r/IrishDates

Has anyone met someone from this sub? I know there is at least one historical success story, but curious if anyone had better luck.

I've had a couple of conversations with women based in Cork and looking to move to Dublin where I'm from. None of which seemed keen on exchanging pictures or meeting up sometime, so conversations didn't last. The most spiciest conversation was one complaining about the lack of communication with their FWB - Make of that what you will!

I think this sub should be more focused on looking for something long term and real, there isn’t really any other sub for that focused in Ireland. Some users have written large, detailed bio’s or added pictures, fair play to them and good luck. Then you see the other posts. ‘Luckn 4 femal Dublan’ or ‘38 M Dublin.’ And that’s it. An age, gender and city. I mean shit, who is responding to an age, gender and location only? One didn’t even have the gender, a sexual mystery box! There are literally dozens of NSFW hook up subs for Ireland. They get filled with scams and only fans stuff of course, but they still exist. Could this maybe be a different place? I feel like if it’s left to simply become another ‘need hurd cok emty limick’ sub, it will drive off the real, genuine people and slowly wither and die like a neglected house plant. The posts are usually such low effort too. I suggest a ‘no hookup posts’ rule and a minimum post word count of at least 200 words or so. I’m curious what others think? I might be the only one who feels this way, in which case, fair enough. Happy dating!

So I said I would brew on this post for a couple of days, make sure I put all the necessary information here so if you are reading this you will be left in no doubt who I am and if we may be a sound fit. BUT at the same time not everything will be here (I have to entice you to my DMs somehow 😅)

Ok so hello!! I may as well start with a brief description of myself. I am a country lad at heart from Monaghan but I have worked and studied in Dublin for over a decade in Science with both a BSc and more recently a MSc in the field too. I am 30 years old, have auburn hair, blue eyes and I am 181cm with an average build.

In terms of hobbies I love a bit of everything. My biggest passion would be in reading and I am very proud of my bookshelves. Mainly enjoy Fantasy and Mythology but also dabble in Sci Fi, Science, and a few autobiographies. Definitely up for sharing and most importantly receiving book recs because a TBR can never be long enough 😂 on top of reading I am an avid football fan, do a bit of gaming and 3D printing and love to spend other time off out walking and enjoying nature/animals. I have a pet dog who is my ultimate wing woman and I am obsessed with and to show just how nerdy I can be I have 5 hens, each one name after a different greek/roman goddess.

My big project at the moment is looking into building a house. No guarantees if or when it happens but the aim is to find a site a bit out of the city with a small bit of land for a pond/wildlife, a few chickens and my dog and build a passive house style. But lets be real this is Ireland this may be a very unrealistic dream. But if you want to go halves on a mortgage we may be able to consider a second storey 😂

Now what am I looking for here and why am I here? Well in terms of looking I am pretty open to anyone. General rule of thumb would be to look for someone +/-5 yrs of me BUT if you think we might vibe then by all means ignore that and lets see. In terms of looks I don't really have any preferences, everyone has their own type of beauty. I do look for someone curious with a good sense of humour and someone that while not necessarily politically active would tend to find themselves more socialist/left leaning. Things like equality, climate change, vaccines etc all matter a lot to me so if you have any of negative -isms, phobias or conspiracies we simply won't get along. I am too argumentative for that! God do I love a good debate though you have been warned. I will be devil's advocate to almost anything.

But anyway look I wont keep ya reading forever and I am well aware these reads for more like a job application than it should 😅 so please reach out and allow me to be more conversationalist!

Hi there. I found this sub recently and thought I’d give it a go after spending too much time on the godforsaken awful apps.

I’m 31, a teacher with a big love for musicals, baking, and travelling. I love discovering new places, making memories with people I care about, and finding joy in the little things. I’m someone who values kindness deeply, and I try to bring warmth and empathy into the lives of the people around me.

At the end of the day, I’m looking for my person. Someone to explore the world with, build traditions with, and laugh with. Kindness, empathy, honesty, and emotional maturity matter a lot to me, and I’d love to find someone who wants something meaningful and genuine too.

So, like most people here, apps are abysmal so let’s give it a go. Gonna be a bit long, but better to be up front at the start and not waste time. It’s my cake day, so here’s hoping.

Me:

I’m someone who collects hobbies: crocheting, cooking, hiking, board games, making soap, gigs…to name a few. Among my friends I’m the organizer: trips, things to do in town, themed house parties etc. You won’t be bored with me.

Quite a nerd for many things: LotR, physics, languages, history, MTG…to name a few.

I don’t know how to answer where I’m from simply. Foreign wherever I go. I love traveling and exploring around Ireland. Tá mé ag foghlaim Gaeilge anois.

