played with Legos. Fought us to clean up his toys until we threatened him and he cried. Called us mean and nasty and said he hates cleaning up. But he eventually did it. Ate lunch. Whined that he didn’t want his lunch. Whined for more orange juice even though I told him no because he already had a lot and it’s too much sugar. Called me mean and told me I don’t love him. It’s raining here so I suggested movie theater. Of course he quickly and painlessly cleaned up his toys so that we could leave for the movies 🙄 whined for me to put his sneakers on and I said he’s a big boy and knows how to do it himself. Slammed his sneakers down out of anger but put them on. absolute angel baby during the movie. Stayed seated the whole time and enjoyed his snacks and the movie. Got home. Frantically started looking for a toy that we haven’t seen in weeks (I honestly have no idea where it is) and cried because he couldn’t find it. Wanted to go up to his playroom to play. Cool. I joined him and set a timer for 10 minutes and told him when the timer goes off it would be time for PJs, one show, and bed. Timer goes off. He cleans up but goes to grab his trains. I explain that playtime is over He yells IN MY FACE “I’m just getting two trains that’s it!” I tell him he may not speak to me that way and to put the trains back. He’s crying. We go downstairs to watch a show. He’s only allowed PBS Kids and he starts whining to watch a show on Netflix. I remind him of the rules. He throws himself on the floor hysterically sobbing. I give up and tell him that this is utter nonsense and we’re going the f\*\*\* to bed. He cries a little more and then passes out within minutes.

what the hell? I thought it was “survive until five”? Is this normal?!? Im sitting on my couch mentally and emotionally drained from him today.