r/CommunalShowers

My work buddy was talking about taking his wife to a spa and I suggested a KSpa. He was keen at first, but then wigged by the gendered spaces and nudity. I told him I went over the weekend and described how it worked. Over the course of the day, he was curious and kept asking if it was worth it. He said he’s never really used a sauna. Don’t think it’s a good idea for the 3 of us to go, but might be able to convince him to check out the KSpa after work for some male bonding knowing full well what it entails. He said “so it’s basically like basic training again” (ex military).

Anyone have a similar experience about convincing a buddy to go along to the KSpa?

Heading to Seoul Zimzilbang, Toronto tomorrow for some spa time and maybe get a scrub! Would love to know if anyone’s interested in joining. 40M.

I finally started going back to the gym. New rules, of course. People must wear a towel or clothes when using the sauna and steam room. No mention of rinsing off or showering first. SMH!

I went to a Korean spa with my wife the other day. We started in the gender separate areas, spent some time together in the co-ed areas, and finished with one more time in the gender separate areas. It was a typical K-spa layout with a wet and dry saunas, multiple warm pools, a cold pool, and open showers lining every wall. We were there for about 4 hours amd the wet areas at all times had about 6 to 10 guys there.

My question is regarding about etiquette in terms of timing. How often do you move from one sauna or pool to the next? I personally try to spend 10-15 minutes in a sauna or pool before rotating to the next (showering and grabbing water in between).

What stood out to me, there was a middle-aged man rotating from the saunas/pools constantly. He would occasionally shower after the sauna, but I noticed he would spend, at most, a minute in one before getting out and on to the next. He did this for the entire time I was there at the beginning and he was still there doing the same thing at the end of my visit.

Where it got my attention, and got on my nerves a bit, was when I was in the steam room. I was in there for my usual 10-15. He had entered and left twice in the time I was in there. Did not stay for more than a minute each time. He would let slow-closing door close on its own, thus making it hard for the steam to build up. At one point he got my attention when he was in the same warm pool as me, and was lightly splashing the water.

Nobody was talkative at this place and I tried my best to ignore him. Everyone else was ignoring him too. I've always believed it is not my place to police other people's behavior in the locker room or spa, and to leave that for the employees. I mentioned it to the 20-something girl at the front desk upon leaving, as I never saw an attendant/employee in the men's area. She just acknowledged it amd I doubt she could do anything.

Is this bad etiquette for the K-spa or is there a benefit/reason for rapidly hoping around like this guy did?

Never had been before, finally got curious enough to try. I’ll state the obvious take away from my experience - as a straight male, I have never seen so many penises before in my entire life 😂

It was honestly like an enlightening experience. The huge variety and differences between them was crazy, but I was also struck by more or less how similar most guys look downstairs. Penis size and penis comparison is such a huge weird part of the male psyche, yet for the most part when guys drop their pants we all kinda just have cocks flopping out. It’s just part of being a guy.

Obviously there were some outliers on both sides of the spectrum, some tiny and some huge, and that was fun to notice and caught my attention, but it just feels like most guys would be positively impacted by having an experience like I did today. Now I just have to figure out how to pitch going with me to some of my other straight male friends that doesn’t start with “you’ll get to see so many penises!” 😂

I’m a straight guy who goes to Korean spas/saunas (male-only, mostly nude). Recently there was a trans person in the space, which caught me off guard, and some others pointed it out after.

I’m not trying to be disrespectful—I’m just unsure how to think about situations like this. How do people view inclusion vs. comfort/privacy in these kinds of environments of them entering our space?

Genuinely asking to understand different perspectives.

How many bros truly had the experience of being naked with your father, or other male role models, when you were younger? How did that contribute to your sense of belonging and masculinity?

Just going on a trip soon and may have the chance to use a hot tub completely nude with 2 other friends which would be nice. That's all haha

I had the full late morning and early afternoon to do as I pleased. I finally decided to use this free time to visit a k spa. It was wonderful! If you’re ever on the fence just do it! It’ll do wonders for your confidence. Stripping completely off and being nude in front of others while holding a conversation is such a rare occurrence but when it happens, it is awesome. I see you naked, you see me naked, and everything still goes on as normal. No reason for it to be awkward. So what if a guy knows what my penis looks like? He knows what my face, chest, stomach, legs, ears, nose, etc look like.

