r/CasualIreland

I am 33 and in a relationship. I own a house, and we are looking to buy together, and then do the usual - kids, marriage etc.

However I cannot escape the feeling that I am taking the same path as most others just because it is the path of least resistance.

I am in a job/ career that I absolutely hate, but it pays well and would be seen as one with a certain amount of prestige (not that I care about that at all). My concern is that as I go further down the path of expensive mortgage, kids, wedding, I will have to remain in my career just to keep my head above water.

I endlessly daydream about another way. I luckily bought a house and few years ago which has cheap mortgage repayments. I also have a side gig/hobby that pays relatively well, depending on the hours I put into it. I have always wanted to live/work abroad but it never happened, although I have spent any expendable income on travel as it is my one true passion.

I also hate the six month plus winters we have in Ireland, and it depresses me to think I have to work my ass off for 30 more years just to afford to live in this dull, expensive country. It honestly feels like a life sentence.

My partner lived abroad for her 20s and so she has no interest in moving abroad, or doing anything except having the kids and buying the nice house. I love her to bits, but I feel like I’m just going to be permanently sad if I have to remain in Ireland, living just to work so I can afford the things we are told we want in life.

My worry is that I potentially have to incinerate the nice settled life before me in order to be truly happy, and the fear of that is leading me to just do what others do so at least it looks like I’m a normal person.

I have reached out to my GP regarding depression several times, but I genuinely don’t think I’m depressed, just under stimulated and scared of a life that won’t fulfil me.

Can anyone empathise or offer any insight if they felt the same?

A post about the peculiarites of grocery stores in different countries caught my eye because I love browsing supermarkets when I am holidays to see the subtle and not so subtle diffrerences in what products are on offer and which get prominence. It got me wondering about Irish Supermarkets. What unique peculiarites would immediately let you know you were in Ireland as opposed to another country?

Original post on r/casualconversation that got me thinking: https://www.reddit.com/r/CasualConversation/comments/1srj9kv/grocery_stores_in_different_countries_are/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Listening to a podcast yesterday about Sarah Payne in UK gone missing almost 20 years ago. Made me wonder how many kids go missing only to be found a short while later but in those intervening moments, you live a complete horror show. Happened me with ours a few years ago and I wasn't the better of it for days. They had just gone down a different path during a country walk but I was certain they had been abducted and were being ferried across the border , Guards were called and all ! 5 mins later ,it was a call back to say dont worry they've appeared !

Hey everyone, I have the great task of organising a stag in the beautiful city of Dublin in August. After doing some research I’m struggling to find some out of the ordinary events for the stag party eg go karting, pub crawls, Guinness factory etc….

I would love to find some funny, weird ish events that will make the stag more memorable memorable.

Would appreciate anyone’s recommendations!

In my area there is a bunch of dickheads who like to call my family by the wrong name.
They imply we are soup drinkers.

I don't want to dox myself but lets say my name is O'Brien.
They call us Brien.

In the 1901 and 1911 the name is O'Brien but in the 1926 the O is dropped and the Brien part is spelt incorrectly.

The hand writing is also different.

Can anyone shed some light on this? it will add fuel to the dickheads and yes they have been calling us the wrong name for 100 years, my grandfather use to complain about it.

They're a top tier sandwich crisp and I just realised more and more shops aren't stocking them anymore. Supervalu seem to do neither the big or little bags, just the multipacks.

My gut says they're being replaced by the new street food flavour ones but I hope not because they're shite.

I like normal (barrys or lyons) tea but if I drink it to late it affects my sleep.

I tried lidl decaf tea bags and it tastes horrible.

Does anyone know of any decaf tea bags that are very close to original tea?

As someone who commutes daily on the M4, I have reached breaking point with Junction 8, specifically heading Westbound in the evening.

My breaking point is trying to understand just why exactly is it that seemingly every person taking this junction drives like their trying to qualify for the F1, with your aggressive undertaking, tailgating, brake slamming and general car-fuckery.

Firstly, given the absolute insane road rage that seems to occur just prior to this Junction, I don't understand why we haven't produced a collective bollock-load of extremely successful rally drivers. You're (Kilcockers) all in the wrong business and need to get yourself down to Ecclestone's office asap as you're clearly in the wrong career.

After much deep reflection I believe it's one of 3 reasons:

1. Is it that you have a whole bunch of people who suddenly remember there is a toll up ahead and get extremely pissed at the concept (which I can get on board with) of being charged to sit in traffic and are toll-skipping?

2. Is it that Kilcock is just that bloody awful that you're all extremely fucked off to be getting there and are trying to get killed in a car accident as a happy accident?

3. is it some collective plot against me. I've never actually been in Kilcock (when I told the Insurer I'd like to drive through there they threatened to triple my insurance), do you just have pictures of my face and my car with target symbols? Do you get together after you've all successfully caused me to vacate my bowels...again.... And then have a jolly good laugh out of it? Certainly the bloke who keeps having to dry clean my skiddes because of your skiddies is doing very well financially, maybe you all work for him.

Anyway, I hate you all but wish to understand you better in the hope of giving you some collective counselling to get you all to calm the fuck down. My dream is that we can one day be friends.

I write this on behalf of every single person who lives west-side of Kilcock (apart from option 3, maybe that's just me).

I'm an EU Citizen living in Ireland but not Irish.

I am going on a trip to the UK.

I am flying from Dublin, and I have an Irish Driving License.

Based on this, I know I am allowed to travel to the UK without an ETA.

However, airlines always make their own policies that aren't necessary inline with the legislation.

My question is: has anyone travelled in this situation and did you get an ETA or not?

I've an issue with a few recipes now where my scones stay depressingly flat. Anyone have a go to recipe that makes big scones ?

Like you think someone is hailing your bus so you slow down only to realise they're hailing the bus behind you

I've been looking at the census of my family and can't find 3of the girls. I know some of the sisters joined the nuns but how young could they join?

If they were in the nuns would they be listed or would they have changed their names.

They were 15 18 and 20 so would they have been too young to have been sent abroad to the nuns? As I know one when to America and another south Africa but no idea when, only know the American one left the nuns and retired to a seaside village with her American best friend called Annie!

I ask because I’m a very happy drunk. Love my few bevies, and the company of my lifelong (20+ years) friends

But every now and again (3 times in 20 years) I go off reservation and round up on everyone and everything. I’m a headcase. Is this beyond the pale ?

Stuff like putting up wallpaper, using tools, basic car care (like changing a tyre), etc.

I never really learned growing up, so trying to get a handle on it now.

Any good YouTube channels or resources you’d recommend?

For those who don't have a coffee machine. Even good non-instant options