I (19NB) dated my ex (19M) last year, Aug 2024-Mar 2025 and broke up with him after he r*ped me again and boundary’s surrounding sex were murky throughout the relationship because I didn’t feel entirely safe and comfortable. I never went to the police as the incidents were too traumatic and I didn’t want to be re-traumatized through the court system but I have proof of him admitting to this over text. Every so often I online snoop to see if he has a new partner to warm them, I feel guilty everyday I wasn’t strong enough to go to the police. So my question is, would I be a “petty ex” to PM this girl (19F) about his past or should I move on? Morally, I want to warn her, but I’m worried about any potential fall back or if this is the wrong thing to do.
Sorry about the censoring, I’m not sure if I should do that in this sub so I did just incase. Feel free to ask any clarifying questions. I’ll update if this helps.
Edit: I’ve messaged her but no reply, should I reach back out? I feel horrible.