I spent 4 hours here. Spending equal time in the nude wet area, the coed area that requires a uniform and some time in the pools upstairs. There was a large crowd in the coed sections. In the nude area, there was at least another 4-6 guys at any given time there. Had some good conversations and even discussed how good it felt to relax in the nude. Even though I’m not in shape or have a big penis, I felt comfortable with the situation especially everyone being friendly. 10/10 experience and will definitely go back to try again!

The dry sauna is a round room with a heater in the middle. There was a couple guys in there. All of us facing each other and nobody trying to cover up. You only get small orange towels that you use to sit. The pools were nice. Two fit 1-2 guys and one fits 3-4 comfortably. Both sit down and lots of stand up showers with good water pressure. By the end of my visit I almost forgot I was walking around completely naked! Funny how that happens.

If you’re on the fence on trying social nudity, I highly recommend a Korean spa!

So somehow the sauna was full and someone mentioned being naked in the sauna (we were all wearing undies) and we all agreed that we’d rather be naked, but since we never see anybody else doing it so, our inner prudish selves don’t allow us to do it so. So another guy there suggested we should just get naked then. Right there. And it happened! We got rid of our boxers and the whole scenario changed. It was a nice and pleasant surprise. And I agree, if you want the rest to be freely, you gotta make the first step.

What do you genuinely enjoy about using communal showers? What is it that you actually find interesting about them? Do you see it as a sense of belonging? Do you consider yourself a nudist, an exhibitionist, or a voyeur—or what do you think draws you to it? Personally, I enjoy all kinds of nudist activities, and if I can use them for hygiene, it complements the experience perfectly.

i have a big softie and it kinda makes me nervous that people are gonna see it

No necessarily a shower experience but in the same vein. Went to a YMCA in a different part of town today and decided to use the sauna after my workout. Was pleasantly surprised to find 5 guys completely nude just relaxing and talking. I sat down nude as well and enjoyed the conversation that the 6 of us had.

Awesome change from the usual guys sitting in gym shorts or sweaty boxer briefs often in tennis shoes. Think I found my new favorite gym

I’m curious about other, somewhat CS adjacent experiences people in this community enjoy. Obviously people in this sub have less inherent hang ups being nude around others than the average person, so I’m sure there’s a decent amount of nudists in here?

For me, I love communal showers of course. But I also love getting massages partly due to the nudity aspect. It’s really nice to be nude and be worked on by a skilled professional. I get draped massages at a nice spa with an awesome therapist, and also love getting fully nude body scrubs at my local Kspa. Even for a normal draped, professional massage I still enjoy the aspect of being nude and having someone appreciate and work on your body.

I’ve been to nude hot springs a few times, and those are a blast! Never been to a nude beach though.

And of course as I mentioned I love my local Kspa. That’s where I get the majority of my nude communal showering in, but of course you also get nude sauna-ing and just nude everything!

Any other communal nudity adjacent experiences people enjoy?

Feel free to reach out directly if anyone wants to talk about them

I’ve never been to a kspa before and want to try one. I would like to go directly from airport before going to my hotel. What kspa is most convenient to DCA and is there a place at any of the spas to securely store a carry on suitcase?

This is a large and heavily used facility with multiple pools indoors and out. Non-residents pay a fee to use.

The main (indoor) locker room has two bays of CS one of which also includes a row of stall conversions. Because a lot of swim teams and younger folks go here the stalls see a lot of use. That said, you do also see guys in the CS, sometimes in suits and sometimes nude. Not much of a social locker room from what I’ve been able to tell. Feels kind of cold and isolating.

There are also CS in the outdoor pavilions, but I’ve never seen those used and strongly suspect they’re mainly for rinsing. I think it would come off as odd to strip down and shower there.

🍆 🍆 and a half out of 5.

Does it have a mens only sauna, steam room or hot tub? Clothing optional?