r/LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

I really didn't get what was the truble with Georgie 🤔 i liked her jokes and I thought that in the park she was spot on. She is just romantic in her own words and ways. When she spoke about doves Connor didn't get it at all because he was more focused on himself. They did not match at all. I think Connor didn't like Georgie as much as he liked having a girlfriend. I remembered from the start thinking- something is not matching here. 🤔

And James on the other hand...he found someone for himself, that's definitely. But I truly think that his parents are true heroes. They are listening to all those facts for the past 30 years, and they handle him with so much humor. Its great!

But all together, i cried and laughed a lot, and i love all of them so much!

I'm rewatching Season 1 and... He's such a gem! 💎

Can we chill on the dogpiling posts? It’s kinda gross bullying people especially on the spectrum. People in this sub preach positivity then post absolute crap. (Idc your opinion on him and Georgie I’m just saying. It’s becoming a lot)

I've been watching since season one, and Connor was definitely a series win when he joined in season 3. He was quickly one of my favorites, and I really liked watching the conversations he had with his family about figuring out the complexities of relationships and boundaries. But this season feels like he's done a 180°. I know a year has passed and a lot has changed in that time. He's working more and more on tv, he seems excited to volunteer for press interviews, attending events with friends. I was so excited to see everything he had been up to when the new season released.

I was kind of disappointed to see that Connor seemed even more selfish this year. I understand the show is following his story and journey specifically, but I felt like Georgie was kind of an afterthought. He was very worried about her no longer being interested in him or the lack of affection, but made absolutely no attempt to ask her why she felt that way, she had to explain herself. And the subsequent dates almost felt like he was dragging her around his life and his interests, yet I don't think I've ever heard him ask her a personal question about herself or her interests on the show. (Obviously i know he has in private, but this is a show)

Don't even get me started on the pub scene. If I were her, I'd have walked out.

I don't know... it just felt like he was steamrolling her every chance he got, snapping at her or scolding her for not following along with his scripted idea of what the moment is supposed to be. It felt extremely disingenuous, perhaps it was just the editing but it felt like Connor emotionally regressed this season and became more selfish before the breakup, and I hate to say that it feels like his mother often caters to his feelings rather than being realistic about his behavior at times.

I don't mean to be hateful or rude to Connor or his family, I just thought I'd throw in my thoughts.

Please have a little humility in your observations of autistic people, here and in real life!

It’s true that autistic people often can’t read the social cues of neurotypical people. But it’s equally true that *neurotypical people can’t read the social cues of autistic people.*

You simply cannot judge our feelings or intentions by our body language, because it is profoundly different than yours (unless we are very high masking). I see it happen here all the time (“Georgie wasn’t paying attention to Connor,” “James is dominating Shelley,” for example) and often in circumstances where it is so clear and obvious to me what is happening. (And sure, it’s reality TV, so any of us can be missing context, but when often the cast clarifies something on social media, we who are autistic were correct in what we were saying.)

Similarly, can we please end this fucking myth that autistic people can’t be expected to feel empathy and are going to be more self-absorbed than others?!?!? First of all, that doesn’t match the current science, and even more importantly, it doesn’t match the autistic experience! Once we allow for a slightly different flavor of empathy, one that doesn’t rely on reading body language, autistics can be *much more* empathetic than others.

We are not the ones who expect the entire world to conform to our expectations, for example! Nor were we the ones tormenting you in school! Give us some credit here, and have some humility about your own experiences.

And please listen to autistic adults when we describe our childhood experiences, *especially* if you have an autistic child! Neurotypical parents *regularly* dismiss us when we say something hurts (like the way Madison’s parents talk about her in front of her) because you think it doesn’t hurt your child. Please consider you might be lacking the social skills and empathy to understand what your autistic kid is going through.

I’ve seen a bunch of people on here saying they hope/expect to see their wedding on the next season or so. Now don’t get me wrong. I enjoy seeing these two and I’m so so happy for them. I wish them a beautiful life together and lots of wonderful moments and memories. And I want their wedding to be one of those, too.

Now, I’m not sure about those two specifically, but we know from other cast members that they get a bit nervous around the cameras/having all the crew around the whole time, right? I feel like a wedding is a very intimate affair for the couple, their families and friends. You’re already super nervous regardless, it’s such a stressful day! Now add a TV camera crew to that? The pressure that would add??

I’d love to see maybe some of the wedding preparations on the show. And of course some beautiful wedding pictures, maybe even a short video filmed by one of the attendees. But I don’t think I would want the TV crew at the wedding (unless the two really really want that). Idk what the point of this post is. Thoughts, I guess?

I enjoy this series, but I often have trouble trying to figure out how it makes me feel.

I have a cousin who is autistic, almost non-verbal, but can speak in words (doesn’t need any assistive technology). He used to tell us that he had a girlfriend in school (he was in my grade, but in life skills), but I don’t think he understood what that meant. He just heard us (his other cousins) saying we had boyfriends/girlfriends. He’s not at the same ability level as the rest of the cast, but he reminds me most of Dylan.

I loved that this season included more diversity. I think for something as specific as autism, it’s important to show those with different races and abilities.

My only thought was, after Dylan spoke about being alone for so long, I feel as if he needs more friends than a relationship. I’m not saying he can’t have a relationship. He should pursue one if he wants, but I think he needs more friendship relationships before he can understand what being in a relationship is to him.

Maybe, I’d just love to see Dylan out with people rather than being alone. Love him. Love how much his mother supports him and I hope he see more happiness in his future!

I get that they don’t pay participants but do they pay for the dates? Don’t they book the dates? If they don’t pay are they basically forcing the participants to spend money where production has chosen (ex LAVO)? Did they contribute to Madison‘s engagement party? I noted that most of the people attending were people we know from the show. Last season they showed her “real” friends but it did not seem like they were in attendance? I assume the show pays for the coaching.

When someone called Madison "Maddie" at The Hermitage and Madison was having some real emotional issues, Tyler was great: at one point he affirmed her name was Madison, he held his hands back (as apparently she has issues with touch sometimes) and was just supportive as hell. Most neurotypical people would likely not do as well supporting their partners in a situation like that. Kudos to Tyler. I feel like that couple is on really solid ground.