r/GirlDinner

We got him checked. The vasectomy reversed itself. Twin boys. Four kids total. I’m exhausted.

girl lunch lol. smoked oysters, crunch master multi grain crackers & zaatar marinated lebneh 😮‍💨 if you like zaatar and lebneh runnnnn to costco now!!!! it’s so good. and now i’m about to head to work. hope you all are having a fabulous friday 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

I have to testify as a witness in court and the courtroom is right by the hospital where my partner died. I barely even remember the event and now my main support is gone and I'll have to basically revisit where he died to attend the court date.

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Deviled eggs, babybell, aged cheddar cheese, cucumbers with sea salt, pickled baby beats, Manzanilla olives, red wine salami and Parmesan & pepper crusted salami.

Not pictured is my lavender love cocktail (lemon, homemade lavender simple syrup and gin)

Ive been struggling with eating full meals for a while and today i pushed myself to eat more than usual. It scared me a little bit at first but my body needed this. Going forward with working up to more than once terrifies me but in the end I wanna do this for myself and the people I love.

Plain bagel with leftover egg whites and kale, amylu chicken sausage and coconut yogurt with raspberries and chocolate coconut girl scout granola.

First of all, my eyes still hurt from sobbing about this all. The stress of today has been immense. I need to word vomit.

I got pulled over for the first time, one street over from my home, for going 50 in a 35. 🤦‍♀️Its an infamous road for speeding; stick straight, gradual hills, right in the bumcrack of two fields. Normally I drive that road like a saint bc a car of teens fatally crashed on it while I was in highschool, but today there was a lot on my mind. I didn't even notice the cop behind me with his lights on for a GOOD while and I panicked and managed to find a spot to stop. I took off my seat belt 🤦‍♀️ and then buckled it back in a panic as he got out of his car. The first thing he points out was my seatbelt, but I got that corrected as just me being a dumb girl. For reference, I live in a small town, and I'm a chubby cheeked white girl with glasses... Then he points out the speed and asks for my license and registration.

I have never ONCE set eyes on my registration card.

My dad put it in my glove box when we got it, and since I bought the car before I got my license, I didn't do a lot of hands on stuff for about a year after that... And then I had never gotten pulled over so I knew it was IN there but... Yeah I couldn't find it. So he ran my license. Took forever.I'm probably secretly a criminal 😭 I found my registration. He came back and handed me a pamflet on speeding and a warning, and I blurted out that I'd never been pulled over before as he walked away.

Girl, he said "I know." 😭

But anyway the second he walks away my eyes start heating up and I'm absolutely BAWLING. I dunno if it was just the release of tension or what. Bc I was dry eyed and sober the entire exchange. But I have a flight tomorrow that I haven't packed for, and today has been a mess of stress worrying about making my list and buying last minute travel supplies. Its also my FIRST time flying alone and third time on a plane EVER.. And I'm flying to meet TWO separate online friends that I've never met before... I'm so stressed.. but now I have swollen af eyes, a headache, a probable(?) mark on my record, and cold steak bc I typed this over eating quickly.

The dinner is steaks I hacked off a rib roast, corn I skidded around in the pan after the steak, and yucky steak sauce I microwaved with crushed garlic, hosin sauce, and lots of sugar. For dessert, the last 3 pieces of the bag I stress ate of watermelon licorice.😭👋

My unemployment finally runs out this month. Disabled and have to work remotely but EVERYONE wants to work remotely. Cherry on top is I didn’t even lose my job for a valid reason— my employer decided they didn’t want me to have my WFH accommodation (hence why even after resigning I still got unemployment; unethical).

I don’t know what I’m going to do. I have bills. :(

I’ve gotten ONE interview in 6 months and my resume is I would say above average. So frustrating.

Pictures: airfried chicken sandwich breast w/ Texas Pete hot sauce, a side of Mayo, and warm sweet tea in a propel bottle bc I love the drinking caps.

