r/MyEx

Hello. I am a resident doctor and recently has broken up with my boyfriend. We were in a happy live-in relationship and everything was going well including academics. All of a sudden he broke up with me and his so called new friends has barged into his room and doing weeding and all. I have been shattered by the way he broke up with me. But i still am concerned about his health and life! These people are staying in his room , living off his money and feeding him marijuana.. i went to visit him today and found him puking at the basin. Which i have never witnessed in the past one year of our relationship. I want to save his life. Please help!! His friends are jobless and are leeches. They aren’t even allowing me to meet him. Please help or suggest me what should i do

Found out my ex was in a whole other relationship for 6 months and was fucking other dudes too. She lied about everything and I ended up getting gonorrhea when I decided to leave. Theres so much to it but if you guys wanna talk about it im down. It was so toxic. The sex was the best part but she was a whore. I feel devastated. I blocked her on everything and wanna move on but it's gonna be tough. I appreciate the replies.

I (19NB) dated my ex (19M) last year, Aug 2024-Mar 2025 and broke up with him after he r*ped me again and boundary’s surrounding sex were murky throughout the relationship because I didn’t feel entirely safe and comfortable. I never went to the police as the incidents were too traumatic and I didn’t want to be re-traumatized through the court system but I have proof of him admitting to this over text. Every so often I online snoop to see if he has a new partner to warm them, I feel guilty everyday I wasn’t strong enough to go to the police. So my question is, would I be a “petty ex” to PM this girl (19F) about his past or should I move on? Morally, I want to warn her, but I’m worried about any potential fall back or if this is the wrong thing to do.

Sorry about the censoring, I’m not sure if I should do that in this sub so I did just incase. Feel free to ask any clarifying questions. I’ll update if this helps.

Edit: I’ve messaged her but no reply, should I reach back out? I feel horrible.

My regret everything about my ex. I don't miss him and I really don't think I loved him. Now I see everything. He had me under his control. Now that I took it back poor cheater is upset because I replaced him. Mind you I didn't do wrong he did LMAO. I'm thankful I never married him dodged a big one there. I pray never to see or hear him again. He makes my stomach turn he's not that attractive and is with way to many women.

You're the one that ended the relationship. You're the one that moved on immediately, with the guy you kept telling me was "just a friend". You're the one that lied throughout the entire relationship. You're the one that broke the trust between us, over and over again. You're the one that clearly didn't love me as much as I loved you. You're the one that ruined everything. You're the one that needs to just finish the job. You're the one that wants no contact. You're the one that needs to send me my stuff, so I won't have anything to contact you about anymore.

Unless that's our plan? Keeping my stuff so I still have to talk to you? But then why the fuck are you not talking to me? I understand that you're full of guilt and regrets, but you're gonna have to get over that and either send me my stuff or talk to me. I don't wanna have to fly all the way back and forth just to come get it myself. I want to be civil about this, and just move on, but you're making it way harder than it needs to be.

You're right that breaking up was the right decision for both of us. Long distance was never gonna work after you broke the trust so many times. It was causing us both more stress than anything else. It's sad, because I really did love you more than anything. I loved you so much that I abandoned my friends, family, career, country and mental health just to be with you. You repaid me by lying, cheating, going behind my back and gaslighting me into thinking I was the problem.

All I ever did was love you and ask to be treated with respect. You were incapable of that. I was having to beg for phone calls with you, and then actually never even getting them, because I was not a priority for you and you didn't respect me. Sleeping with him a week after the breakup definitively proved that you never really gave a shit about me. I was just a toy for you to play with and then cast aside when you had finished breaking me completely.

I need to get my life back together, but I can't do that while we still have unfinished business. Let me move on, like you have already done. Send me my stuff so we can finish this awful chapter of our lives.

So this is going back quite a few years ago but It still pops up in my head sometimes.

So we had a relationship for a couple of years and a few years after we split he said to me, "you are not a girl that a bloke would look at twice , but if they got to know you they would think you was alright"..... Now don't get me wrong I love honesty so in a way I appreciated that he was so straight forward about it, it wasn't until after the meet up I thought it was a strange comment, but I don't know, What do you think? And what comments have stayed with you?