r/CovertNarcAssistance

Official Statement Regarding Authorship and Biography Clarification

Name: Hunter Tylo

Date: April 28, 2026

Statement

Hunter Tylo formally states that no authorization, endorsement, or agreement was ever granted to Noel Joshua Hadley to author, publish, or represent any autobiographical work on her behalf.

Any representation suggesting otherwise is incorrect and is hereby disavowed.

Hunter Tylo has no current affiliation with the project known as Unexpected Cosmology. Any prior perceived association has been discontinued as a personal decision based on creative and stylistic differences.

This clarification is issued to ensure accuracy in public references and to prevent further misunderstanding regarding authorship and endorsement.

Official Quote

“I did not authorize or endorse any autobiographical work attributed to Noel Joshua Hadley. Any such implication is incorrect. My decision to discontinue any perceived association was based solely on differences in creative direction and writing style.”

— Hunter Tylo

I was curious as a survivor of abuse from a covert narcissist myself as to whether or not anyone else thinks that the only way for those that enabled and were blind to this abuse, regardless of how subtle it was, will only ever learn the mistake they made with past victims the hard way from being betrayed themselves by the covert narc they've enabled for potentially years?

Are they potentially in for a rude awakening if it means facing how easily their perceptions were hijacked and warped by the covert narc they trusted so much without realizing this happened or that in that covert narc's sphere of influence they lost their critical thinking, judgement, and autonomy without realizing it?

It’s been about 2 months since I’ve left covert narcissist! Throughout my experience with them for 3 and a half years I developed high cortisol and infact dysautonomia! Anyway. I’m still numb and haven’t felt much emotion but Oh my the cortisol hasn’t seem to have improved! I have abit of insulin resistance (rashes in inner thigh area are starting to go) yay but I am putting on weight again and the acne is insane!!!! I never got acne during relationship… actually always had really clear skin? I’m just wondering am I ever going to loose this weight!!! Is it because I’m still in flight or flight mode? I also have insomnia that’s only just started and joint pain!!
But randomly I’ve had the best days of NO issues I feel light as ever and I’m actually quite thin lol!!!!!
Just wanting reassurance this is normal process and that I won’t have these issues forever 🫠🫠🫠

Chronic fatigue, joint pain, weight gain, skin issues are all normal before feeling normal? I am naturally a small petite person and I really don’t feel great with this added on weight and makes me feel worse and yucky. Oh wait I also have pimples in my hair!!! Wtf!

Any reassurance and advice is great!! Sorry if this seems ridiculous I just feel like sometimes I need ti know if this is normal so I can just have more compassion for myself then caring how I look.

I’m starting to believe my mother genuinely resents me, and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this kind of narcissistic/scapegoat family dynamic.

I grew up with a single mother and four brothers. I was the only girl, and from as far back as I can remember, I was treated differently. My brothers were never treated the way I was. I was constantly criticised, emotionally put down, humiliated, and made to feel like I was the “bad child” of the family.

As a teenager I rebelled a bit, but looking back now, I honestly think it was a reaction to constantly feeling unwanted and emotionally attacked. No matter what I did, I was somehow always the problem.

My father left when I was young, and growing up we were all taught to see him as this terrible man who abandoned us. But now that I’m older and the same age she was when he left, I honestly see things differently. I think her behaviour probably drove him away. He avoided family functions if she was there, and every relationship she’s had since has also failed badly.

Despite all of this, I actually did well for myself. I went to university, got my degree, became financially stable, independent, and built a good life for myself.

But instead of being proud of me, it feels like she became even more hostile once I started succeeding.

The more confident, stable, educated, or financially secure I became, the more resentment I seemed to receive from her. It’s almost like she preferred me when I was struggling because it fit the negative image she had painted of me to other people.

She constantly speaks down to me, belittles me in front of people, and tries to subtly paint me in a bad light socially. At family events and even funerals, she’ll talk to me with disrespect in front of others while acting completely differently around everyone else. I’ve learned not to react publicly, but it honestly feels deliberate, like she wants to humble me in front of people.

What hurts the most is realising that I protected her image for years out of loyalty and shame, but she would never do the same for me.

I stayed quiet about family issues because I didn’t want to embarrass my mother publicly. Meanwhile, she seems perfectly willing to throw me under the bus if it helps her gain sympathy, approval, or control from others.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that she seems deeply threatened by people she sees as more successful, respected, attractive, or emotionally stable than her — especially women. If she falls out with somebody, she expects everyone else to stop speaking to them too. You’re not allowed independent relationships outside of her control.

I remember one time one of her friends asked me for my number because we got along well, and my mother immediately shut it down saying, “That’s MY friend, you can’t be friends with her.” Yet at the same time, she craves validation from younger people and loves admiration from them.

She also seems very competitive. I once told her about a business idea I had, and she secretly tried to start the exact same type of business behind my back. It failed, but it shocked me because it didn’t feel like normal mother/daughter behaviour — it felt like competition.

Over the years she’s also turned most of my siblings against me and painted me as the difficult one. Ironically, the sibling she treats like the “golden child” has actually been in prison before, yet she never publicly humiliates him the way she humiliates me. Meanwhile I’m the child who got a degree, became independent, and built something positive for myself — but somehow I’m treated like the family problem.

And what she doesn’t seem to understand is that outside of this toxic family dynamic, I’m actually very well received by people. Extended family members, especially on my father’s side, treat me well and can clearly see who I am as a person. The problem for her is that she cannot control those relationships or manipulate the narrative there because my father’s family do not like or trust her.

I also think my younger brother benefits from the dynamic in some ways because my mother has always spoken highly of him while constantly speaking down on me. That creates this narrative where he gets to feel superior to me despite the reality being very different. He’s been in prison and hasn’t really built much for himself, yet because she positioned him as the “good child” and me as the “problem,” he seems comfortable with that imbalance and doesn’t challenge it.

One thing that really opened my eyes was when she tried to emotionally replace me with one of my auntie’s daughters after our relationship became strained. She invited her to live with her and treated her almost like the daughter she wished she had instead.

But eventually that relationship completely broke down too. There were huge arguments, physical altercations, and the whole thing ended badly. Unlike me, who always stayed quiet to protect my mother’s image, my cousin told everybody how toxic and difficult she was to live with before leaving.

That situation really made me realise maybe I was never the sole issue she made me out to be.

The older I get, the more I notice a pattern: partners leave, friendships collapse, family relationships become toxic, and eventually everyone else becomes “the problem.” She always paints herself as the victim while destroying relationships around her.

I honestly think she resents the fact that I became the kind of woman she wanted to be herself — educated, financially stable, respected, well put together, independent — and instead of being proud of me, she competes with me.

Has anyone else experienced this kind of mother/daughter dynamic where your mother seemed jealous, controlling, emotionally competitive, or resentful of your independence and success? And psychologically, what actually causes this kind of behaviour?