r/MuslimsWithHSV

Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh

I am a single mom of 4 I am 29… been divorced for 1.5 years now

I married my ex when I was 19 and met him at 16 he reverted and so did I alhamdulillah fast forward ten years later well he didn’t take the deen seriously and I did… I stayed for a long time for the sake of the children but eventually I had to leave for their safety and mine (abuse)

Now I feel I will be alone always not only I have HSV1 I also have 4 children and I don’t see any brother wanting to marry a woman with 4… I am actually a beautiful woman and I take really good care of myself I eat clean I workout… the thing is I made a big mistake by staying with my ex for so long and having more kids with him and I know that…. I am now a teacher at a local madrassa where I live, I am a niqabi, I consider myself to be salafi alhamdulillah… I am just really struggling with the realization that i probably won’t get married again yes I focus on my kids and my life and my deen but to be honest it’s really difficult sometimes and I want someone beside me to make things easier… is there anyone else with a similar situation (single mom) who got remarried maybe they can give me some hope or advice 🥲

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>Location: London, UK

>Marital Status: Single, never married

>Have Any Children: No Diagnosed

>HSV Type: HSV-1 (G)

>Ethnicity: East African

>The Age Range You Are Seeking: 27-32

>Height Preference: 5'5" or taller

>Educational Level/Profession: Graduate, Economist

>Willingness to Relocate: Not Willing to Relocate

>Role of Wali: Preferably involved in the initial stages of communication

>Other Details/Preferences: Seeking someone fluent in English and enjoys traveling

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5. ⁠Any posts that are unrelated or do not follow the format of the post will be removed. If you are concerned about privacy you can leave some sections as blank but no low effort posts. Alternatively, if you have a profile bio from any marriage apps, you can share this however, ensure it does not expose too much personal information.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Normally I am some who looks on the brightside of things but lately its been so difficult trying to get married and dont dont get me wrong my muzz profile is doing so well الحمد الله however I have Type 2 herpes lol and when I tell my match that the reaction is what you'd expect and cant blame them for not moving foward and the brothers who do have hsv are vast ان شاءالله but im not getting anywhere with them so im starting to feel as of my best option is to just give up on marriage and accept the fact that it wont happen for me

و عليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاتة

Amatullah a 28 yr old single musmalima

P.s. thanks for letting me rant 🙂 🫶🏾

I told the dr I had pain in my groin and buttocks area Thursday morning May 7th along with discomfort when I urinated lasted for about 2 days
I felt a bump under my public hair so I used a trimmer with a guard to get it as low as possible so I can see it

Went to the Dr today 4-5days later to examine the bump and explained the symptoms.

Dr examined it with gloves and said this was not herpes and could be many other things and gave me a general panel? HIV,chlam, syph gohn

I asked her to add hsv testing to my lab which she did not recommend but my lab is saying it’s an extra 200.00 not covered so I went home and to think about

Should I go do testing on my own or trust the dr?
Kinda paranoid