Meringues with cookies & cream flavored milk

also 2 litres of apple juice and cheese slices

My best friend knows this guy from high school. They ran into each other again at a food place, exchanged numbers, and have been talking on WhatsApp for 2.5 years. But they’ve never actually met up, and he doesn’t take any initiative. He does say he’s really interested in her and likes her a lot and want to even settle down but just trough text no actions . Am I a bad friend for telling her this really isn’t okay and that she should just let him go, she deserves someone that shows up for here. She is now mad at me and blocked me

Last July I had to get my pancreas, gallbladder, spleen, and part of my small intestine removed or else I would die a slow painful death within 10-15 years. Now my quality of life is still pretty shitty and I have different issues than I did before. Now I will still die painfully, just slower. I can’t eat much without pain or nausea. But I can eat kimchi!!

lentils, olives, dates, and mirror pic (if u have any nice thoughts)

So wo too much detail Ive struggled w ED stuff in the past but I’m eating well and I've gained a lot of weight which I’m mostly cool with, I like my curves and so do my partners, I'm active and pretty healthy. But I went to a doctor after some mild liver soreness and it turns out I have a gallstone, likely to do with medication I take but also fat intake. I *love* cheese, olive oil, and peanut butter in a way that few of you will understand and I’m actually really stressed about cutting back on my comfort foods

On top of that I’m hitting a weight that feels “socially fat” more than just midsize, which could just be in my head but it’s messing with me. I’m seeing it in my face and it's hard to come to terms with. I haven't felt this pit in my stomach looking at myself for a long time. I think losing weight should only be the side effect of healthy habits but having to change my diet on top of that is making it really hard not to fall into bad habits...

The first thing ive been able to eat this week since my boyfriend broke up with me and then admitted that he cheated on me. Ive beein feeling like im about to throw up since but today i got a little break. So heres salad and a banana. Baby steps.

2 years ago I studied abroad in Spain and I was an entirely different person. I was happier, healthier, more confident, and such an avid learner. I loved going to university there, I made some of the best friends of my life that I still have, and I ended up meeting and amazing Scottish guy who became my boyfriend.

I fucked it all up when I came back to NYC :/. I got burnt out again, I felt constantly irritated and annoyed by my family (CPTSD), and I was just exhausted by the cost of living & constantly struggle to compete with people in the job market once I graduated.

I feel so sad. I wish I could go back so badly. I am latina so I can go back with my dual citizenship and get residency in 2 years, but I would need to be on a digital nomad visa or a sponsored work visa which is incredibly hard considering the country has a 10% unemployment rate right now. I do speak spanish, but I don’t work in tech and I have a degree in communications.. I work in marketing for 2 universities and i’m a research assistant working in higher ed policy.

I thought I wanted to do education policy for long because I have so much experience in it and grew up low-income so it was an important aspect of my life. But overtime, I think I realized I don’t care about research and I romanticized the job more than anything. My jobs are super simple and honestly it feels like I do nothing all day but make a few canva posts and talk shit with coworkers. Yeah the pay is good I mean i’m saving up but I lost myself here .

I stopped being creative, I turned meaner, I stoped going out, I shelled in. I lost my boyfriend because he says i’m not the same person he met anymore since my trauma reactivated due to my family’s mental health problems and the toxicity their dynamic would spread, I feel so incredibly upset about this.

I wish I had been better and he could’ve stayed with me, I could’ve gotten my grad degree in Scotland and have moved in with him. He did lie with his parents though since hes20 and 22, and he has no highschool or college degree, he lives life by his own terms and just enjoys going to the gym hanging with friends and playing sports. He wants to be a coach, but they don’t make a lot or enough to sponsor visas so I just felt lost and confused being with him like I didn’t know what I was waiting for because he wouldn’t make an effort to look into helping me move or consider backup options for his future since he was laid back.

I still regret it and wish I could’ve waited. I will have 15K saved up by the time I want to enter university in 2027 but Idk wtf i’m doing. It feels really unrealistic. It feels like my best shot was being with my ex and relying on him at least for housing while I figured out the rest but I was so afraid of depending on a man like my mom did even though he was a really good boyfriend that I pushed him away stupidly.

I feel like an idiot. Like my life is over. I feel so depressed here that I honestly think it will kill me soon if I don’t get out but I can’t really do much is what I feel. I don’t have a financial safety net and i’m afraid of messing my life up as a first gen latina. Idk what to do. Idk if I give up on this dream and just conform to capitalism and New York. I genuinely don’t know where else to go because I have no family anywhere else really and no one to rely on because my moms retiring in ecuador and my dads actually homeless right now.

I don’t know what to do :(

Spent the evening working on my master’s thesis and feeling proud of myself. Here’s my celebratory girl dinner: a cheap microwave ”pizza”, sweet peppers and hummus.

Apologies for the lighting, roommate was getting her beauty sleep. And my samples of Streptococcus agalacite and Proteus mirabilis made good study buddies anyway.

Ayam Brand tuna flakes in extra virgin olive oil + Chinese lettuce + lemon slice

It’s affordable, I don’t have to cook anything, and it tastes good. what else can I ask for in this economy