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Hi! Anyone here in their 40s na parang slowly losing friends too?

I’m 43 from Iloilo and used to work in Manila for years before moving back home for family. Even back then, I noticed my circle getting smaller. Mas lalo pa here in Iloilo.

I dated guys but I don't want to classify myself as part of the "alphabet" group.

I tried dating apps pero the more I used them, the more draining they felt for my mental peace. Parang mas okay pa rin organic connections.

Maybe because Manila felt more diverse kaya mas madaling makahanap ng ka-vibes. Here in Iloilo, I’ve been struggling to find new friends or even a club to join. Mas may organic encounters pa yata ako noon sa Manila kaysa dito.

These days, I just enjoy quiet cafés, food trips, beaches, and places where I can disconnect and contemplate. My niece is also my little weekend buddy now since I’m helping with her studies, and honestly, seeing her progress feels fulfilling already. Small wins hit different in your 40s.

The older I get, the more I realize peace matters more than chasing people. Maybe attract, don’t chase really works.

Or maybe this is just the trend nowadays?

My biggest advice for people who are confused about their feeling with someone.

Jakol muna, then after nun imagine a life with them.

Results are either Yuck 🤮 or Yes 🤩

HAHAHAHAHHAH jk

I (M, 36) di ko mahiwalayan jowa ko (M, 39) kasi masarap at malaki titi niya. Hahaha sobrang toxic ng relationship namin, nagdo droga pa yang jowa ko pero di ko mahiwalayan kasi yung mga nakaka date ko maliit titi or hindi sila masarap tulad ng jowa ko. Napakababaw ko ba? I feel like napaka independent ko kasing tao na wala akong paki kung shitty yung jowa ko kasi kaya ko naman gawin mga bagay nang mag isa, hindi ko need ng pera nya or emotional support. Need ko lang tlga sya para sa titi niya. Hahaha

Sobrang funny nung yearning pero wala na ako better term HAHAHAHA

Weird ba na parang yearning ako magkaroon ng gay friend circle?

Most of my close friends kasi babae talaga. Mahal ko naman sila and sobrang comfortable ako around them, pero minsan napapaisip ako what it feels like to have a solid group of gay friends na nakakarelate talaga sa experiences mo.

Siguro kaya rin napapadalas ako mag-explore mag-isa ng “gay spaces” or gay experiences kasi wala akong kasama most of the time 😭 Like minsan gusto ko lang may yayaya sayo sa random café, inom, spa, party, or kahit simpleng chikahan na gets agad yung humor, dating stories, insecurities, and energy mo.

Parang ang weird sabihin pero minsan nakakalonely din pala maging gay na walang masyadong kapwa bading around you in a friendship way.

Curious lang if may nakakarelate 😅

Di ako manly, not cross dresser. And hanap ko now talaga is fun. Hopefully exclusive ganon. Pero ang hirap kasi lagi ako rejected.

Lalo ang trip ko is side fun (and ako yung blowee). Hayyy nakaka frustrate lang. clean naman ako, hygienic and I think cute kahit papano.

Wag na kayo mag dare mag cr fun sa taguig lalo na sa sikat na lugar for corporate offices and high end living. Especially sa area ng one bonifacio. Security guards are noticing on the indecent things and constantly checking the washrooms. 🙃

I am not very fit. Dad bod katawan. But I really wanted to wear a black speedo to my beach trip since it's a solo trip. I wanted to be more comfortable with my own body and I want to be proud of my own body. Please share some of your experiences. Tell me how it helped you personally in loving yourself and what helped you overcome social stigmas.

Hey guys!

I am 21VT from Bulacan and just wanna share some thoughts of mine. Recently kasi naisip ko lang why am I still virgin and single? As in NBSB. Mainly because hindi ako naghahanap or lumalandi talaga? Idk may nagpaparamdam naman, specially with hook ups pero nag hehesitate ako.

Nag hesitate me because of my size. Idk if kaya ko bang makapagbigay ng pleasure considering na virgin ako, no experience and below average ang tool size.

Hayss hirap guys, accept ko na lang siguro na mahihirapan talaga me but I am open naman sa possibility.

Hi there I’m a straight guy, Hindi ko alam pero I just wanna try makipag meet up sa isang trans probably to know their reasons or about life. So we planned a coffee date and talks at night. And even told me na hahawak siya sa sa braso in public to feel na safe siya kasama ako. Out of no where niyaya ko siya mag ci para matulog since Ang plan is night magaganap and Ang schedule is galing ako sa work. Di ko knows pero nag ask siya if ano gagawin sa 3 hrs chuchu gusto ko lang mag rest ganon sabi ko parang gusto niya ata or nag iinsist na may mangyari? Pero alam ko po magpigil tbh. Skl lang po

So.. after 2.5 years of moving on from a 5-year relationship, I wanted to give love another try. Carrying all my lessons and scars from my failed long-term relationship, I decided to start dating again but this time with better boundaries.