Looking for my person. Not hookups or FWB. Kids probably aren’t for me, so family shouldn’t be too high on your list (unless it’s a bunch of cats). Should be ok for a start I hope :)

You are:

A decent communicator: answer messages, don’t drip feed, be honest.

Confident and intelligent: both are very sexy

Funny: we’re all gonna die, might as well have a laugh before we do

Someone with their shit reasonably together: I’ve got a decent job and my own place. Not asking that you have it all figured out, but looking for someone who’s not just potential.

Left wing: obviously

Not very religious: non practicing or woo woo spiritual stuff is fine, just don’t be dragging me to mass

30-45: bit of wiggle room, sure, if everything else lines up

Over 5’9”: sorry, but I’m tall

Someone who has interests and hobbies: nothing beats a curious mind

If this isn’t you, best of luck out there. If it could be, shoot me a DM and let’s chat a bit. Keep it tame, lads ;)

Hey🤍

I am looking for a man who is gonna be consistent in communication, emotionally mature, and handle LDR.

I prefer someone who doesn't smoke or do drugs. Drinking is fine as long as it's not an addiction.

My age preferences- 22-26(born somewhere between 2000 and 2004)

I like to invest my time in other people and I expect the same back. I don't want a chatgpt conversation where all we do is text back and forth. I like doing activities together depending on what we are limited to. Talking on the phone, facetime, playing a game together. Maybe watching a movie/show. Sending pictures throughout the day of events etc... of course these things come naturally with time and I don't expect this to happen immediately. But it's just something you should keep in mind🤍

I am an avid reader who recently hit a book slump😭

I love love Christopher Nolan movies because they are magical during rewatches. My fav movies of his(Although I love all his movies) are Prestige and TDK trilogy.

I am someone who doesn't have a hobby because I do what I feel like doing so no constant hobby.

I can be a little clingy but not entirely.

I wanna travel around the world with my future partner one day.

I will let you know more about me in the chat.

Not looking for NSFW

DM me with a self-introduction(No "Hey", "How u doin?", etc.), otherwise I won't accept your DM

P.S I want kids

29 year old

Living in Cork. Looking for someone who I can watch movies / play games / have fun with. I’m into film, tv, music, coding, fashion and video games.

Want someone who’s a little nerdy but still cares about how he looks and has a decent job or is doing a decent degree. No smokers or drug users please. Age range 19-26.

Seeking someone to slow down the passing of time with.

I recently found the word for it: Mornden - it’s that self-contained pajama universe two people share on a long weekend morning, letting the world wait while the hours slow to a crawl, even as they know it'll all eventually rush back in come Monday morning.

If we connect I'll tell you the amazing book that quote comes from. Looking for book recommendations too!

When I’m not trying to pause time, I’m usually building and making things. I run my own business - a choice made to have the freedom to shape my environment around my needs. I love the physical process of bringing bespoke designs to life.

What's my buzz, you say?

In my free time I tend to seek out anything that keeps my overactive mind stimulated, whether that's experimenting with sounds on synths, checking out exhibitions, going to gigs. Some that pop to mind - Deftones, Dopplereffekt, Anthony Rother, Mohammad Syfkhan, Richard Dawson, OXN, Bonnie Prince Billy, L.F.T. Jeff Mills, Rachael Lavelle. I’m equally at peace in the silence of a sauna as I am basking in the bass of a bangin soundsystem.

Currently 45, though I’m often told I have the metabolism and curiosity of someone ten years younger. I haven't quite decided if that’s a compliment or a glitch in the matrix. Maybe you can decide? Sure if we share enough morndens maybe time will eventually go backwards, I’ve seen crazier things happen! I value longevity, both in the things I build and how I treat my body. I'm into fitness and diet as tools for clarity, not as an obsession - I think of it as self-soothing after too many years of way too much craic.

What's your buzz?

I’m less interested in finding someone who fits a perfect checklist and more interested in someone who is simply, unapologetically themselves. I don’t expect you to have every answer or to have finished “the work”, I’m a big believer that we are all works in progress, constantly being reshaped by our experiences. I’m after a connection that feels unmasked, the kind where simply doing anything with your partner is fun, regardless of what it is.

I value a partner who is curious enough to look inward and brave enough to grow alongside someone else. We don’t need to share every interest, but I’d love to find a person who values authenticity above all else and wants to figure the rest out together as we go.

So fire me an auld DM there, more than happy to exchange photos as soon as we know we’ve plenty to chat about. I’m living in Dublin but not too fussed about location …

Hi!

I am a 34 years old French man based in Clare for the past 10 years who is looking to meet an (obviously 😂) wonderful woman to hopefully build something long term with.

