r/Nonbinaryfashion

Today, I finally got a new ID with my correct name and gender marker! This is what I wore for the ID pic. Though most of it will be cropped in the final ID, I took today as an excuse to dress up and wear my new linen chore coat.

I originally posted this in the ties subreddit. However, that community is mostly cis men and their sense of style is a little conventional and honestly, boring for my taste. I immediately got annoyed by comments telling me to tone it down.

I realized here might be a better place to post this.

I’m GNC/Agender, I don’t see myself as female, but I have a v large bust and am plus sized.

I actually became obese partly through eating as a desperate attempt to de-sexualize my body post sexual trauma. I find the male gaze so difficult to deal with I barely leave the house (I go out only to medical appointments usually).

Since childhood I’ve dressed in the most ungendered clothes I can (jeans/band t shirts and flannels mostly). My body’s still read as female by everyone I encounter because of my chest. I’ve tried thousands of dollars worth of bras and binders, but a spinal deformity and chronic pain have meant binders are hell to wear. When I was thinner still had a very oversized bust and got endless unwanted sexual looks and comments over it.

Although I very much want top surgery and have for several decades, surgery is not an option due to multiple disabilities and health conditions having to take priority and making top surgery prohibitively expensive and too risky.

When searching for fashion options to try and feel more comfortable out in the world I’ve looked for plus size androgyny, plus size transmasc fashion, plus sized butch, plus sized gnc or nb fashion etc. what I’ve found tends to be like the image attached to this post - very cute outfits that are in no way androgynous and still draw attention to the model’s curves.

Does anyone have suggestions for styles that would help hide my chest, detract attention from my perceived female-ness and help me perceived more as a ‘human’ as opposed to a man/woman by others? How others perceive me doesn’t match at all with how I perceive myself and I’d like to try and see if I can present in a way that is perceived as more genderless than either male or female.

TLDR: the image isn’t genderless enough for my tastes, what can I do as an NB AFaB with a big bust to de-gender the way people perceive me?

Thanks so much.

Many can probably relate but it sucks coming up with outfits and then just never leaving the house with them

Just got these shorts today and couldn’t stop squealing. As a disabled, curvy, trans masc who prefers loud and big patterns it’s been a heckuva thing to find comfy around the house shorts that would feel affirming if I have to answer the door or run out for groceries. Priority was on comfort, natural fibers, affordability and relaxed fit. And thankfully these shorts are EXACTLY what I was looking for.

The euphoria I felt putting these pants on (and the way it delightfully clashed/matches the freak of the shirt and bra!) was unparalleled for me.

Just wanted to post for other big peeps out there sick of boring clothes or lack of representation of bold patterns on big bods. Love your curves and keep looking. There’s color to be found out there
😉❤️‍🔥🫶🌈

Trying to feel more myself and dress like it, I definitely feel good in this outfit! 🏳️‍🌈

Fun look i put together not long ago .

As the title says! I bought this skirt and I want to style it to be androgynous/ queer and less 'preppy' vibes. I don't want to wear it over pants - some people slay that but it's just not my vibe :) I'm gonna wear it on my college campus so I can be a bit out there without fear haha

Thanks y'all ! <3

My gateway to identifying as genderfluid/fem/enby was realizing how jealous I was of girls in grade school who wore knee high socks with their uniforms. So wearing tall socks is very gender-affirming for me. But does this particular outfit look better with or without socks under boots?