Saan pa ba ako pupunta edi sa Bumble. Haha. Plus, I heard from a (straight woman) friend na Facebook Dating yields good matches, and so the search for Mr. Right begins. Haha.

Swipe left. Swipe right. Paulit-ulit for hours on end, and by the end of the day, I made several matches. 5 to be exact. Not bad for someone with a below average face card.

I initiated the conversation. Wave. Sagot sa prompt. Asked them how their day was. In all fairness, nagrespond naman yung 5, but only 2 of them gave lively responses.

I tried carrying the conversation. I asked genuine questions based on their profile and tried to lead the conversation to deeper topics only to get crickets for hours or an unenthusiastic “haha kaya nga eh” as a response.

Same thing happened the next day. Matched with new people. Engaged. Dropped. And the day after that. And after that. And a week after, mangilan-ngilan na lang yung mga nagrerespond sa akin. Most of them, spaced out for days bago magreply.

New matches came in, pero parang napagod na ako after a week. A week of trying to find someone to date, and I feel so drained already. I deleted my account and decided to rest muna.

I’m not exactly sure what went wrong. I asked the right questions and showed genuine interest to their lives. They already know what I look like, so I feel like appearance is a small factor in the equation after matching. Unless namali ng swipe, in which case, not responding will send a clear message. But, no. Nagmemessage pa rin sila.

What I noticed though is most people (or maybe just those with whom I matched with) don’t want to give effort in the “getting to know” phase, which is weird considering na part yun ng initial dating process.

I know it’s exhausting. It’s exactly what I’m feeling right now. But, if you don’t exert effort in the early parts of the dating process, what kind of effort your future partner can expect from you? What if you’re already talking to the person you’ve been praying for for years, but you lost them with your unenthusiastic two-word response.

We all want to be yearned and loved with a burning passion, but we don’t even make an effort to light the candle.

Hindi naman ako desperate. Gusto ko lang ulit mafeel yung kilig. I’m not looking for the next relationship to jump into. I just want to go out on a romantic date and see where it goes. I welcome the prospect of a new relationship, but I’m not rushing into one. Gets ba? Hahaha.

So, every time I get a low-effort, non-chalant, dead-end response, I quickly unmatch them. I will not allow myself to love another low-effort man again. Once is enough. Gusto ko naman mafeel yung reciprocated effort.

So, my question for those na matagal na sa mga dating apps, eto na ba talaga yung bagong dating scene? Should I brace myself the next time I put myself back in the swipe life? Nakakalungkot naman kung oo.

Advice? Comments? Anything? Gusto ko lang din siguro malaman na hindi lang ako yung ganito yung nararamdaman.

Is it gay if I let a guy/gay blow me?

Hi, with male lang po naging relationships ko pero ang concern ko, 3x kong naexperience yung parang naf-fall sa gay friend.

1st when I was in college, a very close gay friend of mine pero pinigilan ko, then sa workmate during early 20s.

Now, kaka 30 ko pa lang, I met someone during my solo travel haha

Sa ladies naman, meron akong 1 naging super close na girl friend during mid 20s, pero di ko nafeel yung tipong gusto kong mag level up, tho, there was a moment na nakakaselos din nung hindi na ako ang niyayaya niyang mag dinner, cafe hop etc.

Alam ko naman ang mga preference nila, pero dumarating sa point na confused ako sa feelings ko dahil sa pagiging caring or closeness?

I don't have any plans umamin, I'm just concerned kung dapat ko ba i-address na hindi ako straight or what?

Or paano ko ba malalaman, what are the steps?

Hello, mga ka-spa goers! Ako pala ‘yung nag-post dati na sobrang excited for a massage. Well, 27 Shaw did not disappoint! Nag-book ako in advance, around 3 days before the date.

Initially, ang kinuha ko ay The Ruler, pero sadly hindi na raw available si Mike. The staff called me about it, so balak ko sana mag-Explorer na lang, pero sabi ko, "f#ck it," nag-change mind ako. I went for The Lover instead for the experience.

The Ambience
Arrived at exactly 6:15 PM. Pagpasok ko pa lang, sobrang bango at very welcoming ng staff. Maganda yung place! Mukhang bago at well-maintained talaga. I’ve been to IS Makati, Bay Area, and CDO, pero iba ang vibe dito sa 27 Shaw. ‘Yun nga lang, medyo maliit lang yung locker room nila, hehe. Very attentive ang staff.

The Massage
Grabe. Ito lang masasabi ko: GRABE! Dalawang beses na 💦, sheeeet! Sarap. Lol. Basta, kung may budget kayo, go try it for the experience.

