r/Blackpeople

Uhm...Mods why are you letting in anti black white racists in this sub?

You guys aren't doing your jobs at all

I thought this is supposed to be a safe space

Make me moderator, I'll purify this sub

I want to ask a question.

As black men and women I believe we should establish our own customs that don’t have to be aligned with white ideas of love, purpose, growth, etc.

People like to argue about black fathers not being present in the home or whatever. But what if a black man simply doesn’t want to be in a long-term relationship and prefers to co-parent as opposed to being in a NUCLEAR FAMILY. Is that something that would be acceptable?

What if co-parenting is OUR cultural norm? Is that really a lose-lose situation? And also I hate to say it but I don’t think black men like commitment as much as women do

maybe it’s time to change the way we think about communicating and LOVE.

How much of what is the “norm” has been influenced by white ideas, westernized equations that we don’t fit into.

*and also fyi, I’m not trying to make a generalized statement here. But it’s just majority of the black men I know have kids but ARE NOT married.

Katherine allowed abuse. Joe abused them all, especially Michael. And only black people will argue passionately that "if it weren't for" -- FOOL Michael never had a childhood. Never. Fuck greatness. Fuck talent.

Gain the world but lose your soul....

No respect for them at all! Nobody's perfect but why are we always saving space for obvious bullshit people when proof has been delivered? RKelly, Diddy, etc.

And then the whole family is benefiting off of Michael.... still forcing him to sing and dance all from the grave through memory in the form of his own nephew.

Bitchass parents! Janet the only one with a fuckin brain & soul for not being this cash trap movie.

Man I grew up extremely pro Black and pro American. Family served most generations before me. Was taught to defend myself in all things add a lot of church and Thts my upbringing. We were more Malcolm than MLK.Raised on Spike Lee movies. Shit Hurricane was my favorite movie as a kid. But nowadays ppl see me being pro Black American as loving yt ppl and self hate 🤣 it would be hilarious if it wasn’t so stupid. Shit I was racist towards yt ppl until I was like 24. I got love for all ppl now but through my life experiences it’s Black Americans tht get my love 1st. My family has lived in TN since before it was a state and other roots in AL. Also granny always told us we were Indian (not gonna debate with strangers on what my grandmother told me so 🖕🏿)My mom always told me u not African American Thts 2 continents and you’ve never been to Africa. I’m American and we’ve always fought for our rights here on the soil our family bleed for. Shit my great aunt just passed last week and she protested with sit ins and was beaten for it. My blood is vested in this land we not going nowhere and me and mines gonna fight till we’re back in the soil.

Side note: Tried to post in blackmen sub but I don’t have the karma. Don’t kno how the fuck i even get it the link for info takes u to a nonexistent page. If someone knows plz fill me in on the secret.

I’m black, these two coworkers (Asian) have been friendly to my face and we got along well enough to go on a night out together.

They were rooting for me and trying to set me up with someone because I’m single which I found cute and when I pointed at my type (I have many types but one of my favorites is tall black dark skinned men with shoulder length locks) one of them told me that she finds black men scary and the other one agreed.

There was no proper explanation when I asked why are black men scary to them.

I couldn’t believe that I had to explain that everyone is different and black men come with all sorts of different personalities such as everyone else. It was just the 3 of us so I was the minority in this argument. I was left so frustrated with this conversation and they weren’t open to change their minds about this.

This is a deal breaker when it comes to friendships but the thing is we work together so I still have to try and act normal while in my head I’m side eyeing them both.

During the same night out they did listen to my type and pointed at every single guy that fit the description but out of a small bunch there was only one that I found attractive. They pointed at the same guy that I wasn’t interested in about five times.
Mind you, they weren’t drunk and only had two drinks but kept forgetting what he looked like and pointed back at him again, it was almost comical but I was annoyed.

How would you address this situation and what would you do?

Do you consider this as racist, ignorant, cultural differences or am I tripping for being so mad? I’m the only black person in my workplace and probably the only one they’ve ever hung out with.