I want to ask a question.
As black men and women I believe we should establish our own customs that don’t have to be aligned with white ideas of love, purpose, growth, etc.
People like to argue about black fathers not being present in the home or whatever. But what if a black man simply doesn’t want to be in a long-term relationship and prefers to co-parent as opposed to being in a NUCLEAR FAMILY. Is that something that would be acceptable?
What if co-parenting is OUR cultural norm? Is that really a lose-lose situation? And also I hate to say it but I don’t think black men like commitment as much as women do
maybe it’s time to change the way we think about communicating and LOVE.
How much of what is the “norm” has been influenced by white ideas, westernized equations that we don’t fit into.
*and also fyi, I’m not trying to make a generalized statement here. But it’s just majority of the black men I know have kids but ARE NOT married.