About me:

I would very much define myself as a nerd, be it in relation to my work (engineering) or my hobbies (music, roleplaying games, boardgames and reading).

Whilst I have long given up all hopes to play for county (and not only because of the accent), I do try to keep fit and go to a reformer pilates class once a week. I also walk quite a lot, so if you like small hikes, it is a good start! Sea swimming over the summer could also be considered.

Finally, as all French people, I am very much into my food and cooking - the stereotypes are true on this one! Whether it is at a coffee/brunch/restaurant date or at home (where I am VERY happy to do the cooking), you will not be starving!

About the person I would like to meet:

I would like to meet someone who has her own passions. Ideally, one or two of these would overlap some of my own, but I also very much believe in the importance of each person having their own activities, so I am definitely not looking for a carbon copy of myself!

I am also looking for someone who has her life together to some extent: a stable job, some friends, etc. I am hopefully looking to build something long term, and I have found it challenging in the past when dating people who were still figuring it out or at a different stage of their lives.

Age and location wise, I would ideally be looking for someone between 30 and 40 years old located anywhere between say Limerick, Galway and Athlone - I do like the idea of a midweek date if we are both free and the above are all within about 1h or so from me, which is sensible enough. However, if you think you are a perfect match to everything in this post besides this and you are only younger or older by one or two years or leaving slightly further away, please do contact me anyway! 😊

And finally the big one - about what I value/what I am looking for in a relationship:

I believe it is really important for a relationship to be built on equality, with both partners feeling valued and supported when they need it. Consistency, both in terms of communication and emotional support, is also key for me to build trust and feelings. As mentioned above, I also think it is good when each partner has their own free time - whether it is to spend with friends and family, or to nurture individual hobbies. A relationship should enrich your life, not define it!

Finally, on the topic of kids (which I know is a big one at our age), I do not have strong feelings either way - I am open to them if I find the right person and we reach this point in the relationship, but I would be equally happy if I reach the same point with someone who does not want them. Finding the right life partner is what matters to me the most at this point!

It also goes without saying from the above that I am not looking for any kind of short term relationship - there is no moral judgement there, I just know it is not for me 😊

So if the above sounds good to you, please send me a message so we can see if there could be more to us! Pictures will be provided on request, I just do not want to put them out publicly here 😅

Hi all!! Already on the dating apps but wanted to try a new approach!
I am looking to date long term!

Putting this out there incase it is a dealbreaker: I do NOT want children. I don’t wish to date other’s with children as my own life goal is a “double income no kids” lifestyle.
If this isn’t something you agree with I totally understand! I wanted to get this out now instead of accidentally leading someone on.

I work full time and live alone in the midlands with my cat. As much as I like to be a homebody and enjoy cosy nights in I also really enjoy going out and doing things!

I’d say I’m pretty easygoing, a bit sarcastic and generally the kind of person who likes to understand where someone is coming from before jumping to conclusions. I’m ambitious in my own life, but I also don’t take everything too seriously. I’ve been told I’m funny too so you won’t need to fake laugh at my jokes (here’s hoping). I’m definitely on the extroverted side but do enjoy quieter moments together too.

I’m drawn to someone who is emotionally mature, grounded, open-minded (not in that way!) and comfortable in who they are! Someone that can actually be a life partner instead of just “boyfriend” or “husband”.

Pop me a message and let’s chat, send selfies and see what the vibes are!
Happy bank holiday :)

Hey all!

27 year old guy here based in Meath.
Ideally looking to find a nice girl to spend my time with in all aspects of life:)

I’m a mechanic/service advisor who is slightly obsessed with working on my cars, but I make sure to leave time for a nature walk or a movie binge.
Big into music and need someone to go see deftones with!:(

Very easy going and understanding, not big on people who are materialistic.

If a night drive to nowhere on a Wednesday night filled with good music and coffee after a crappy day of work is your thing, then let’s get to it!

Happy to send face pics in DMs!:)

Hi all, I’m a 30 year old professional from Dublin. I’ve tried the dating apps but I haven’t been successful so I thought I’d give this a go.

I am looking for a (no) some strings attached relationship. Let me explain. I have a really busy life and I tend to go away quite a bit. It’s not been the best situation for a long term committed relationship. I’m also not a big fan of sleeping around with multiple people hence why I’m open to trying the some strings attached approach. I would ideally like to meet someone I both get on with and find attractive. Someone I can have the chats with, maybe the odd date if schedules align but is open to random “booty” calls if the chemistry is there.

I can be quite shy and truth be told I’m not the most experienced girl out there. So I would also love someone patient and willing to work with me haha We all have needs at the end of the day.

If that’s something you’re open to chatting about, drop me a DM and we can take it from there.