r/LavenderMarriageWorld

hello! i know this probably sounds crazy, but hear me out. i'm looking for a long term, dedicated life partner. i'm just less focused on the "romance" part of it, and more practically. i'm open to gay men, asexual men, or straight men who (forever reason) are opting out of regular relationships. i am only interested in people in/around chicago.

about me - i'm a plus sized woman living in the chicagoland area. i am actively working on losing weight if this is a big social issue for you. i understand. otherwise, i have a masters degree & career. i'm mixed arab-white. i love art, writing, going out to museums, and spending time online researching random true crime stuff. i'm somewhere between 5'5 and 5'6. i'm on adhd medication, but have no mental health disorders. generally even keeled emotionally - not a yeller or someone who will fly off the handle. i am in, some ways, a bit socially awkward. as such, i've had very little romantic/sexual experience. i am on a bit of a self improvement kick & using this time to go out more to different classes/clubs, the gym, etc. small family that i am close with. i have no children. no criminal background. i have dark/brunette hair. i do not post on social media often, but i do spend time online. no addictions.

about you (ideally) - i'm looking for a man in the chicagoland area who is 29-45. unmarried, no kids. divorced/widowed is fine. a man who is able to perform some basic "typical" boyfriend behaviors (i.e being a comforting, strong & stable presence). minimal/no mental health issues. ideally at least 5'9. an even keeled emotional person (i.e not someone who screams/yells/throws things/drives recklessly). no criminal background (if its small/old, just let me know). no addictions. open to entering this with a plus size woman. open to marriage EDIT: you do not have to be arab!!! i am very culturally white. i have gotten this question a few times so i wanted to clarify.

about us - everything is up to discussion. this is as new to me as it is to you. we can discuss timeline. we would need to lie about how we met. obviously, this needs to be work for to the both of us. as our life dedication got more serious, we'd talk about ways to arrange our life to make sure its positive and working. NOT OPEN TO BEING A SECOND WIFE/POLY/etc.

BEFORE MESSAGING ME - please include in your message your age, general location, your thoughts on my requirements + which ones you fit/don't fit, your race (doesn't matter, thats why i didn't list a req), and why you're seeking this out. it does not need to be a long / crazy thought out message, but it goes a lot further than 'hi'.

Hello! I’m a 30-year-old professional living in Canada. I’ve been navigating SSA and have come to accept it as a test from Allah. I’m hoping to start a meaningful chapter with a woman who understands this struggle, is committed to growing as a Muslim, and is looking for something long-term, both in this life and the next. I value kindness and warmth, and I’m open to discussing what having children might look like for us. I’m discreet, live a healthy lifestyle, and speak English and Arabic fluently, with some French as well. Family is very important to me, and I hope my partner shares that value.

If this resonates with you, feel free to DM.

I’m a 22 year old Arab woman from a strict family, looking for a marriage of convenience / lavender marriage. I’m straight though. Prefer someone based in the U.S. who understands cultural/family pressure.

Looking for something respectful, discreet, and with clear boundaries. Message me if you’re interested or in a similar situation.

Hi, I’m a 26F currently based in the U.S., living with my girlfriend, and looking for a lavender marriage due to family expectations.

I’m seeking a mutual, respectful arrangement where we both maintain our independent lives, with occasional appearances together for family events. Discretion, clarity, and mutual understanding are important.

Please only reach out if you:

• Are currently in the U.S. or can relocate independently (no visa sponsorship)
• Are vegetarian
• Are not seeking immigration/green card benefits

This is a genuine marriage of convenience, not for romance or legal/immigration purposes.

If this aligns with what you're looking for, feel free to DM with a brief intro about yourself.