Wet Area & Interaction
Mixed naman yung crowd. Okay yung iba, mukhang friendly kasi smile lang nang smile. Nag-sauna ako at may lumapit, pero nag-decline na ako kasi wala na akong energy for a third 💦.
Ang routine ko was: sauna, shower, sauna ulit, then steam, shower, then steam. Hahaha! Just enjoying the facilities. Tapos ito na... habang nakaupo ako sa area between the pool/jacuzzi and the hall, may isang guy na grabe makatitig. Hindi ko napansin at first, pero nasa tapat ko lang pala siya. I stared back and gave a nod.
Nilapitan niya ako and offered me to suck his nips, which I did. Then we went to the shower, and ito ang nakaka-surprise—may pumasok na isa pa! Partner niya pala. F#ck, ang hohot nilang dalawa! From fantasy naging reality?? Lol! ‘Yun nga lang, when the first guy tried to f#ck me, I declined. Sorry, I have my reasons. They left the shower and said thank you.

Post-Spa
I left the spa na gutom na gutom, kaya kumain muna ako ng ramen sa Menya. Sarap ng tulog ko after... ‘yun lang! Byeeeee

I just wanted to share my experience and something I’ll probably be experiencing soon. Recently, out of curiosity, I tried using my finger again while masturbating. I can’t really explain the feeling, but it was hot and felt so good that I ended up doing it again the next day.

That got me wondering… if it already feels this good with just my finger, how would it feel with a dick? So later on, I ordered a dildo since, well, I don’t know who’s going to fuck me yet, right? HAHAHAHA.

Guys, give me some advice just in case someone ends up fucking me someday—or at least tips on how to properly use my toy. I think i love being a B. HAHHAHAHA

Hello everyone.

I want some advice po on how to handle DAKS? (7" or bigger)

I have my fair share of experiences sa mga daks. But there was this one time na I encountered a foreigner. First encounter ko sa ganun kalaki, maybe aroung 9" or 10" then girthy. Siguro natrauma ako kasi he was not that gentle once na napasok na niya. He was hitting something inside me na masakit, di na masarap sa feeling, and I bled.

My second encounter was a pinoy na super daks din, maybe around 8" and girthy din. He was gentle pero every time na isasagad niya, may nahihit siya inside me but same painful sensation similar sa foreigner experience.

I am amazed sa mga bottom na nakakayanan ang mga ganun ka daks na di nasasaktan. How to handle monsters po ba? Ano po ang mga preparations needed or what positions po ang best if natapat ka sa halimaw? Hahaha. Thank you po.

I’m weirded out but at the same time sad. I just want to let this all out.

I was an ex member of the INC, handog, masigla, and all that stuff. But when the pandemic started, I started to be vocal about social issues, and the government. Lagi akong inuulat and the minstro told me na ang sabi nung nag-ulat hindi raw sya titigil hangga’t di nya ko napapatiwalag.

Tagumpay naman si mama mama, natiwalag nga ang gae. Whaaha 2 years and counting na.

Anyway, now na lang ulit ako umuwi samin after that. So bonding with the family, cousins, then I told them to watch drag race kasi I have a subscription sa wow presents wahaha & nanonood din naman sila no’n.

Pinigilan kami ng tita namin dahil bawal daw ang kabaklaan sa TV dahil INC ang may-ari. Like what the hell? Mind you, that tita is not matanda, she’s like a late millenial to early gen z ang age.

Sobrang illogical lang! Inaano ka ba ng drag queens? Hahhaha

I am 38 years old, married and with 3 kids, yung bunso namin adopted son namin, iniwan sya sa mismong harapan ng gate namin at mula nun kinupkop nanamin sya. Si Misis ay flight attendant kaya madalas syang walang sa bahay dahil sa trabaho nya. Engineer naman ako sa isang company sa Makati at pabisi bisita nalang sa site paminsan minsan, most of my work at sa office at dahil sa sitwasyon ngayon madalas e WFH na kame para sa output. Fast forward to today, 7 years na yung bunso namin, sya yung katabi namin ni Misis sa kama since yung 2 ay may malalaki na at may sarili na silang room, last quarter last year nagising nalang ako na hinahawakan ng bunso namin yung burat ko, wala nun si Misis sa bahay, hinayaan ko lang sya pinagmamasdan, nagulat ako kase parang alam nya masyado yung ginagawa nya, naisip ko baka sa kapapanood nya ng iPad at hindi nanamin namomonitor mga napapanood nya. Tumatalikod nalang ako palage para matigil sya pero halos araw araw na nya ginagawa lately, patagal ng patagal parang mas natututo pa sya at mas marami na syang alam gawin.... ITUTULOY!