r/I_DONT_LIKE

I never liked him because I could tell he reeked of god complex and I thought his songs were mid, all that aside I keep hearing about him non stop. His songs are always playing on instagram reels and news articles pop up about him.

Then I started actually looking into some of the public statements hes made. I was completely out of the loop because I never had a twitter account.

The man literally defended convicted rapists and p3dos bill cosby and diddy. publicly stating that they should be free and even made a song with diddys son AND put his daughter in the track with him.

I heard about the nazi crap long ago already , thats been covered by the news hundreds of times. But I had no idea he was a misogynistic rapist defender like that. He harassed his own employees and ex wife and no one seemed to talk about it when it happened. Never publicly apologized for any of it. He is just now starting to apologize for the racist statements but none of the other things hes done.

So yeah , after learning all this about him Im sick to my stomach about how many people STILL worship him and mark his words as being true. Its really a reflection of how much people tolerate hate speech and bigotry because the dude is rich and “has good songs”. If you dont agree with the stuff hes saying stop praising him as an artist and giving him more attention. Let him stay in the hole he dug himself into. Rant over

Applied for a job last week. The listing said "competitive salary."

Went through two interviews, a panel with three people, submitted a portfolio, and wrote a cover letter tailored to their "mission-driven" language. All for the reveal.

$42,000.

In a city where a one-bedroom apartment costs $1,800 a month.

That's rent. That's it. That's what $42,000 is. The apartment and nothing else.

How is that competitive. Competitive with what. With other poverty?

I asked the recruiter about the range before applying. She said "competitive, based on experience." I asked for a number. She said they'd discuss at the offer stage.

The offer stage is when you've already spent four hours interviewing and want the job. Not great leverage to walk away.

This is the whole game. "Competitive" is a placeholder for "we won't tell you until you're emotionally invested." They need you to spend time on the application, spend time in interviews, spend time thinking this could be the one. Then reveal the number when backing out feels like failure.

Most job listings don't post salaries at all. They hide the numbers until you're already in.

Meanwhile the LinkedIn posts say "know your worth!" and "don't settle!"

Great. How do I find out what the compensation is before I apply? I don't. That's the design.

Competitive apparently just means someone else accepted it.

It saddens me how even in this day and age we haven't gotten past these stupid gender roles. Some men think it's the man's exclusive job and right to propose. Which is utter BS. Whoever wants to propose their partner they can. If a woman is ready to get married then she can propose to her boyfriend. There's nothing shameful about it for either of them. Getting proposed to doesn't make you any less of a man.

When some men make it seem as a disgrace for a man to get proposed to, it discourages other women who want to propose to their partners, and in turn leads the men, who would like to get proposed, to think less of themselves, that they're not valuable enough to get proposed for marriage.

I think the men who think it's shameful for a man to get proposed are insecure of themselves because they know that no on will ever love them enough to want to marry them.

I was having a discussion with someone the other day about something I actually know a fair amount about, making some pretty solid points with actual evidence and examples, but right when I was getting to the part where my argument was really coming together, they just said "well I guess we'll have to agree to disagree" and completely shut down the conversation.

And I've noticed this happens a lot, where someone will say "let's agree to disagree" but what they really mean is that they don't have a good response to what you just said but don't want to admit it, so they're going to act like we both have equally valid positions and should just move on, even though we don't have equally valid positions because I have evidence and they have opinions, and those aren't the same thing.

It's this weird move where someone can lose an argument but pretend it's a draw by just refusing to continue the conversation, and then somehow I'm supposed to be okay with that because apparently being polite is more important than being right, but no, we're not agreeing to disagree, you're just disagreeing and refusing to explain why or engage with anything I'm saying.

I had a coworker do this during a meeting when I was trying to explain why her approach to a project wouldn't work, and instead of addressing any of my concerns she just said "I think we see this differently, let's agree to disagree and move forward," but we're not moving forward, we're moving forward with her plan that I just explained won't work, which means that when it doesn't work I'm going to be blamed for not stopping it even though I tried.

The whole phrase has become this get out of jail free card for people who don't want to defend their positions or admit they might be wrong, and it works because if you push back after someone says it, you look like you're being difficult or can't let things go or you're not being respectful of different viewpoints, even though having different viewpoints is fine when we're talking about subjective preferences but it's not fine when we're talking about facts and one person is just making stuff up.

And I get that sometimes conversations reach a point where continuing them isn't productive and it's better to just move on, but there's a difference between "this conversation isn't going anywhere" and "I'm losing this argument so I'm going to pretend it's a stalemate," because one is actually about the conversation dynamic while the other is just intellectual cowardice dressed up as politeness.

The worst is when people use it to shut down conversations about things that actually matter, like when you're trying to explain why something is harmful or wrong and they just go "agree to disagree" as if your position that something is harmful and their position that it's fine are both equally reasonable takes that we can respectfully walk away from, but some things aren't matters of opinion, and pretending they are doesn't make you diplomatic, it just makes you wrong.

I'm fine with disagreeing with people and I do it all the time, but can we at least finish the actual discussion before we declare it a tie, and can we stop acting like "let's agree to disagree" is this mature way to handle conflict when really it's just a way to avoid admitting you don't have a good argument?

They're just jealous they're not getting proposed to. There's nothing shameful about being proposed to by a man or anyone. If someone wants to propose to you, that's their right, and it's your job to not feel shame for being pursued.

Idk how anyone can be Catholic after the whole spotlight thing.